"Hello, Miss Winston" "My usual, please. __ black" "So sorry to hear about Amy." "She was your best friend, wasn't she?" "Yes." "My mother says losing your best friend can be as hard as losing your husband." "Have you ever been married?" "Why do you ask?" "My mother told me that when someone asks you that question you just say" ""why do you ask?"" "__ stops me in the tracks" "Lola, if you don't learn the __ rules then everything you write will give evidence of a compromised education." "It will scream out "I have no interest in excellence"," ""I'm not smart", "I'm average"," ""I don't deserve a good grade or a good job"" "Now, do you want your writing to ruin all your chances for success?" "Let's go over this one more time." "Sarah," "I've been meaning to call you." "Lola has decided that she'd like to try another tutor." "You understand, sometimes our pairings are a mismatch." "Lola is lazy." "Lola wants someone who won't challenge her, she wants someone who won't expect anything from her." "We just think another personality might work better with her." "Excuse me." "Please, I'd like to have the bike" "It's 50 dollars." "I told you we can't afford it." "But you promised." "I know." "We can't afford it." "Please." "Excuse me." "__" "This one seems real friendly." "Is he house-broken?" "Absolutely." "Bless you." "Shakespeare." "House-broken?" "Somebody who never speaks." "I will see you later, okay?" "Bye." "See you." "Anything specific bothering you today?" "Yes." "One of my friends died of cancer recently." "Another just had a heart attack." "So yes, that bothers me a lot." "" "Do you know where the group meets?" "I think it might be a Bible study group." "Sorry?" "Do you know where the meeting is?" "Oh, yes." "I'm going myself." "Come with me." "You can just put your umbrella right there." "Okay, come." "...that God could and would if He was sought." "Anyone feel like sharing?" "I'm Hank and I'm an alcoholic." "Come on." "As most of you know I had my first drink when I was 13." "And ever since that time" "I've liked the way alcohol makes me feel: numb." "And I wish I was numb today." "My ex-wife is getting remarried." "I never saw that coming." "And as crazy as it sounds and as much as we fought" "I always thought we'd get back together." "But thanks to Leo, my sponsor, I made it through another day." "I called about 13 times but he picked up every time." "He was a minister before he retired." "He's a good man and he was there for me." "So thank you, Leo." "'Cause I know I was --." "So, you come in." "You're new, aren't you?" "I see you're feeling exactly the way I did my first time." "But let me assure you will not regret." "Name is Kit." "Sarah." "Nice to meet you." "Wait!" "I really didn't get the chance to introduce myself." "I'm Darla." "This is Sarah." "It's her first time." "I could tell." "Do you have a sponsor here tonight?" "A sponsor?" "No, I don't." "Do you ever think of changing your hairstyle?" "Why do you ask?" "Cause I think you would look so much younger with your hair loose around your face." " makes you look 10 years older than you really are." "I have to be going." "Listen." "I know I'm just a kid but I've been in the program a while now and I can help you." "Good night." "See you later, then." "And remember, keep coming back!" "Who is there?" "It's Kit." "Our meeting is about to start." "I'm not going." "Yes, you are." "I won't take "no" for an answer." "It's really not a good time." "It's never a good time but you've got to do it." "Come on, let's go." "You don't understand." "I had a buddy who dragged me to my first two meetings and I wanna do the same thing for you." "I'm not going." "I'm absolutely not going." "It's a misunderstanding." "We try to carry this message to alcoholics and to practice these principles in all our affairs." "I lost my job, my marriage, my kids and my self-respect." "The only thing I gained was weight." "About 45 pounds." "A bunch of us are going out to eat afterwards." "Do you wanna join us?" "She'd love to." "So, how long have you been sober?" "It's hard to say." "Do you know what, that's okay." "Even if it's a day or two." "It takes progress." "Listen to her, the expert." "I'm the one who should be giving you advice." "Because?" "Because I've done this 5 times." "Oh, that's great." "Hank, you're discouraging her." "It doesn't take 5 times." "Isn't that right, dad?" "It's right." "Dad?" "Yeah." "These meetings are quality time, together." "My advice is:" "take things at your own pace and don't let anybody pressure you." "You missed one." "And one time that Kit was snorting I came down pretty hard on him." "Those were bad times." "He looked at me like I was evil." "Sarah, I've no right to criticize him after what I've put him through." "He