"[Voices Chattering, Faint]" "[Chattering Continues]" "[Elderly Woman] It was a joke!" "[Chattering Continues]" "[Woman] And now she's crying." "Why is she crying?" "Why are you crying?" "[Women Laughing]" "[Nurse] What can you say to Miss Ida?" "Max, I saved you a chair." "She saved you a chair." "Okay?" " I saved it." " I'll get you a juice." "That's good." "Well, let him sit down first." " Here, Mr. Max." " Let him sit down first." "Take your time." "Take your time." " Not yet, not yet." " No, no." "It's okay." " Okay." " Okay, all right." " Hi, sweetheart." " [Max Laughing]" "Come on!" "Come on!" "[Woman] Mazel tov!" "[Chattering]" "[Woman] How does it feel to be 89?" "[Claire] I didn't hear you." " You are 89 today." " How do you feel to be 89 today?" "[Claire] I don't care about that." "Do you still love me, Max?" "He still loves me." "[Yiddish]" "[Women Laughing]" "[Singing]" " Bubs, look what we have for you." " Look what we have for you." "Look at what we have for you!" "Oh, my goodness!" " Got to make a wish!" " [Singing Continues]" "Oh, you're sweet." "[Cheering, Chattering]" "[Singing Continues]" "[Woman] Wanna share with everybody?" "[Max Continues Singing]" "I don't know what I would do without that guy." " You're crazy about Max." " Who, Max?" " Max." " Oh, he belongs to me." " I know." " Sure." " I think everybody knows it too." " [Claire Laughs]" "Don't make it so public!" " Don't make it so what?" " Public." "[Laughing]" "[Vocalizing Together]" "[Claire] My daughter is a wonderful hostess, isn't she?" "[Man] Here you go, Max, you and your girl." " We're taking a picture together." " Better marry her before she gets too old." "[Woman] How 'bout a kiss?" "How 'bout a little kiss?" " Put your head over to mine, Max." " A little kiss." " Yeah, put it over to mine." " Ay-yi-yi-yi-yi." " Well, put it over!" " Put it over." " Bring it over, Max!" " Bring it over!" " [All Laughing]" " Okay, Bub, happy birthday." "Thank you, sweetheart." "Max, see you." "Ida, bye." "You have a good day." "Enjoy the rest of your birthday." "Save some cake." "You can share with everybody." "Happy birthday." "[Kisses]" "Thank you, Sherry." "You're all so wonderful." "I want to thank you for being so nice to me on this happy day." "[Man Kisses]" "All right, darling, come here." " Come here." " What?" " I want to give you a big hug." " You always like to give me hugs." "Thank you." " All right?" " [Max Singing]" " Okay." " Okay, keep smiling." " Yeah, I'm crying." " I know." "Sometimes you cry when I leave." "But you know what?" "You don't need to cry, because I come back." " [Laughing]" " Right?" " Right." " All righty." "See you guys." "Enjoy." "Be well." " Will you come to see me again?" " Absolutely!" "Absolutely!" "They've got some stuff going on with you here, so I'm gonna make sure I come even more." "Yeah, come in, have a little fun." "You don't need me." "Look, you got him." "He's more fun." " He's always singing and whatnot." "Him?" " [Singing Continues]" " It wouldn't be the same without him." " That's good." "You're lucky to have each other." "Okay, we're on our way." "I have to go work." " Bye, Bubs." "Bye, everybody." " Bye-bye." "Bye-bye, Sherry." " And kiss the baby for me." " [Man] Done." "That's not a problem." "So, how is it going, birthday girl?" "Oh, it's going sw" " Pretty sw - good." " Good, good, good." " [Phone Ringing]" "And then" " But the worst part is when they go home." " [Phone Ringing]" " I know." " That's the worst." " Excuse me." "I'm so sorry." " [Max] Hey." " What is this?" "[Claire] I don't know what it is." " I think" " I think it's cake of some kind." " [Max Humming]" "[Ida] Cake?" "[Woman] Don't tell her where I'm talking from anymore." " [Nurse] Yeah, okay." " [Woman] When I'm mad at her." " [Woman Muttering] - [Nurse] I'm just gonna wipe it out." "[Woman] You're too quiet." "I'll never go home." "Go home." "Go home." " Okay, this one's... this one's better." " Put that away!" " I can't touch it!" " Come on, dear." " This one's better." " I can't touch it." " This one's better." " Tell her" " No!" "Give it to me!" " Yeah, yeah, okay." " I want to show you." "This is wet." " No, no, it's not wet." " And that's not for you." " What's bleeding, love?" " She told" " She told me " " Cover that." "That's another one." " Go home!" "Go home, please!" " Please, go home." " Okay." "Okay." " Leave me alone!" " Come on, dear." " I am just going to clean it." "Clean, clean." " I have to go!" "What do you want from me?" " Look, Helen " " Go away from me!" " Helen, Helen." "Helen!" " Will you go away!" "Get away!" "I don't want you here!" " I don't want anybody here." " Helen." "Helen " "Get away from me!" "Leave me alone!" "I'll kill you!" "Get away!" " [Helen Shrieks]" " What's the problem?" " Her leg - - [Helen] I'll take a new one!" "No, no, that's okay, mother." "That's okay" " Oh, my gosh!" " Okay, hold her arms." " See the arms." "See the hands." " What are you " " I haven't got my" " Helen, what are you doing?" " [Helen Shrieks]" " Helen." " Come here!" "I'll " " Be nice girl." "Be nice." " Get away!" " Helen, wait!" " Helen, stop it!" " Oh!" "Oh, Jesus!" " Helen." "Helen." " What do you want?" " Okay, listen, sweetheart." " [Helen Shrieks]" " Hold that hand." "You cut my hand!" " Thank God." " Now it's clean, Helen." "Now it's clean." " Do you like it?" " [Calmly] Yeah." " Oh, thank you." " Yeah, okay." " Thank God." " Thank you." " Oh, my goodness." " [Helen Mutters]" " We love you, Helen." " I love you." " Now you love us." " Not me." "Not me." " I love you too." " [Nurse Laughing]" " What are you talking?" " I put it out for you." "I don't want this here." "I don't want this here." "Take her home." "Take her home." "And give this to her." "I don't want it." " That's it." " Bye, Helen." "[Helen Sighs, Babbling]" " [Woman Sobbing]" " Oh, no." " This is horrible." " [Sobbing Continues]" "[Woman] You're feeling sad." "You're feeling sad." " [Sobbing Continues]" " What's..." "What's on your mind today... that's making you feel sad?" " Yeah." " [Sobbing Continues]" " Do you feel like talking?" " Huh?" "Do you feel like telling me what the problem is?" " With me?" " Yeah." "Nothing's wrong." "I'm lonesome." "Terrible." "I miss my family." "Why don't they come and see me?" "Eh?" "My son." "Where is he?" "You miss them when they don't come to see you." " Huh?" " You miss them when they don't come to see you." "Yes." "It bothers me." "I got " "Wish my son would come." "You know?" "My daughter is in Florida." "She can't help it." "But where is he?" "Lionel." "Oh, I could kill him." "Oh, I know you don't like to see me cry." "Do you?" " That's right." " I know you don't like it, but " "[Groans]" "I have to phone him up" " Lionel." "Tell him to come and see me." "Did you press the number "9" first?" " No." " You have to press "9" first." " Oh, do I?" " Try it again." "Press "9." Press "9."" "Oh." "Oh, I " "Now press your number." " Oh, I see." " All right?" " [Dial Pad Beeping] - [Murmuring]" "Hi, Lionel." "Hi." "It's Mom speaking." "I would like you to come and see me." "I am very upset." "Come over." "If you turn the spoon the other way, you'll get more on it." " What is it?" " I'll show you how." "Can I do it for you?" " No, don't." " Okay." "I won't do it." "Look at me." "I'm looking, I'm looking." "What do you want?" "[Man] What's her name?" "Do you know her?" " I don't know." " It's Sandra." " [Woman] Who is she?" " She has a bottle." " Who is she, Helen?" " She has a bottle." " [Man] She's your daughter." " A little bottle." "Yeah, that's your daughter." "Your lovely daughter." "[Nurse] Who is she?" "She's been here now over nine years." "Prior to that, we had help at home for a couple of years to stay with her." "Uh, she has no idea who I am or my brother... although my brother only gets in maybe once a year to see her." "So you don't see anything that she knows you?" "Y-You really" "She knows I'm a familiar face because I come regularly... but she has no idea that I am related." "I mean, I've seen very little change week by week." "And yet when I think back a couple of months ago... there's a big difference." " Even just from a few months ago?" " Yeah." "But, uh" "Yeah." "So how have you been holding up through all of this?" "I'm better now than I was." "I had about a year where I couldn't be alone with her." "I was the one that she attacked verbally- and tried physically." " And, uh, that was very hard." " Oh, my