"I've been through a war." "Parasites--my brother had parasites in his brain." "An epic,epic war." "I know.But the good news is that we won." "Archer is nearly himself again." "Nearly?" "What,what,what,is something wrong?" "No.No,no,no.god,no.No,no,no." "Everything is fine." "All parts are working." "Okay,my brother,my brother,my brother,my brother." "Sorry." "It's just that it's... it's good.We're really good." "You know,I..." "I think he's my boyfriend." "What?" "Well,you know,he sleeps over every night and he calls constantly." "He's been talking lately." "Addison,I think I have a man." "archer is committing." "All right.I'm getting another bottle of wine." "Yes,please." "Easy.Just got stitches." "Archer?" "Archer.Archer!" "What are you-- shame on you." "Is this your wife?" "Are you married?" "No,but... he has a girlfriend who is here." "damn it." "Look,I'm sure you're a very nice person but" " a little old to be getting felt up in the foyer-- but now it's all the best." "Bye-bye now." "you." "You've gotta get that lipstick wiped off your face." "is this pre or post sex?" "I hope you used a condom,you whore." "I'm in trouble,right?" "hey,dell.Can I call... yeah,is she... is she okay?" "okay." "Great.I'll,I'll be right there.Thanks,bye." "Addison,anything to eat?" "Hey,I'm edible." "What are you doing here?" "Okay,you two,you just do whatever it is the two of you do.I gotta go." "come on,come on,bear down.One more big push." "It's a fast labor.I'm sorry.I thought I could do this one solo." "You're doing great." "Come on,leanne.You're almost there." "good.Good,good,good,good,good." "I can see his head." "you did it." "matthew." "He's here.He's here." "I want to hold him." "Can I hold my little boy?" "come on." "What's wrong?" "It's not a boy." "What--what,the ultrasound was wrong?" "It's a girl?" "I'm not re." "Private Pratice Season 2 Episode 17" "I know this is impossibly hard,and we don't have all the answers ye but... your baby has something like a penis." "There's also a vaginal opening." "the baby's heart and lungs and brain are-- are all very healthy, and--and that's important for you to understand." "But what is it?" "We'll run some genetic and hormonal tests." "I'll consult with my colleague dr.Bennett." "She's an excellent endocrinologist.We're gonna get you answers." "Okay,well,until then,uh,I mean,what-- what do we tell people?" "I mean,what do we-- what do we call him?" "He's--he's matthew." "He's--he's supposed to be... he's supposed to be matthew." "Why'd you go to seattle?" "I'm sorry." "It's just,it's running through my mind on a loop,like a song I can't stop humming." "So I have to ask-- seattle,why'd you go?" "Archer's surgery." "Look,naomi likes to pretend like she has it all together£¬" "but--she's an ivy-league-educated doctor with the best shoe collection I've ever seen,so she does have it all gether." "Usually,but,archer getting sick... you thought she'd ed a shoulder to lean on." "Yeah." "Okay." "Is it... okay?" "I think it's great." "You've managed the impossible,you know?" "You've--you've maintained a good relationship with your ex... which is why I like you." "I like you,too." "you wanna go again?" "Yes,please." "hey,violet." "Hi,sheldon." "I-I was wondering,I run a couples' therapy group,and my co-leader is down with a stomach bug,and" "and think it's very important that we have a male and female therapist" " you know,role modeling and communicatiomodeling." "And,I wondered if you'd like to fill in." "I know,not such a great idea considering,but... no,no." "I-I,I think it's good." "I like working with couples." "Are you sure?" "Yeah.What time?" "Our conference room at 1:" "00.It's lunchtime." "Okay,see you then." "Violet." "How is it... the baby?" "It's fine." "Good." "That's good that it's fine,because" " sheldon,I would really appreciate it if we didn'talk about this right now, because I don't know if I can handle it." "Okay?" "But I'll see you later." "Hey,pete." "you got that look-- that "it's impossible to decipher violet" look." "I've just given up." "I'm going with cool." "Not cold,just cool." "hell.I'll go with cold." "Yeah." "Therapy should be interesting." "You and violet are in therapy?" "no." "No,we're doing therapy together." "It's a couples' group." "You're leading it as a couple?" "Yes,we are." "Good luck with that." "you should have seen the look on their faces,naomi." "It was awful,like this is their fault." "Are you okay?" "What?" "No,what... what do we tell them?" "Well,I wish I had a good answer,but the baby does have 11-beta hydroxylase deficiency.--What is it?" "It is an enzyme deficiency that causes an overproduction of testosterone in the baby in utero." "That's why the baby has both male and female sex organs." "Karyotype is x-X." "So the baby's a girl?" "Well,no.It's not that simple." "Yes,genetically,it is a girl,but about 30% of these cases,these kids orient towards male." "So we can't tell the parents what sex the baby is?" "Well,they'll have to choose,and then we can surgically correct the genitalia." "Wait,you just said there's a 30% margin for error." "Post-operative healing is faster and it leaves the genitalia functional." "I'll support it with hormone therapy." "Yeah,but what if they choose wrong,and the baby orients the other way?" "Exactly.We should have them choose the gender now,but not do surgery." "Let them the raise the baby as a boy or a girl, and then when the baby becomes an adolescent,it makes up its own mind." "That's the problem." "Leaving it an "it." "" Every sleepover,every-- every swim party or locker room is gonna be cause for panic." "Well,maybe it should be whatever it is and never lop off any body parts." "and I was worried I'd be missing all the fun." "Lopping off body parts?" "Intersex baby." "Can of worms." "some people think gender is hardwired,so whatever you do,it's not gonna change the outcome.Me?" "I find it freakish.Lop ay." "how was yourirst day back?" "It's perfect now." "good morning,dr.King." "move in with me,cooper." "Charlotte" " I know you care about violet and her baby." "And I understand why you wanted to move in with her." "But you can still be there for both of them without living at her place." "Violet's afraid to be