was right." "Eventually I got through to him, he got through to me and we helped each other out." "We've been cleaning out for two years." "And what about his mother?" "She hasn't been in the picture since he was 2." "Thanks for walking me home." "My pleasure." "Do you want me to come and get you tomorrow?" "That would be nice." "Okay, then." "Bye." "...to realize that my kid is embarrassed of me." "Last week I was talking to my ex-wife." "She told me about a school play that he was in." "He looked to me and said:" ""Dad, don't come"" ""You'd have to take time off work and it'd be too much trouble"." "He was pretending to be thinking about me but I could tell." "I could see it in his eyes." "He didn't want me there." "He knew that he'd be embarrassed by his old man." "Again." "Anyway, I guess all I can do is keep following steps right and keep trying." "And that's it." "Why don't you go out?" "No." "Anyone else?" "Charlie, would you and Kit like to come to my place for dinner tomorrow?" "We'd love to." "So, what you have in mind?" "Remember what you said about my hair?" "I sure do." "Would you mind if I " "It won't hurt, I promise." "So?" "Thank you." "You look great." "Thank you." "How about cider?" "Oh, perfect." "Where is Kit?" "He couldn't make it." "Go ahead." "All right." "This is truly heaven." "I can't remember the last time I had a civilized meal." "What do you mean?" "I mean I don't eat like this often." "Candles and cloth-napkins..." "For example, there was a time when I used to make a pretty good jelly from scratch." "It was an all-day affair but then, after a while I thought:" ""this is too much trouble, I just gonna get can jelly"" "And shortly after that I thought:" ""heating it up is so much work"." "And then I reasoned:" ""if I'm not gonna heat it up why not just eat the jelly out of the can?"" "You wouldn't eat cold jelly out of the can." "I would and I do, regularly." "And I think, I'm pretty sure if I could figure a way to eat that jelly without opening the can I would do that too." "I think you'd better go now." "Why?" "What's the matter?" "Nothing is the matter." "It's just late." "Hello." "It's me." "Hi." "I couldn't bear to have my normal breakfast this morning" "It would have been an insult to my taste buds after last night." "What's your normal breakfast?" "Don't ask." "So how are you doing?" "I'm fine." "Why?" "No, I mean with the "eternal struggle"." "You mean the drinking?" "I'm okay." "Because you really haven't indicated where you're at." "I'm sort of about the beginning." "And what about you?" "Three-year anniversary coming up." "My previous record is two." "You know, it's funny because before all I could think about was drinking and now all I can think about is not drinking." "So let me see if I got this straight." "You prefer not to talk about your past relationships, you prefer not to talk about your family and you prefer not to talk about where you are in the steps." "I'm a brilliant conversationalist." "You're a challenge." "How about football?" "No." "Baseball?" "I don't __ sports." "Movies?" "I used to go." "All the time." "That's something." "I like ping-pong." "I won a little tournament once." "So you're a ping-pong champion, aren't you?" "I haven't played in about 25 years but now I've got someone to work with." "I love that bed." "Wouldn't you love to fall into that every night?" "Aren't you and I planning on doing that some time?" "So movies, ping-pong and big, fancy beds with fluffy pillows." "I think we're making progress." "Sorry." "That was fun." "It was." "Listen, I hope that you didn't get the wrong impression." "I think I've got the right impression." "Which is?" "That you're pudding in my hands." "But don't worry," "I assure I intend to exercise my power over you with extreme responsibility." "Good-bye, Charlie." "I'll see you at the next meeting." "I finally realized that drugs -- ruining my future, turning off my old friends." "And quite frankly, I've become really disgusted with myself." "I've become so self-centered." "I don't want to be like that anymore." "I want to be more like you, guys." "I wanted to help people." "So, that's what I did." "Thank you for helping me get better." "One other thing:" "my band is " "Just kidding." "The music is free." "Anyone else?" "You don't sew, do you?" "You have missing a button." "I'm sure I have many buttons missing." "Do you work or are just -- wealthy?" "I work." "I just have a lot of time off." "What do you do?" "I'd rather not say." "What, I can't have my privacy?" "You are like a hit-man or something?" "I edit books." "I've taught English at a girls private Highschool for 12 years." "Then a friend of mine in publishing asked if I'd be interested in editing manuscripts." "It sounded interesting." "I