goodness." "My children, my husband wouldn't let me come on my own." "So somebody came with me as my protector." "But that's all calmed down." "Was..." "Was..." "Was..." "Was she physical when she didn't have the..." " Oh, no." " Or was that something that just came out?" "That just came" "That's part - I believe, part of the disease." " Mm-hmm." " A total change in personality." "And its hard to believe she was an extremely intelligent businesswoman." "But when you look at her now it's very difficult... because that's not the same woman that she was." "That must be so hard for you." "I have gone through a whole grieving time." "And at times it's still very painful." " I can see it in your eyes now." " Yeah!" "[Laughs]" " I can see that." " Yeah, I try not to be emotional." "[Man] What's her name?" " [Man] Do you know her?" " I don't know." " [Woman] Who is she?" " She has a bottle." " That's your daughter Sandra." " [Helen] All right, I'll tell her." "I'll tell her." " That's your daughter." " I told her." " You know her." " Yeah, I know her." "And now we're both friends." " Yeah, we're friends." " Yeah, really!" " I know we are." " I like you." "[Singing In Yiddish]" " [Woman Sobbing] - [Singing Continues]" "[Max Singing]" "[ClaireJoins In]" " Oy, oy!" "[Laughing]" " Take a nice picture." " Are you taking me a picture?" " [Singing Continues]" "[Max Joins In]" " Hello." " [Women Laughing]" "Hello, sweetheart." "[Kissing]" "[Ida] That's very good." " Ohh, you're a " " I hope it comes out. [Laughing]" "You're a sweetheart." "Oh!" " [Ruth] Who is she talking to?" " [Claire Kisses]" "[Ruth] Meshuga." "Oh, you're so sweet." "Put it closer." "Put it closer to my lips." " [Woman] Claire?" " Yes?" " Talk to Max." " Pardon?" " [Humming]" " I said" " Oh, yeah!" "Hold it, hold it." "I forgot about that." " [Max Singing] - [Claire Grunts]" "[Laughs] I forgot all about that, Max." " I'm sorry." "I'm sorry." " You what?" "I'm sorry, sweetheart." "Yeah." "[Kisses]" "Oh, I forgot all about that." "[Max Laughing]" "They're taking - They're taking pictures, Max." "Oy vey!" "[Laughing]" "[Claire] Oh, I love him." "I love him so much." "[Max] Ay-yi-yi-yi-yi!" " [Claire] I love you so much." "[Both Laughing]" "Good morning, Fay." " I'm so glad it's you." " Hello." " Oh, it's you!" " It's me!" "[Laughing]" "You were ready to throw me out of here." " Yeah." "I'm in a bad mood." " Why?" "I'd like to be somewhere else." "I can't take it." "Who am I to talk to?" "Who?" "I don't hear from my son." "Oh, I could kill him." "He is going to China." "And maybe he went to China." "He's gonna bring me a watch." "L-I don't see any of my family." "You know?" "It's unbelievable." "I just sit here and - and " " That's it." " [Door Closes]" "She keeps closing the door... that, that, uh... uh... cook or whatever she is - keeps closing that door." " See it closed?" " Mm-hmm." "Keeps closing it." "Why?" "[Woman] I don't know." "She is not normal." "You know, there is a lot of people, my dear, that aren't normal." "So there you are." "[Woman] How are you doing?" " [Ruth] Give me..." "Give me one of those." " Have some." "Yeah, you need something like this." "Ensure." "It's good for you." "Can you hold it?" "You like the chocolate?" "Like the chocolate flavor?" " I heard you." " Okay, I'm sorry. [Laughs]" " I don't want any more." " You don't want any more?" " You're not feeling well?" " [Helen Shrieking]" "I don't know." "[Sighs]" "You look tired." "Do you want to go to bed?" " Not yet." " Okay." " Okay, I'll leave you alone." " [Muttering]" "Hold on to this." "Hold on to this and drink, okay?" "You need to drink your nourishment." "All righty?" "She isn't in the mood to socialize." "[Man] Tired." "[Woman] Tired?" "Uh-huh." " Come talk to me." "Sit down here." " Come talk to you?" " There is a chair over here." " I'm a nuisance." "Come talk to me." "[Woman Chuckles]" "[Grunts] At least I'm not bothering anyone." "[Both Chuckling]" "Why?" "Do you think you're bothering people?" " [Ida] Mmm?" " Why?" "You think you are bothering people?" "L..." "No." "I never did." "But I worked for a doctor and I heard a lot of it." "You know, I'd really like to get my hands on something that I used to do... but I don't know whether I could do it now." "I used to take blood and I can't do that anymore." "My hands are too shaky." " What did you used to do?" "I didn't hear you." " Take blood." " You know." " Yeah?" "For what?" "For what purpose?" " Well, I worked for a doctor..." " Mm-hmm." "And the purpose was to see certain things - medical things." "What was happening." "That was my job." " I see." " And it was interesting too." "I used to have a lot - I learnt a lot too." "I learnt an awful lot from that experience." "And he really taught me everything too." "But I used to be so happy... when a patient would come in and they'd say..." ""Where is Miss Delorne?"" "[Laughing]" "And now I'm doing nothing... and I should be doing something." "And I am sure there is something here I can do." "Period." "What would you like to do here?" "Be with people like I was before." "Go in and visit... cheer them up a little bit... and walk out." "And they'd say, "Come again."" "[Giggles]" "And now I am in that position myself." "Yeah, life is funny." "It really is." "But I can't complain." "I've had a wonderful life." "But not now." "The last years are not good." "It was very nice " "And it's wonderful that I can think back." "That's the thing that I am proud of- that I can think back." "And I can see faces in my mind." "And" " If I didn't have that, I'd go crazy." "And it's nice that I can look back at them." "That's the best part." " Can I sit down and talk to you?" " [Sobbing]" "Is that all right?" "What's the matter?" " [Sobbing Continues]" " What's the matter, Fay?" "What's the matter?" " I'm very- [Sobbing Continues]" " What's wrong?" "You want to talk to me about it - what's bothering you?" "What?" "Do you want to talk to me and tell me what's bothering you?" "No." "I just " "I'm very lonely." "I miss " "You know, I can't hear you." "Honestly." "I've got to move closer." "I'm sorry." " I couldn't hear you." " What?" "I couldn't hear you." "Tell me again because I couldn't hear you." " Oh?" " Why are you crying?" "I'm crying because..." "I'm very unhappy." "What are you unhappy about?" "About the whole thing." "Okay, here, sweetie." "Sorry." "Okay, here is the rest of your meds." "Okay?" " What's that?" " The" "The rest of your meds." "You dropped two." "That's why I'm giving you another two." "Okay?" "I can't take all that!" "One!" "Okay, this one." "This one." "This one." " Need some more water." " Okay." "Yeah, the same water." " You got more water?" " You want more water?" "Okay, what about finishing this one?" "I'll get you more." " Okay, the little one." " What?" " Take the little one, sweetie." " No, not now." "Later." " Later?" " Later, yes!" " Okay, relax." "Relax, okay?" " Not now!" "Leave me alone for a few minutes." "Okay." "See you later then." "[Sobbing Continues]" "Tell me - You wanna talk to me?" "You wanna tell me what's bothering you?" "Everything." "I'm lonely as the devil." "I can't take it." "I can't take all this." "I wish I was dead." "L-I am telling you, I'm gonna give you your hand up... and I'm gonna break it, and you'll see what you're gonna get." " Will you keep quiet." " A hell of a lot more!" " Will you keep quiet." " Oh, you be quiet!" "You're gonna keep quiet, because they will put you out of here." " Remember that." " Shut up!" " So remember that." " What the hell..." "It's not for you..." " They will put you out." " Claire." "Claire." "Who are you talking to?" " Th-They will." "They'll put her out." " [Helen Continues Ranting]" " I'll make sure that they put her out." " Why not?" "Go to hell!" "I'm living here, you dumbbell!" "If you ain't home-And there." "He's gonna come, you no-good -you " "Oh, my God." "[Yiddish]" " Listen, she's a very sick woman." " She is." "She doesn't know what she's even saying." " [Helen] Stop it, for Christ's sake." " I don't think she does." "[Helen Continues Ranting]" " And you have to understand that too." " Oh, I don't understand her." " I don't even want to understand her." " Well, you have to." " I don't want to understand her." " God forbid it should be anyone of us." " I know, but I don't want to understand her." " It could happen to me too." " That's because I know - - [Ida] I don't understand how they keep..." " When I was growing up " " Will you keep quiet, please?" " I was almost always - [Garbled Muttering] - [Ida] I don't understand how they keep her on this floor." " That I don't understand." " [Claire] That's right." "Somebody has to keep her, but this is not the place for her here." "No, it's not." "I agree with that." "God forbid it should happen to any of us." " That's all I can tell you." " Sure." "It happened to her because she married a goy and he " "That's been - There are a lot of things like that." "And he used her and left her." "Too bad." "She was meshuga then, so you should know what she is " " What about her parents?" " So you know what she is now." " What about her parents?" " [Helen] See?" "This is what you should have." "[Helen Continues Ranting]" "Claire?" "What about her parents?" "Were her mother" " Whose parents?" " That woman." " Whose parents?" " The woman that's talking." "[Helen] What the hell do you need it for?" " What kind of a home did she come from?" " This one?" " Yeah." " Oy, please, Ida." " Do you know?" " She's m" " She" " Sh " "The story goes that she was married to a goy or she was living with a goy" "I don't know which - and he - he - he threw her out." "But I asked about her mother and father." " I" " I don't know anything about them." " Oh." "That's what I asked about." "You got a bow on your robe - Your bathrobe there." "That girl " "[Women Laughing]" "That's better." "[Women Chattering]" "[Helen Murmuring, Indistinct]" "[Fay] How are you?" "Yoo-hoo!" "I'm good!" "I'm good!" "How are you?" "Little" " Little slee " " I'm trying to wake up." " You're a little sleepy this morning." "I want to sleep all the time!" "Look at them." "Every roll and every roll." " Isn't that nice?" " Mm-hmm." "Sometimes when I remember, I was that way when I was nice." " Peek-a-boo!" " [Helen Continues, Indistinct]" "How do I look with the glasses?" "Okay?" "You like them?" " [Woman] Yes, very much." " [Laughs]" "[Fay] I got a boyfriend, but I never see him." "All right." "I'll tell you " "[Chuckling] Oh, please!" "Look at you!" "I got another boyfriend." "[Woman] Oh!" "I got somebody else downstairs I li" " I like." "I like him." "I like men." "[Laughs] What can I tell you?" "[Max] I got a lot of presents." "Here, you wanna see my- my- my suits?" " Suits?" " Suits." "Here, here, c-come here." "Just take a look." " Yeah." "Yeah." " [Max Muttering]" " Yeah, just right here." " Yeah?" " Ay-yi-yi." " Yeah?" "Ai-yi-yi-yi-yi." "Ooh-whee." " Here." "This is what you want." " Open up." " Open up." " Open up." " Okay." " What you got?" " Clothes." " Of course." "[Laughs] Oy vey!" "Listen to me. [Yiddish] They're taking your picture and my picture." " Turn around." " Yeah?" "[Man] Don't forget." "Just pretend we're not here." "I am supposed to make - Just turn around." " Ai-yi-yi." " I'm supposed to make love to him?" "Ai-yi-ya-ya." "[Laughing]" " Ai-yi-yo-yo." " No, wait a minute. [Laughing]" " Oy!" " [Yiddish]" "Oh, my God." "I am so excited and nervous." " I bought you a real present." " Oh, my God." "Now you can tell the time." "Look how big it is." " Oh, my God." " I promised you a watch, didn't I?" "[Crying]" " Oh, Sandi, I can't help crying." " [Sandi] Laugh!" "Laugh!" "Laugh!" " I can't help it, Sandi." " I think you enjoy crying." "[Fay] Oh, how much are these?" "$4,337." "Oh, you hear the price?" "Did you hear that?" "[Man] Can you see what time it is?" "What time is it?" "Half past 2:00." "Oh, God." "I'm so excited." "I can't" " I'm shaking." "Oh, Lionel." "You'd better just stay..." "in the United States now." "Yeah." "I'm leaving next week." "I am going to Florida." " Oh." " Next Tuesday." "Next Tuesday." "So I'll come next Sunday to say good-bye to you." "One more week, then I'll say good-bye, and then I'm gone." "Oh." "[Lionel] You want me to help?" "Oh, look at that comb." "Oh, my God, look at it!" "Oh, Lionel, where did you get it?" "Oh, I'm so excited I can't stand it!" " [Lionel Chuckling]" " I'm gonna go crazy." "Oh, God." "It's unbelievable." "I'm so excited." "And I hope I don't get   [Sandi] What?" " Oh, I'm strong." "I don't get sick." "[Sandi] What would you get?" "What would you get from being excited?" "No, no, I wouldn't get - I'm just " "You mean, you're feeling euphoric for a change instead of crying?" "That's good!" " Well - - [Lionel Chuckles]" "It's good that you're feeling excited and happy." "Usually I come here and you're crying." "I'm so nervous." "But you know, I don't mind being nervous." "I got a good reason to be nervous." " [Lionel] Why?" " Because you're back." " [Laughs] - [Sandi] She means excited." "[Lionel] You mean you're excited." "You're not nervous." "You're happy." "I'm very happy." "You know, I have been happy my whole life." "My whole life, as bad as it was..." "I was happy, Lionel, really." "You look-You look good today." "You really do." " Sandi " " That's good thinking." "I'd like to be alive another three years." " Three?" " Yeah." "Why only three?" "Well, that's all I got." "[Coughing] You can say that again." "I never had a good life... with my first hu -with - with my husband." "There wasn't a second one - with my first -with my husband." "I couldn't see a second husband." "Is that Lea?" "I wanna talk to her." " You know, we all" " Ida." "Ida." " When you're finished." "I think all three of us have gone through such a similar type of a life." "Because she t" "You told me that you were a young widow." "Your husband died young and so has Claire's " " With three little kids." " And so have I." "So we really share a common - common - common feelings and " " It wasn't easy." " No." "Oh, but I had a wonderful husband." "I have got to tell you that." "He" " I was every- I meant everything to him." "Everything." "I guess I was his life." "And then he left me." "You know that when he got sick... we talked about what - how things would go... when he passes away." "He knew he couldn't make it." "We discussed it all." "He was a wonderful man." "[Woman] That must have been hard, those discussions." " It was very difficult." " Those discussions must have really been hard." "Very, very difficult." "I'll never forget them." " Because we very-we were in love." " I know." " And we were both young." " Mm-hmm." "Yeah." "I could not see any other man next to him." "I mean, that I would feel I'd like to marry him or any" "Not anything." "Nobody was like him." "He was very good to me." "Very good to me." "You know, when you're married to a man like that... and you realize that you're his whole life... you don't want anyone else." "But I had a good life." "As short as it was with my husband... we had a beautiful life together." "He was a very understanding man, you know " "Mm-hmm." "I'd get up in the morning, and before I was even dressed... he used to dance me around the whole floor. [Laughing]" "We were like two kids." "[Women Chattering]" "[Woman] L..." "I got it here." "[Helen] Can you help him?" "He's got good hair." "He's got wonderful hair." "Oh!" "I called her." "And I saw them." "I loved them very much." "I like you too." "But not so much." " Try." "Try." " I can't." "Here." "Good." "Try, try." " Wait one moment." " No, I'm going crazy." "I can't do it." " No, I can't." " A little." "Little for me." " I can't." " Just for me." "Drink it." "Good." "Good." "More, more." "More." "More, more, more, more, more." "Oh!" "I am happy now." "Yeah, and " " It's clean." "Everything is clean." "Okay." " Okay." " One more." " No more!" "I don't want no more!" "I'm goin' crazy!" " Okay, this is the last one." "The last one." " No more." " Last one." "Good?" "Mmm." "Okay." "I'm going crazy here." "[Sandi] I think she said she didn't know where she was at when I arrived." "[Fay] Don't worry about me!" " She asked where she was." "She was very upset." " I'm living." "I'm not dead." " Hey, you can see my car from here, Mom." " Am I right?" "You can see my car." "[Sandi] Mom?" "Mom!" " You can see the car?" "Yeah?" " Yeah, you can see the car." "You can't get upset about stuff like this." "Things happen." "Let it be." "Don't worry about it." "[Fay] I'm so disappointed the way I am." "The way you are?" "You mean because you - 'cause you were a little confused?" " [Fay] Huh?" " What do you mean, the way you are?" " I am a little confused." " It's okay." " Okay." " Don't worry about it." " l- l-It's fline." " Okay." "[Sandi] Everybody here is confused." "[Lionel] If you weren't confused, you wouldn't be here." "If you knew