do it from home." "It suits me." "Any good books coming out?" "I never read the books anyway." "Why not?" "Well, I start with the last sentence on the last page and then I work backwards." "That way I can just focus on the punctuation and the spelling, the grammar, not get distracted by the story." "What?" "Nothing." "Hi, everyone." "We're gonna start -- now." "I hope you enjoy it." "No, I've never been married." "What?" "You asked me before if I'd ever been married and I was very rude not to have answered you." "of just being kind to me after my friend Amy died." "No, it was stupid of me." "No, I was being stupid." "Sorry." "On the house." "Thank you." "Hi, Tony Tomato." "What are you doing?" "Hi, Betty Broccoli." "I'm gonna throw a surprise party for Rabbit." "Wanna help me?" "Sure, Tony." "I'm not exactly the tidy housekeeper." "No." "Indeed." "Kit says it's like a work of art." "Expresses my eccentricities." "It certainly expresses something." "picture frames could serve to a purpose." "I always thought they were just for displaying art." "" "No, never." " why burden county's land fields when I can just go ahead and get my own." "Very thoughtful." "Have a seat." "Anywhere." "Make yourself at home." "I'll go get you something to eat." "Just kidding." "Come on." "Voilà." "Good?" "Yes?" "Salt?" "Pepper?" "No." "Perfect." "Charlie." "Where is he?" "How is he?" "Not good." "He's really drunk." "Threatened me to kill himself." "I've tried every -- to get through and nothing worked." "Okay, just wait here." "No, I'll go with you." "Stop right there." "Don't try to make me change my mind, Charlie." "Okay." "Just take it easy." "Why?" "I have nothing to live for." "You've got your son." "He don't need me." "He don't even want me." "better off without me and you know it." "Hank, you love your son, don't you?" "And how do you think he's gonna feel when he has to explain to people that his father took a gun and blew his brains out?" "Thank you for today." "We need to talk." "This is really embarrassing for me and you know how hard it is for me to open up." "I'm strange." "You are." "I don't mean about opening up." "I'm not strange in that way." "I don't mean to endlessly frustrate you." "I just..." "What are you trying to say?" "I'm trying to say that I'm not going to have sex outside the marriage." "I came to this conclusion because" "I've been through a lot of heartache and pain in the past and I can't go through that again." "I can't." "I promised myself I wouldn't." "I swore that the next time I had sex with someone we would be married." "You're kidding, right?" "Okay." "Marriage would just be a band-aid for what is going on here." "You know that, right?" "And your problem is that you are deeply afraid about opening up to someone." "I don't really need you to psychoanalyze me." "You have to get over this." "I don't wanna get over this." "I'm completely pathless." "I wouldn't blame you if you didn't wanna see me again." "This is a big problem, I know that." "Isn't it?" "What do you think?" "We're gonna have to get married." "It's not funny." "Let's just call tonight." "Hello." "Listen, I think we better cool it for a while." "Because I don't wanna pressure you into doing anything you're uncomfortable with." "Okay." "See you." "Charlie." "These are for you." "Thank you." "Listen, I've been thinking." "It's not such a bad idea." "What?" "You and me getting married." "Please, don't make fun of me." "I'm not." "Look." "We go to Babys, we get and when you think we -- its course we get a quick divorce." "A what?" "Sarah, it's obvious that you desperately need it." "You just have that mental blocks." "We need to find a way around that." "I've got nothing, you've got nothing," "There's no need for a prenup." "Seriously, sooner or later and I really hope it's sooner" "I'm gonna have my way with you." "Can you think of a better solution?" "That was the worse proposal I've ever heard in my life." "Hi." "Here is Olivia and Roy." "Please, leave us a message." "I'm sorry you're so upset." "I'm not clear on one thing though." "What exactly are you so upset about?" "You don't know what I'm so upset about?" "You can't figure it out?" "Do you think it's been my life's dream to be married by an Elvis impersonator in some wedding chapel filled with slot machines?" "Or to plan my divorce before the marriage has even begun?" "Is that my life's dream?" "Let alone getting married to someone without feeling that --in love with me." "You know what?" "I have a good life." "I do." "I have my work" "I have my piece of mind and I have a manuscript to edit." "Good bye." "Sarah!" "Sarah, it's me, Charlie." "Come on, open up." "I thought about what you said, I feel like an ass." "Come on!" "If I cause Sarah to start drinking