what was going on, you'd live by yourself." "So since you are confused, you are in a confused building..." " in a confused time and in a confused year." " [Laughing]" "Look at that!" "Confused building, which is true." "I'm just like them." " Yes, you are." " Oh, no." "We all reach a point in our lives where we start to forget things." "I have been forgetting things for a long time already." " We're going away this week." " Where?" " Florida." " Where?" " Tuesday to Florida!" " Where?" "In Florida!" "We're going to Florida." " Oh, to Florida." " Yes." " Oh." " We won't be back till the end of February." "Oh." " Is that okay?" " I'm going to miss youse." "[Sandi] I'm gonna miss you too." "[Fay] Yeah." "I know, because we watch all over" "I love you." "Right?" "And what about me?" "What do you think of me?" " Absolutely." " Absolutely?" "You know, all people here are very nice and, um " "Yeah?" "Oh, those people there on the TV?" "Yeah." " I like them." " I know." "Even more than anybody else." "Because I can talk to you... but I could take only one and start on that." "I would have served enough." "Yeah." " You look just like me when I " " Yeah." "[Laughs] And I'm happy, much happier." "I am glad you are happy." "I want you to be happy." "You want to drink this one?" "You want to hold it?" "Okay." "Oh, this crap!" "I am sick and tired of all this junk." "Crap." "[Nurse] Well, you have to drink this." " Drink a little bit more." " No, I don't want to." "It's all crap." " You haven't drank anything." " I don't want it, I don't want it." " Ruth, you're going to get sick again." " I don't care!" "I won't be sick!" "I'd rather go be - go to - go to... die!" "And that's all." "That's all." " Okay, I just want you to drink a little bit." " That's the way I feel." "No, no, no." "I don't want it." " Drink if you feel like it, all right?" " Yes, I know." "Thank you." "All right." "I have to stop." "Okay." "There we go." "Remember to drink when you feel like it." " [Fay] You know Hilda?" " [Woman] Yes." "She said, "Fay, you're a beautiful woman."" "Oh, my God." "That's what she said to me." "After that my breakfast fell." "I got excited." ""You're a beautiful woman."" "Hilda!" "I'm a beautiful woman!" " [Hilda] That's right!" " Come here!" " Not now, Fay." " Come here, you!" "[Helen Babbling]" "I'm just joking with her." "Look at my hair." "It doesn't even get gray." " Do you know how old I am?" " [Helen] Oh, shut up!" " And that's natural?" " I'm 93." " Wow." " [Helen] Oh, go on." "Go on!" "Go on!" " And do you know what?" " What?" "I don't feel like it." " Great!" " I feel young!" "[Helen] Ah, you're full of shit." " That's the way I am." " [Helen] Not listening!" "Not listening!" " Some of them are so mean." " [Helen] Where's your boy?" " Where is he?" " Oh." "I'm sorry I'm crying to you." "I laugh." "I don't cry." " You see?" "Just a minute ago " " I cry and I laugh." " [Groans, Chuckles] - [Laughing]" "So that's how it goes." "You've gotta be strong." "You know, I'm strong." "Yes, you are." "Ninety-three years old." " That age?" " [Helen] Oh, shut up." "I must be made out of iron." "I'm so strong, I could kill somebody." " [Nurse] Helen." " [Helen] Leave me alone." "And I'm still here because I said I wanna be here." "That's why." "I don't give up." "I don't want to croak." "[Laughing]" "[Claire Singing, Faint] Qué será será" "Whatever will be" "Will be" "The future's not ours" "To see" "Qué será será" "[Paramedic Speaks, Indistinct]" " [Woman] Hello." " [Paramedic] Hello." "[Woman] Hi." "[Paramedic] Hello." " So what's going on?" " She has not been eating for a while." " Yeah?" " In spite of the meals we've been administering." " Mm-hmm." " She's getting weaker and weaker every day." "So the family decided to have her really checked - really assessed." "Maybe she's gonna need I.V. Infusion and we don't do that in here." "Okay." "She's not - She takes sips, but that's it." " What's her blood pressure like?" " Hi, dear." "How you doing?" " 90/60." " You got any pain anywhere?" " The pulse is so weak, I can't even - - [Ruth] Not any more." " Not any more?" "She did?" " Confused?" " Yeah, she's normally" " She's normally" " Did you have pain?" " I had pain, I think." "Okay, where was sh" "Did she have any chest pain earlier?" "Was she complaining?" "This morning, she was talking to one of her family members and she was saying..." ""I just have a chest pain in here."" "Ready?" "One, two, three." "[Moans]" " Push the button." " Okay." "[Claire] If ever" "I should lose you" "How unhappy" "I would be" "When the blue of the night" "Brings the gold" "Of the day" "Someone" "Waits for" "Me" " Wonderful." " [Claire] Without a shirt!" "[All Laughing]" "[Ida] Where you going?" " Where are you going?" " [Woman] Nowhere." "We're just coming to say hello and just talk to you." " Bring some more chairs over." " We need some more chairs." "Yeah, we need some more chairs." " Ida " " We wanted to talk to you." " [Claire] Listen." " [Ida] Sorry." "What?" "It's okay." "We wanted to let you two know because you heard the other day... that Max had a fall." " [Ida] No, I did not know." " Max had what?" "Max had fallen the other day, on Friday." " [Ida] I did not know." " I did not know about it." "Okay." "I thought somebody had told you." " No." " Max had a fall." "He went to the hospital." " [Ida] Yeah?" " I'm afraid to tell you he has passed away." " Pardon?" " [Ida] He's passed away?" " [Woman] He's passed away." " What?" "Mm-hmm." "Mm-hmm." " Oh, my God." " [Ida] Oh, my God." " Yeah." " [Ida] When did this happen?" "[Woman] I wasn't here, but I understand on Friday." " That's when he fell." " [Nurse] Are you okay, Claire?" " Are you okay?" " Yeah, I'm fine." "You sure?" " Well " " How come you're not saying anything?" "[Ida] All I can say is that his time was up." " Mm-hmm." " That's right." "And we all go sooner or later." "[Claire] Max passed away?" "And we don't go before we're called." "It was quite sudden." "[Ida] When did he die?" " When did he actually die?" " Friday night." " Friday evening." " [Ida] Friday?" " And what is today?" " Monday." "It's funny." "I was going to drop in on him on Friday." "But I guess he wasn't home." "He went in the evening on Friday to the hospital." "So I would have seen him." "I think you saw him on Friday." "Yeah, I saw him at lunch time." "You guys had lunch together and then tea time." "You had the social tea?" "Oh, my God." " Was he sick?" " No, he just had had a fall." "He went into the hospital and he wasn't there very long." " [Claire] When did he go?" " Friday." "Friday evening." " And this is what?" " And today is Monday." "Oh, this is a really" "I never expected this." " [Ida] That's it, Claire." "You never expect." " How did it happen?" " How did it happen?" " He had a fall." " He which?" " He fell down on Friday." "And he was taken to the hospital, but..." " [Ida] What did he break?" " He..." "He passed away." "We don't know ifhe broke anything." "We don't know." "But I should have been notified." "I should have been notified." " We were very, very close friends." " [Woman] But you were told." " They told you on Friday." " Eh?" "They told you on Friday that he had gone to the hospital." " How do you know?" " The staff told me they let you know." " [Ida] No, you're..." " They let me know?" " Yeah." "You're not remembering he'd fallen." " No, I would remember." "They did not let me know." "I would know if they had." "[Ida] When did it happen?" "Today?" "[Woman] On Friday." "And today is?" "[Woman] Monday." "[Claire] And nobody told me till now?" "I can't believe it." "[Claire] Oh, I'll never get over this." "I'll never get over this." "There wasn't anything in the world that boy wouldn't do for me." "[Claire] If ever" "I should lose you" "How unhappy" "I" "Would be" "When the blue of the night" "Brings the gold" "Of the day" "Someone" "Waits" "For" "Me" "[Rabbi Praying In Hebrew]" "[Praying Continues]" "[Rabbi] This is Max, and this is how I remember him..." "Wonderful, loving, caring individual." "I said he was the captain of his ship of soul." "And I know you loved him too." "He was a very special friend of Claire Mandell." "Did many, many things together." "And Claire just shared that he would never do anything without asking her fiirst." "They took walks together." "They went to concerts." "And it was a very beautiful, warm..." "Ioving and healthy relationship." "[Hebrew]" "May his soul be bound up in the bond