again I'll never forgive myself." "Since when you care about the women you " "Sarah!" "I own all the units and rent them out so yes, I do know Sarah." "Two messages" "Tuesday, 2:15." "Sarah, Iris here." "I should have received the latest manuscript by now." "What happened?" "Tuesday, 3:55." "This is Memorial Hospital." "We have Sarah Winston here and I'm trying to locate family members." "Please, call us if you receive this message." "Sarah." "I'm so sorry for everything." "Hi, there." "I'm fine." "Well, maybe you are but I'm not." "Whatever are you doing here?" "What do you mean what I'm doing here?" "I'm taking care of you." "I'd be really angry if I died before I had the chance to ask you something." "What?" "Are you Tony, the tomato?" "Look at this." "If you need a battery this is the place to come." "Unbelievable." "It's like an office supply store." "It says in case of emergency I should call her sister." "I guess I should do that." "Dad," "What?" "What's happening to you?" "I don't know." "That's very sweet." "Thank you." "You're welcome." "Hi, Tony." "__ record those cartoons?" "I go in about once every other month." "__ and I also do commercials for the -- products." "Why didn't you want to tell me about it?" "Because when people find out what I do for a living it generally changes their opinion of me." "Which is?" "They stop looking at me as the edgy man-on-the-world kind-of-guy that I am and they start looking at me like more of a... tomato." "As a tomato, yes." "I'm glad you're here." "Heading in there right now." "Where is it again?" "Back left corner, bedside table." "Hang on a second." "We got it." "Yeah, this is it." "I will bring it with me when I come." "We'll see then." "What are you gonna do?" "Nothing" "Aren't you gonna call her on it?" "Wouldn't do any good." "Dad, we should throw all that away." "She's gonna do that herself." "Come on." "Are you Charlie?" "Yeah." "I'm Olivia, Sarah's sister." "Can I talk to you for a sec?" "Yeah, sure." "I'm really glad you came." "This is my son, Kit." "I thought you said she was dying." "I didn't say that." "Well, you said it was urgent." "It was." "It is." "No, it's fine." "It's just superficial stuff." "She should be out of here in a day or two at max." "I wouldn't call a concussion and internal bleeding superficial." "How long you know my sister?" "" "And what's your relationship?" "We're friends." "Right." "How did you meet?" "At an AA meeting." "What's my sister doing at an AA meeting?" "She's handling her problems." "My sister?" "My sister does not have a problem with alcohol." "Well, you're gonna have to talk to your sister about that." "I hope you're not just another guy trying to rip her off." "What do you mean?" "I mean are you trying to get your hands on her money?" "I didn't even know she had any money." "I don't care what you think about me but your sister really needs you right now." "No, my sister does not need me and I don't need her." "That¡s the beauty of our relationship." "And don't tell her I was here." "__ her recovery." "Wait!" "Can I talk to you for a moment?" "Now what for?" "Cause I think you " " Why else would you have come?" "I came because I thought she was about to take her last breath." "I have a feeling you're not the cold heartless bitch you pretend to be." "Excuse me?" "I thought I didn't need my dad either." "I thought I could make it on my own." "But he means the world to me now." "We helped each other with our addictions." "We've grown really close." "Well, luckily my sister and I don't have any addictions so we don't really need to grow close." "Wait a minute." "If I can help you to make peace with your sister in any way here is my card." ""Kit Peterson:" "musician slash mechanic"" "You're being quiet." "Am I?" "I'm sorry." "I didn't realize that." "What are you thinking about?" "Us." "What's up?" "Sister." "She was a piece of work." "I didn't even know she had a sister until yesterday." "I don't really know nothing about her." "What a nice surprise!" "What's wrong?" "Can I talk to you?" "Yeah." "Come in." "Considering you might be in a very vulnerable position right now and I don't just mean your injuries" "I just think..." "Do you know how step 9 is to go round and make amendments to all those we harmed in the past?" "Well, I've come here today." "This visit is about that." "But you've never harmed me before." "I see." "So you plan on harming me in the future so you've thought you apologize now." "I didn't warn you now I'll feel bad later." "It's about my dad." "My dad is a great guy, the best guy in the world." "He was never ugly or violent when he drunk he never hit me or anything" "He never even yelled at me." "He just disappeared." "Everything would be fine and then he'd fall into this weird