of life." " [Chattering] - [Rabbi Praying In Hebrew]" "[Praying Continues]" "[Praying Continues]" "[Praying Continues, Fading]" "[Man] So, do you like it here today?" "[Rachel] It's not bad." "[Man] When Fred lived in Ottawa years and years ago..." "[Rachel] When..." "When who lived in Ottawa?" " Fred, your son." " So where did I live when he lived in Ottawa?" "You were here in Toronto." "Oh, I don't even remember it." "Yeah." "This was back in the 1970s." " I don't remember it." "And I lived here?" " Yeah." " Not here." " No." " In my own house." " In your own house." "Where" "Where did we live, all of us?" "You lived in a few places." "I don't understand what you mean." "We didn't have a house?" "We didn't have a home?" "You had a few homes." "While I lived with your mother?" "You never lived with my mother." "You're my mother." "What are you telling me?" "I don't know what you're talking about." " With your father?" " With my father, yeah." " I was married to Abraham Figdor." " No, you weren't." " Wasn't I married to him then?" " No, you were married to my father then." " I was married to your father then?" " Yeah." " What was his name?" " His name was Lawrence Baker." "Oh." "And where did we live?" "You had a house on Laurentia Crescent." " Oh." "That was a beautiful house." " Yeah, it was a nice house." "That was a beautiful house." "I enjoyed it." " And I lived with your father?" " Yeah." "Where do you think I came from?" "[Laughing]" "I never gave that a thought." "I should have asked you, where did you come from." "[Laughing Continues]" " What was your father's name?" " Uh, Lawrie" " Lawrence." " Oh, so Lawrie's named after him." " That's right." "My son's named after him." "I don't remember your father at all." "I must have been quite young at that time." " I don't remember that place." " You were married to my father for" "I don't know - 1941 till 1978 - 37 years." "And I don't remember it." "Oh, this is stupid." "You know I can't even see in the mirror." "You think I can see what I'm doing?" "No." "[Chuckles]" " I don't even know what day it is." " Today is a beautiful Monday." " Monday?" " Yes." " Don't do that!" "Don't do that." " It's too hot for you." " I know, but I'm taking pictures." " Claire, let her do it." " No!" " Yes!" "Don't be stubborn." " I know you're getting pictures." "That's why" " I'm gonna have pictures taken." " Okay." "Can I fix it a little bit?" " Can you which?" "Can I fix it a little bit?" "A little bit?" "To fix your makeup." " I'm not gonna take too much." " It won't show in the picture." " It will show a little bit." " No, you're taking too much off." " You don't let me touch you anyways." " That's enough." " Okay." " Okay." "That's enough." "That's enough." " That's enough!" " [Coughing]" "Okay." "Oh." "Did you take her picture already?" "You did?" "You did?" "You took Ida's picture already?" "[Murray Groans]" "You know, I..." "I don't..." "I let her..." "And now she's gone." "I know I've been forsaken... by some people." "And it's one there." "Don't really." "How you gonna do it?" "Just tell them." "If you do it, you're gonna get bad s " "I understand." "Don't want to give him bad thoughts." "Murray, don't do it." "And she did." "Did she like it?" "No, she hated it." "And she said to him, "Are you going with him?"" "[Clears Throat] No." "I hate it." "I said I didn't like it." "Oh, yeah." "[Clears Throat] Yes." "What are you?" "AJew?" "Or a - a Solomon?" "Or what the hell?" "[Muttering]" "Does he do it?" "No, he doesn't." "[Clears Throat]" "He's" " He's the main boss... of all." "And I don't... have... enough money to do it." "Oh." "Well, maybe we'll find a way." " Where's my hat?" " Here." "Oh." "I don't know what I'm doing." "Oh, I think you do." "All right." "He passed away." "That was a dream I had." "He passed away." " Does that mean anything?" " I think it does, Claire." "Max has passed away." " Pardon?" " Max has passed away." "What?" "Yes." "When?" "About five days ago." " Five days ago?" " Last Friday night." "I just had that dream last night." " Five days ago he passed away?" " Mm-hmm." "That I don't even remember now." " On Friday night?" " Last Friday night." "Why didn't they call me?" " Well, actually they did." " I was very close to Mike" " Max." " I know you were." "We, um..." " Very close friends." "It's hard for me to tell you this, but we did tell you." "You..." "You have just forgotten." "But we have been telling you." " And I dreamt about that last night." " And you dreamt about it." "Yeah." " Yeah." " So Max is gone?" "You're the first one that mentioned it to me." " The staff had mentioned it to you." " What was wrong with him?" "They don't know yet." "It happened so quickly." " So when -when " " I was with him all the time." " I know you were." " See, Max was very close to me." "He" " He really- You know, he cared about me." "My God." "Max gone five days ago?" "So how would I not know in five days?" "One day I could understand - I was asleep or whatever." "But five days and I didn't know that he was gone?" "Nobody said anything to me." "Nobody told me." "The staff-The staff did tell you." "You just probably don't remember... and it's come up in your dream." " No." "But I'm not dreaming now." " No." "So I'm saying I would remember... if someone would have told me something or I would have found out some way." "How would I not know about it?" "How would I not know about it?" "You mean my memory is going?" "[Rachel] Blue skies" "I used to know a song like that." "I forgot it." "Blue skies" "Nothing but blue skies [Humming]" " Do you remember it now?" " Yeah." "Blue skies" " What other songs do you remember?" " I don't know." " What was your favorite song?" " Remind me." "Oh, I don't know." "I forgot all the songs that I sang." "I sang a lot of songs... even if I don't remember anything." "Remember any of the songs you used to play on the piano?" "I'm..." "I'm thinking of going back to the piano." " Yeah?" " Yep." "It's standing there doing nothing." "Well, they have a keyboard here." "They could teach you here." "I would" " I would like to start playing it again, but I don't know how." "I" " I played the piano beautifully." " Why don't you ask them?" " I've got a beautiful piano - a Gerhard Heintzman upright." "No, you don't have that one anymore." " That's the one I've got." " No." "That one burned in the fiire... in your mother's house." "Oh." "I had one that burned?" "Yeah." "That burned many years ago." "There was a fiire in your mother's house, and the piano burned down." "So what -which piano do you have - do I have now?" "You bought a small Korean piano about 25 years ago." " A small Ko " " You took lessons again." "And I took lessons again on that small Korean?" " I don't remember it." " Yeah." "I only remember that one piano." "Okay?" "[Whirring]" "Let me take this off for a while, okay?" "I'll put it back on." " Give it to me." " You want me to give it to you?" " I'm gonna hold it." " Okay." "You can help me." "[Vocalizing]" " You like this?" " I like - [Vocalizing]" "And I like - [Vocalizing]" "I like it everything" " Do you like that?" " That's good." " A good song, eh?" " You gonna do it again?" "Huh?" "Okay" "It is another way" "It is a better one" "For all the people" "And I will take you to the worst and the best" "And that's" "For today" "Okay, we're finished." " I love you." " You love me?" " Mm-hmm." " I love you too." "Very nice." "That's not hard." "[Chuckles]" " Right?" " Right!" " You have very often told me..." " Yeah?" "That you're bored here." " I have." " And there isn't enough things here to keep you busy." " That's true." " You've told me that before." " That's true." " I can understand that." "And now I'm learning that you used to play the piano." "Yes, I did." "I have a Gerhard Heintzman upright - one of the best." "My mother did nothing but buy the best at that time." "She's not here anymore, but I got the piano." "A Gerhard Heintzman upright." "I don't know how it would play now." "But I know we were away." "I" " I don't remember where we went, and I had took the piano with me... and I started playing, and then this owner came in " ""We don't allow this here."" "So I never did it again." "Don't remember where we were." "So that made you stop playing?" "Yes." "I never did it again." "So do you think this is something that you would like to try again?" "I wouldn't mind." "Why not?" "I'd love to start playing again." "I did play." "I did have