mood" "I'd wake up one morning and find a note:" ""I love you but I have to go away for a while"" ""I'll come back as soon as I can"" "And then he'd be gone for months." "Happened when I was a kid." "Every time it happened I had to call my grandma to come get me." "He's on the same thing to every woman he's ever been with." "I see." "I really think it's best if you don't..." "I mean, with the stage you¡re in." "Just don't depend on him." "Thank you for the advice, Kit." "I hope you feel better." "Welcome home." "Why haven't you tried to kiss me today?" "I wanted to be careful." "I don't want you to be careful." "Sarah, why haven't you really told me anything about yourself?" "What do you mean?" "I mean" "I have no idea hat happened to you to make you the way you are." "I have no idea when you first realized you had a problem with alcohol, how you're handling it, what you think about AA, where you are in the steps, how you feel about your family, basic things." "I don't know everything about you either." "This is a big deal for me, Charlie." "I need to go slow." "In case you haven't noticed." "I just need time." "That's all." "You're a peculiar woman, Sarah." "I've come to terms with that, so you take your time." "Just don't take too much time, okay?" "Percy is hiding behind the tree." "We're coming to get you, broccoli." "Oh, no!" "You'll never catch me." "I'm figuring about getting a ring." "What kind of a ring?" "Have you lost your mind?" "You saw the booze under her bed, right?" "She's obviously not in a good place." "Wouldn't be good for you either." "I just got this idea in my head it's the right thing to do." "__ establish how many times before the big ideas you get in your head are almost never the right thing to do." "I'm in love with her, Kit." "Be careful, dad." "__" "I want to be sure if she was being completely honest with me." "Do you think it's a good idea to have alcohol in the house?" "What do you mean?" "If you have a problem with alcohol, do you think it's a good idea to have alcohol in the house?" "No, I think it's a terrible idea." "So you wouldn't do that." "No." "Excuse me." "Can we have __ please?" "Are you okay?" "Would you mind if I didn't walk you to your door tonight?" "Who was that at the restaurant?" "That was my father." "I'm dead to him because I was a big disappointment to him." "Have you ever tried to talk to him?" "Maybe if you went to him and you were completely open and honest maybe you would have a change of heart." "What do you know about being open and honest?" "What about all those bottles under your bed, Sarah?" "You lied to me tonight." "You lied to my face." "__" "I found it by accident when I was looking for your address book." "I have an explanation." "I don't want to hear any explanations." "I've been honest with you." "I've been honest with you except on one thing." "Oh, please, Sarah." "Just go." "Just get out." "Get out!" "Just get out." "to accept things I cannot change the courage to change the things I can" "Is your dad home?" "No." "He wasn't here when I got back last night." "I'm worried about him" "I'll drive." "It's not him." "Your dad took me to this really beautiful place on the shore once." "Maybe he might be there?" "fishing" "__" "This is not good." "Hi, dad." "Hi." "Hey, Charlie." "So what are you doing here?" "I think the question should be what are you doing here." "I'm appreciating nature." "What about all of this." "That was a terrible waste of money and glass." "I really should have recycled." "I poured it out." "Came close but coming close doesn't count." "I really need to talk to you, Charlie." "You two talk." "Since no one is talk to me just gonna wait in the truck." "You've right to have lost confidence in me after what I did." "Why won't you trust me, Sarah?" "I haven't had the best luck with relationships." "My first love swept me off my feet and then left me." "I was pregnant with his child and I was devastated." "I lost the baby 5 months later." "After that it seems like every man I ever trusted found a new way to hurt me." "And after a while it started to feel like I deserved all that pain." "That's why you drink?" "That's what I wanted to explain." "I've been allowing myself to tweed this web and it just keeps getting worse." "What are you talking about?" "I don't have a drinking problem." "I've never had." "You really got me there." "For a second I thought you're finally opening up to me." "You don't understand." "I'm trying to tell you." "Stop, okay?" "Just stop." "No, you don't understand." "I can't deal with this crap right now." "I've had a very rough night." "__" "Hello." "Olivia who?" "Musician slash mechanic, right?" "That's me." "I left my wallet at home __" "Just died." "I don't know." "Thank you so much." "I