a beautiful piano." "It's standing in Fred's house." " It's in his house right now?" " Yeah." "I gave it to him." "I said, "Don't sell it."" "It's" " It's in his house." "I've had a wonderful life." "And I had a wonderful husband." "And everything was great." "My husband was the one that got the license for this place." "And his picture's hanging downstairs - first one you see when you walk in." "And my- my little grandchildren came to see me." "This was the cutest part." "They came in." "They said, "Granny."" "And I said, "What?" I didn't know what happened." "I said, "What?" "Do you know what I saw?"" "I said, "No." "What did you see?"" ""I saw Zada's picture." [Chuckles]" "He said, "How did Zada get there?" [Laughing]" "Mm-hmm?" "Oh, their kids are cute." ""How did it get there?"" "Ah." "He was a great guy, my husband." "He helped a lot of people." "[Sighs]" "[Humming]" "And I had a wonderful life with him too." "First of all, we loved each other." "That was the beginning." "But he didn't want to go anywhere without me." "And he was quite prominent in Toronto." "And there were times I didn't want to go." "But he said, "You gotta come."" "And I went." "[Chuckles]" "Oh." "You know his picture's hanging here." "You know that?" "Mm-hmm." "He did a lot - a lot for people." "I'm sure he never thought... that when he died... that there would be such a large funeral." "People came from all over." "I'll never forget this." "When he was dying - We have three kids, you know." " Mm-hmm." " And one couldn't walk yet." "And he said..." ""I hate to leave you, but my time is up."" "And he said, "Just keep doing what you're doing." "Just be yourself."" "And I've never forgotten that." "But he was a great guy." "He did a lot for people." "His picture's hanging here." "He got the license for this place." "Claire?" "[Sighs] Gosh." "[Crying] Nobody told me anything." " You just heard the news?" " When did he die?" " When did he die?" " He died a week ago." " A week ago?" " A week ago." "My God." "[Crying]" "Claire, you were told." "You just don't remember." " Pardon?" " You were told about it." "You just don't remember us telling you." "I wouldn't remember?" "I must have been " "And we had a memorial for him here as well." " When?" " Uh, last week." " Was I there?" " Do you remember at all?" "Just over there where the lounge is." " Do you remember anything about a rabbi?" " I don't remember anything." "Do you remember talking to a rabbi?" "Or do you remember a rabbi... giving a talk about Max?" "I guess I was in too much of a shock." "You don't recall any of this?" " I was in too much of a shock." " Mm-hmm." "Must have been that." "Because he was my best friend." "I know." "We all know that." "We were very close friends." "That wasn't when my daughter put me in here, was it?" " When did it happen?" " Nine days ago." "Oh." "So I was here some time already." "Oh, you" " I think you've been here for a few years." " Pardon?" " I think you've been here at Baycrest for a few years." " Was I here a few years?" " I think so." "I think so." "Yeah, my daughter never had time for me." " Why do you say that, Claire?" " [Mutters]" "Because she went to business." "And I was home." "And, you know, I didn't - we didn't have our parents already." "So, it meant my being alone." "And if my sister wanted to go out, she went... and I was left alone... at home." "You know, it was a - It wasn't a good situation." " When did Max die?" " Nine days ago." " Pardon?" " Nine days ago." "What was wrong with him?" "He fell, and we don't know what's wrong with him, what happened yet." " But he died." " Yes." "My best friend." "[Woman] Claire?" " Are you leaving?" " Okay." "The nurse is here." "L-l-I just want her to have a look at you." "She's just, um " " She's not doing very well." " Do you have any pain?" " Pardon?" " Do you have any pain?" "What do you mean, "Do I have anything?"" "Pain." "Do you have any pain?" "Pain?" "[Chuckles]" "Yes, I have pain from what I heard... about Max." " Do you have headache or something?" " Max" " Max is gone, is he?" " Max is gone?" " Yeah." "I see you flirt with all the ladies here." "Why not?" " [Laughs]" " That's good." " Is it?" " Make her happy and you ha " "You know what?" "You're absolutely right." "That's what does it." " I love it." " So you do that to make other people happy." " Oh yeah." " That's" "That's nice." " If you want to." " Mm-hmm." "Some people don't like women." "I love 'em!" "[Laughs]" "Look at that smile." "Your eyes are starting to " "What are they starting to do?" "Tear?" " They make you feel good." " [Chuckles]" " Do you like it?" " Oh, you must have been some devil when you were younger." " I was never a devil." " Aw, I don't know." " You don't like me, eh?" " Aw, I do like you." "My name is Murray Cornish." "I remember that." " Do you?" " You're very charming." " You think I'm going to " " I think you're a charming man." " Da, da, da, da, da." " [Laughs]" "Yes, I like you." "I like you too." "You know, you're not making me too fishy." "I'm" " I'm with everything " "I don't let it go down." " Right?" " Mm-hmm." "Are you going to live with us?" " Here?" " Yeah." "Well, maybe someday I might." " Not yet." " Not yet." "It's not my time yet." "[Vocalizing]" "You could come in with me... with I, uh -with all our guys." "They'd like you." "But I would like you." "[Chuckling]" "Murray's on the way." "You get it?" "I got it." "But you want to know something?" " What?" " I think you're too young for me." " That's the problem." " I'm too young?" " You're too young for me." " I'm not." "[Sobbing]" "[Ida] Claire, do you want to be alone?" "[Sobbing Continues]" "It's all right, Claire." "Just cry." "Perfectly all right." " Oh, God." " I know." "I know." "Claire, you know we all love you." "You know that." "And we want you to be well... and just think of all the wonderful times you had with Max." "Just think of those days." "You have known him a long time." "And now it was his time to leave." "[Ida] I'm getting fed up." "[Woman] What exactly is it that you're fed up with?" "[Ida] I have to be with people." "I have to do something." "See, I was a therapist." "And I had people on the table." "And while I worked on them, they were telling me things." "And I learnt an awful lot from that job." "There are different peoples in the world." "That's for sure." "And then, too, after- when I got married " "My husband was a lawyer." "And he was very active in the community- the gentile community and thejewish community." "He was a controller for the city ofToronto... and his office was at the city hall." "He worked for this place." "My husband's picture's the first picture you see when you walk in." "It's still there." "The entrance when you come into this building." "One day I would like to go downstairs with you." "Would you show it to me?" " Yup." " I would like to see that." " By all means." " I would love to see that." "Any day you're ready." " One day we'll do that." " Okay." " Okay." "It's a date." " Okay." " All right." "Right in the front entrance." " Right in the front entrance " " Wow." " The first picture you see as you walk in." "You know, there are a lot of pictures hanging from the ceiling." "There's a lot of pictures." "Yeah." " Well, he's there." " Let's do it." "All right." "Let's see if we can find him." " Come on." " Oh, my goodness." "Are you getting tired?" "You want me to wheel you?" " No!" " All right." " Absolutely no." " All right." "This is a big place." "Do you know where you're going?" "When we come in the first building - You come into the building " "One second." "Could it be over there?" " Yes, it must be." " You think it might be there?" " Yeah." " 'Cause there's more than one entrance." " But we're gonna look at them all." " Well, there's a fence there." "Let's have a look." "Do you see it here?" " No, not here?" " It's downstairs, where you come in." "All right." "Let's go to the other entrance." "I think I know which one you're talking about." "This way." " I'm thinking it might be along here." " It's in the entrance." "Well, let's - let's have a look here." "And he never even told me it was there." " He didn't tell you?" " No, because it happened before I knew him." " Oh." " So he didn't think of telling me." " All right." " But I was angry." "All right." "Down here - There are a lot of pictures over here." " Right in the front." " Oh, upstairs?" " I think so." " Not here?" "No." " No, not here." " All