really appreciate this." "Do you know your sister calls you just to hear the sound of your voice in the answering machine?" "I've long lost interest in what my sister does." "Just try and talk things out with her." "How can that happen?" "I don't care about her anymore." "Hi, this is Sarah." "I just wanted to say that I'm sorry." "I'm sorry for the way that I treated you and sorry for the way I've behaved with you and Roy." "I just hope that you can forgive me because" "I miss you." "I miss you." "And I love you." "And I really need my little sister right now." "So please call me." "I love you." "All right, we probably have time for a couple more to share." "Who would it be?" "Charlie, alcoholic." "I had a rough night" "but I made it." "I made it through the night, I made it through this day and here I am." "I was going through the big __ this afternoon something suddenly became very clear to me." "may not make any sense what came clear to me was that" "we all have wounds that will never heal." "But that's okay as long as we help each other to bind those wounds." "So you don't bleed to death." "But then it occurred to me that maybe that's why we're here on this Earth" "help each other bind our wounds." "Anyone else?" "Okay, then." "Meeting over." "Could I say something?" "That's great." "I think it's her first time." "My name is Sarah and I'm not an alcoholic." "And I'm not in denial." "I want to extend my apology to all of you." "I've been dishonest with you." "I've betrayed your sympathy and your trust," "I've betrayed your friendship and for that I'm very sorry." "I didn't start out intending to deceive you." "It's just that" "I used to watch you all gathered out in front and I just wished that I could be a part of your group." "And then one night" "I saw Charlie." "And I couldn't take my eyes off of him." "I loved the way he moved," "I loved the way he smiled." "I came to that first meeting just to meet him." "I was following my heart for the first time in a very long time." "And then one thing led to another and before I knew it I was pretending to be an alcoholic." "But I have to say that being here has helped me because the truth is" "I am a mess of a human being." "I may not be an alcoholic but I have problems to overcome." "Huge, scary problems." "And I've learned so much from all of you." "I know it's a lot to ask but if you would allow it" "I would like to keep coming back." "This is a meeting for people with serious problems." "Rules are everyone is welcome to our open meetings." "She can keep coming back as many times as she likes." "As often as you want." "Thank you." "Okay." "Meeting closed." "You have to keep coming 'cause this wouldn't be the same without you." "I'm so disappointed you're not a real alcoholic." "God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change the courage to change the things I can and wisdom to know the difference." "Keep coming back!" "What do we do now?" "I know exactly what we do." "We start on page 1." "And we don't worry about punctuation or grammar or misspelled words or whether or not the margins are even, we just get lost in our story and we see where it takes us." "I love the sound of that." "Lola, can I talk to you for a second?" "I just wanted you to know." "I probably should have said this before but" "I think you're very smart." "Exceptionally smart." "Do you think I could get into college?" "If you commit yourself and you work really hard" "I think you could get into an excellent college." "And if you let me I'd really love to help you achieve that goal." "You won't yell at me?" "I promise." "This is him?" "This is the killer?" "Shakespeare, come." "Here's the door." "I think __ message this morning." "Let me begin by saying that" "Elvis is honored to be officiating at this ceremony today." "We are gathered here to celebrate the marriage of Charles Manning and Sarah Winston." "Charlie, you take this woman to be your wife?" "Before we all stuffing our faces I'd like to make a toast." "During the ceremony I asked myself if these two really did belong together" "So I sized them up." "Sarah is tall, intelligent, good-looking, refined, cultured and dignified and Charlie is not." "But obviously offsets attract." "So I say "yes"." "Yes, they do." "I'd like to make a toast as well." "Your wedding couldn't make me happier." "I've been looking for an excuse to move out of my dad's place for years now." "I'd also like to make a toast." "To my sister who is starting a new life with a new husband, a new future and a new group of friends." "Cheers." "Subtitles by Héctor Lahoz ;-)" "I have one more surprise for you." "Close your eyes." "Turn left." "This way." "Open your eyes." "Do you like it?" "I love you, Sarah." "Subtitles by Héctor Lahoz"