right." "The front of the building - in the front." "Hmm." "Well, do you know which way, Ida?" "Maybe over there?" "I'm not sure." " I don't know." "All I know is that when you come in." " This is the front entrance here." " It has to be here." " So let's have a look." "Ida, there's no pictures here." " Well, it is somewhere here." " Okay, let's turn around." " Yeah." " Let's turn around." " Yeah." " There's one more place." " Okay." " So let's try the other." " That's where it has to be." " Are you getting tired?" " No." " All right." "[Rachel] I'm gonna start to scream soon." "I'm gonna go out and throw myself under a car." "That's the only thing I can do." "He was waiting for the doctor's call when I left." "What kind of a mother am I?" "What kind of a mother am I?" "I don't know where he is." "He might even be in a hospital." "I don't know." "I'm gonna start to scream at the top of my voice." "I don't care if they put me in jail." "I have to find my Freddy!" "I want my Freddy!" "Fred Baker." "My only child." "I'm gonna break everything." "I" " If I can't find him..." "I will break everything here." "Everything." "Fred Baker, where are you?" "Where are you?" "Where are you?" "Fred Baker, where are you?" "Where are you?" "[Ida] It was hanging up from the ceiling." "He must be one of those there, on the wall." "You know, we just looked and we - Let me see." "I'm gonna ask." " Where is the person " " Well, there's " " We've looked at" "We've looked at " " This is Khedive Avenue." "That isn't it." "Yeah, no." "And we looked at the Bathurst, and that wasn't it either." " Well, it has to be somewhere." " Let me see if there is a way of finding out." " [Phone Ringing]" " It could be right down here." " [Woman] Hello?" " Um, one of the..." "One of the residents on our floor- her name is Ida Orliffe " "She, uh" " She " "Her husband's photograph apparently is hanging somewhere in Baycrest." "And his name is Herb Orliffe." "Now, would you have any idea..." "We..." "We've been down here looking for it... 'cause she thought it used to be hanging in the front entrance." "[Ida] I don't understand this." "[Indistinct]" "Is there any way of you finding out where " "It's near the entrance as you come in." "It's hanging from the ceiling." "[Chattering]" " Might as well go and show her where she is." " Yeah." " Even if she doesn't remember." " Yeah." " Yeah, so " " [Knocks]" " Hello?" " Ida?" " [Ida] Yes." " Can we come in?" " Well, of course." "Come in." "Oh, Ida." "Okay." "Can I just, uh, introduce you to someone... 'cause I'm not sure you're going to remember her." " I'm Vivienne." "How are you?" "Okay?" " [Ida] I'm fline." "You're not feeling too great." "Well, I came to tell you that in the Poslun's auditorium... there is a picture of Alderman Herb Orliffe and his family... from about 1960, it says." " [Ida] My goodness." " Yes." "So when you're feeling well " " I can get dressed..." " then we'll go for a ride." " They probably want to film that." " Well, thank you very much." "You think you can make me happy, Murray?" " I" " I hope so." " Oh." " I'm not a pusher." " [Laughs] Okay." " You know what I mean?" " I know." "I" " I act like a man." "But nice with the women." " Is that right?" " Right." " I know you like the women." " Yeah." "You're a big flirt." "You can have everything you like." " Is that right?" " All my body." "[Laughs]" "Eee!" " Oh, you're a devil." " No, I'm not." " Oh." " I'm a gentleman." "Oh, okay." "You're a nice girl." "My name is Murray Cornish." " Did you know?" " I knew that." "Dr. Murray Cornish." " I was a captain." " You were a what?" " A captain." " Of what?" " In the service." " Oh, is that right?" "I was in the army for six years." " I didn't know that." "Whereabouts?" " Oh" "You weren't born." " Oh, okay." " I'm born." "Where..." "Where were you in the army?" "Where?" " When the war was on." " Where were you?" "Down in Italy." " In Italy?" " Oh, yes." "Hooray." "Three cheers!" "You're having a good day today." "I see you're in a happy mood." " It's only in the morning." " Oh, is that right?" "It's in the morning." "I've been - l-I used to be on - in Italy..." "Spain... everywhere." "S" " S-So." "[Woman] That must have been very interesting." " No, it isn't." " No?" " Terrible." " Tell me about it." "I will." "One day I will." " Not today?" " I might." " It's a tough one." " It's not easy for you to talk about that?" "Well, sometimes I do." " It's not nice." " Uh-huh." "I don't want anyone to say it's a good show or something." "No." "It's too bad." "I lost a few friends." "I nearly got hurt." "I was" " I don't like it." " I never liked it." " Mm-hmm." "And I love" " I love you." "I love you too, Murray." "I love you." " Remember" " Smile at us once in a while." " Mm-hmm." "Give me one." "[Clicks Teeth]" " Right?" " That's all you need is a smile?" "It's one of the good, important ones." " It is." "You're absolutely right." " Oh, yeah." "Oh, yes." "What's been happening?" " What's been happening?" " Oh, some of the girls aren't feeling good." " You're kidding." "Which girls?" " One" " One passed away." "Max passed away." "And he was my best friend." " Did you know about that?" " Yeah, you told me." "Yeah." " So, does it make you feel sad?" " Pardon?" " Are you sad?" " Of course." "I will always miss Max." "Of course you will." "Come." "We'll sit here." "Yeah." "So, um, what hap - How did this happen?" "I don't know." "What are you feeling now?" " What am I feeling?" " Yeah." "How are you feeling?" " I don't feel very good since then." " No?" "How do you feel?" "It" " It struck me." " It was like a blow to me when he passed away." " Yeah, it was sudden." "It was" " It was terrible." "I never felt that way before." "He always used to say to me..." ""You know, Claire... if it won't be you, it'll never be anybody else."" " What does that mean?" " He wanted me to marry him." " Did he ask you?" " Sure." " So why didn't you?" " So I said I wasn't ready to " " I wasn't ready to get married." " What are you waiting for?" "I wasn't ready" " It is a lot of things you have to do when you get married." "Like what?" "What did you have to do?" "Inviting the people." "There's a lot of work involved." "Yeah." "Sure." "I would have helped you." "Max was a wonderful man." " He was never married, was he?" " No." " I know that." " No." " So you would have been his first wife " " And again he said to me " "He always said to me, "Claire, if it won't be you... it'll never be anybody else."" "I'll never forget those words." "They're very special words." "Right?" " Do you ever think about Daddy?" " Yeah." "You remember they both had the same name?" " Hmm?" " Daddy and Max " " Yeah." " Have the same name." " Sam." " No, Sam was your father." " Eh?" " Sam was your father." " Yeah." " I'm talking about your husband." "Max - my father." " Your father?" " Yes." " And Max." " Your husband." " Not Max that you know from here." " Yeah." "Your husband Max." " Do you remember Daddy?" " Oh." "My first husband." "Yeah." " Yeah, I remember." " You think about him much?" "No." "But he was so good to me." "Well, you have your memories." "That's the best thing to keep." "Nobody can take that away." "Right?" " Hi, Ida." "Is it okay if we come in?" " Yeah." "Vivienne is here to take you... to show you the photograph of you and your family." "Would you like to go see it?" " I'm going." " Good." "Let's go." "Okay." "So this is where you were thinking about the entrance, I think." "I'll show you this one." " Okay?" " My husband's here somewhere." "Yep, yep, yep." "And, uh, then over here... this is Ben and Hilda Katz." " Look over here." " This is called the Ben and Hilda Katz Building... because they gave the $3 million to help start it." " I knew that." " So there they are." "And if the foundation... are going to have people here all the time who've done things for Baycrest." "So these were the first 64 people that were chosen." "And we just opened it the week before last." " My husband's somewhere here too." " Not on this one yet." "No." "We're going up in the auditorium to find him." " And this is the Heritage Museum." " Just a minute." "What?" "You know who that is?" "You may have met Ted and Alma." " Ted is still " " Oh, I know them." "You know them?" "Ted is still volunteering up on the palliative care." " I knew them very well." " Yes." "Okay?" "So you know some of these people?" "Um " "This is the original deed... for the house down on Cecil Street... in 1918." "It was found recently, and we've had it framed to go with the photographs." "Okay?" "That's where Baycrest came from - a house all those years ago." " And my husband's somewhere here too." " Yep." "Yeah." "Isn't that great?" "This is the auditorium." " And " " That should be him." "I should remember this." "[Chattering]" "And this is the gift that Al gave us." "He gave us all these photographs that you see here." "All the way down the walls." "Look." "But you come and have a look here." " Now - - [Ida] Oh, for goodness' sake." "How do ya like that one?" "[Laughs]" "Have you ever seen that photograph?" " Oh, dear." " "Alderman Herbert Orliffe and family around"..." "Memories, memories, memories, memories." "Memories." "So who is everyone, Ida?" "Do you know?" " He was very active here." " Yeah." "Can you tell us the names?" "Do you know who they are?" " Oh, I know." " Yeah." "Okay." "So?" " That's " " That's my husband." " That's me." " I thought it might be, yes." " Right." "Okay." "And " " That one's a daughter." " Yeah." " The other one's a daughter." "The other one is a son." "And that's a daughter." "Well, what a lovely family." " Ah, he was a great guy." " Yeah." "Well, he looks like a great guy." "[Man] A penny for your thoughts." "I'm thinking about the - the store we had - about your father." " Yeah?" " But I don't remember him very well." "I remember you were a little boy... and you printed your name on the sidewalk." " Yeah, I did that." " I remember that." "We used to keep the store open till 12:00 at night." "Well, that was many, many years ago." "Well, your father was still doing it." "But he stopped doing it." "He stopped doing that about 10 years before you sold it." "And Goodman or Goldman - What was his name?" "He used to come around." "He" " He lost his business." " I don't know." " His son broke up his business." " Hmm." "I don't remember that." " He used to come every night and talk to your- to your father  [Coughs]" " After we closed the store." " Yeah?" " They used to sit down and talk." "I don't know who you're talking about." " Well, you don't remember." "I remember." " I don't remember." ""Goldman" or "Goodman" was his name." "Don't remember that story." "Do you remember working in real estate?" "Oh, yeah." "I sold a whole street once." "When I had the business, your father was still alive." "Yeah." "He used to come home and go upstairs." "I had his supper ready for him on the table." "When he came down, I went up... and I had a little - a little snack, a little supper- nothing much." "I was always very busy." "Do you remember Mr. Goldhar?" " Yep." " He came every day." "[Woman] That must have been who she was talking about before." "Oh, did I" " I mentioned it already?" "Well, you were wondering ifhe was Goodman or..." "He was a very nice man..." "Mr. Goldhar." "And he loved me - not in that way." "But" " Oh, well, he - he put his arms around me." "He kissed me." "He loved me." "He laughed." "He did anything I told him to." "He came every day for breakfast." "He was there at about, uh, 6:30, 7:00 for breakfast." "He says his wife is still sleeping." "She doesn't make him breakfast." "I remember" " I didn't think I would remember anything from there." "I remember you came down, and you should have been sleeping upstairs." "You climbed - You used to climb out of your crib." " Yeah?" " That you don't remember." "I remember you told me about it." "You used to climb out of the crib, come down." "And I was" " It was almost midnight." "And I was ready to close." "And then you -you " " This was the store?" " The store, yeah." "And" "And you vomited on - on " "A woman was standing there, and you vomit -vomited on her." " Really?" " [Laughing]" "I can never forget that." "She was so mad." "[Laughs]" "[Woman] Hello." " When can I go home?" " Home?" "Where would you like to go, Dad?" "Hi." "[Kisses]" "Hello." "Hello, Joe." "[Both Laughing]" "I wish I were " " Well, you wish you were what?" " With you." "With me?" "You are with me." " Right now." " That's good." "That's not what I said though." " What do you mean?" " When you were... born." "When I was born?" "You mean changing diapers and things?" " I did that." " I know you did." "Remember, once I went out into the road... and you waited, and you gave me a spanking... for going out in the road?" " Do you remember?" " Oh, I remember that one too." "That was a tough " " And you " " That was a tough corner." "And you used to take me fishing?" "Right?" "Oh, I did." "Every week." "Every week we went fishing and horseback riding." "Remember?" " Do you " " Well, I liked doing those things." " We enjoyed ourselves." " We did enjoy ourselves." "I'm still livin'." "Yes." "And I'm glad you are." " I'm not bad, eh?" " I think you're great." "You still look pretty handsome to me." "[Chuckles]" " I'm not bad." " No." " I feel all right." " That's good." "I'm glad." "I'm getting old." " Are you getting old?" " I don't remember everything." "But you know what you always said, Dad?" " What?" " You said that when a person reaches 80... they have the right to forget whatever they want." " Is that right?" " That's what you said." "So I tell everybody, if they forget something..." "I said my father says, "When you're 80, you can forget - you have the privilege to forget whatever you want."" " How do you like that?" " [Chuckles]" "I made that as a real... appointment... and maybe it's really true." " I've got something for you." " No, no, no." " I've got something for you." " What do you got?" "What have you been asking for for the last two weeks?" " I don't know." "What did I ask for?" " Take a look." "Come on." "Oh, for heaven's sake." "Thank you." "My husband looks good." "[Chuckles]" "What can I say?" "I used to be thin once upon a time... believe it or not." "Haven't we all?" "After he died, I" " I found a change in myself." "My body changed." "Everything changed." "I know if any" " I don't know if anyone has ever told you that before." "And this is the first time I'm talking about it." "[Laughing]" "He was one wonderful guy." "But I had a wonderful life." "And that's the thing." "I was one of the luckiest women." "And then he left me." "God took him away... and left me with three small kids." "[Laughing]" "And now when I look back at it..." "I can't understand how I did it." "I can't." "I went to work." "I had three kids." "I put them" " I took them to a nursing school in the morning." "I picked them up after 5:00." "We came home and we had dinner." "Sometimes I cheated." "I used to go and buy dinner and then pick them up." "[Laughing]" "Ah, dear." "But they liked me to go to the store with them." "Ah." "Where did the years go?" "Hi, Daddy." "He was the one that got the license for this building." "Nice guy." "[Woman] You gave me a little bit of a scare... when you told me you had pains in your chest and back." "You have to let somebody know." "If you're having pains in your chest and your back" "In my chest that goes through to my back." " Is that what's happening right now?" " Mm-hmm." "You know what?" "I think maybe I better take you back to the area, just to be safe." " No." " Are you sure?" " I'm" "Yeah " " She might be pregnant." "[Laughing] How do you say" "She" " She says maybe you're pregnant." "[Laughing]" " That would be interesting." " It would be a very good thing... if you would - if you would find me a really good husband." "It's already too late." "If you're pregnant, it's already over..." " [Claire] Oh." " I've seen you with a new young man around here, Claire." "I know that you do have someone new in your life." " Oh." " Do you remember that?" "Memory is one of the things she hasn't got." "And I think his name is Albert." " Oh, Al..." " Oh!" " [Laughing]" " Albert!" " [Claire] Forget it!" "Forget it!" " Why?" "I need a bigger man." " Bigger?" " Yeah." " What do you " " He's " " Bigger in what way?" " He's too short for me." " I need a tall man." " He's too " "He's too..." "He's too short?" "When do we take off all our clothes?" "Ah, Helen." "Helen!" "[Claire] I don't care what you say." "Lfhe's good-looking, I don't give him to anybody." "So you mean we don't have a chance around you." "Is that what we're saying?" " Oh, no." "I don't say that at all." " Oh." "I take him fast and whisk him away." " l..." "I don't give any other woman a chance." " I've noticed that." "You know what, Helen?" "You can take lessons from her." " She is a pro." " [No Audible Dialogue]"