alone." "So I need to be there for her." "I'm your girlfriend." "And I am here for you." "And living with violet,it doesn't change that." "my patience only goes so far." "so... it's a boy,but it could also be a girl?" "My god." "What are we supposed to do?" "How do we decide?" "Well,the odds say that your baby will most likely identify as a female, so we can do corrective surgery and give the baby the appropriate genitalia." "You--you want to take my baby-- my son--and cut off his penis?" "Alternately,you can choose a gender now,raise the baby,and then when he or she matures,you reevaluate." "And hide this for his entire childhood?" "What would we tell him?" "I mean,how do you-- how do you even begin to explain this to a little kid?" "Well,that not everybody's the same,that it's okay to be different." "But it's not okay." "Kids are cruel." "One kid sees him in the bathroom,everyone's talking,teasing him." "I mean,that's-- that's what kids do." "That's not the life we want." "We need to make this right." "We need to put this behind us,behind him or her and make it right." "But what's the best way?" "I like women.I like a lot of women." "But I am not married to naomi," "and she is not the mother of my children." "Naomi sat" "by your side while you had surgery,she held your hand." "You're upstairs sticking your tongue down her throat,seeing her every day, letting her believe that you two have something together-- well,I thought I was dying." "You are... you are asking me to lie for you." "you are making me feel dirty and cheap, and I'm 10 years old again telling mother that I went out for ice cream with daddy when really I'm sitting in his office while he's screwing his secretary down the hall." "I'm too much of a snob to screw sretaries." "You think this is funny?" "!" "No." "I think that you're one to talk." "I seem to remember something about you doing your husband's best friend behind his back." "That was once.I slipped once." "okay,so you're like-- you're like an alcoholic?" "You're on a program..." "my god." "You...-"god grant me the serenity" and all that crap?" "Are so mean when you know that I am right." "You know what?" "I am mean when I want you to mind your own business." "I won't keep your secrets for-- yes,you will." "Montgomerys look the other way when it is none of their business." "Now there's a sight for sore eyes." "I got patients lined up for weeks waiting for you to get back." "Well,that's me-- money in the bank." "I like money in the bank." "What?" "I like your brother." "He's my golden boy." "Beverly." "You okay?" "I'm fine.I just,uh..." "I had to see you again." "This is the fourth time this week." "Well,I checked your schedule.I know you have an opening." "Beverly-- come on,pete.Just a quickie." "Okay." "I feel like paul doesn't share much of himselwith me either." "He hardly wants to have sex anymore." "I get home from work,I'm tired,and you don't seem that interested." "But when I ask you what's going on,you won't talk to me." "I want to know what's going on with you up here." "See,there's your first mistake,thinking much of anything goes on for us guys up here." "you know what I think,greg?" "I think we guys like women to think that." "Maybe we think it ourselves,but part of that is that we don't look at ourselves, don't ask ourselves what we're thinking or feeling." "exactly." "I mean,the truth is,all of us have things going on inside." "I mean,right now,everyone in this room, sheldon and me included,have a thousand things going on." "And the trick is to open yourself to that and to share it." "Well,that--that's not to say,of course,that there aren't pieces you want to keep to yourself." "You don't want to lose yourself in a relationship." "No." "No,but the beauty of good communication is that when you share" " share what you're thinking,good or bad" " you both feel better,maybe help each other." "Ryan and I used to have that." "Back in high school when we met,we talked about everything." "And now all you want to talk about are the kids." "That's not true." "But I'm there with them all day." "Y-you don't want to know about that?" "That's my world." "I know it's hard,herein the group,but talking--it really will make things better." "Beverly..." "I love seeing you,but this has gotta stop." "I can't stay away." "Whatever you do,whenever you put yourands on me,I swear,it's...magic." "It's not magic,and it's not" " hey,I've been reading up a lot on reiki therapy,healing hands." "It's supposed to be incredible." "Let's try it." "I'm not a specialist at reiki.I can't do that." "Pete,you can do whatever you want to me." "As a doctor,I can't keep pretending this is okay." "Come on.Just one more time." "It's been taken care of." "If you could just file it,that would be great.Thanks." "Hi." "Hello." "You know what?" "We haven't been speaking for two weeks.I... miss you." "Don't treat me like the pervert next door." "If you lived next door,we wouldn't be having the problem." "You know what?" "I want to get past this.We need to get past this." "What's it gonna take for you to forgive me?" "I don't know,cooper." "I'm working on it." "We walked past your wall of pictures" " all those kids--happy and sweet and,normal." "And that's what... our baby should be." "And surgery can do that." "Surgery can give your baby gender-distinct genitalia,yes." "And we can know?" "We can stop saying..." ""it"?" "Great.So let-- let's do that." "Can we do it soon?" "I can book an O.R.For tomorrow." "Afterward,we'll supplement with estrogen she'll be as healthy as possible." "No." "No,no,no." "That's not what we want." "It was clear to us from the second we saw his face-- he'S... he's matthew." "But only 30% of these babies orient toward male." "You said you don't know." "We know." "He's our son." "You're gonna give us our son." "I just saw ryan and eleanor in the stairwell." "You mean ryan and sasha?" "N-no,I mean ryan and eleanor." "They were communicating,lip-to-lip." "D-did they see you?" "No,they were too focused." "I can't believe this." "Maybe it's a cry for help." "A-an affair in a stairwell after marriage counseling is a cry for help?" "Well,they haven't been able to communicate in their own relationships, so they do this awful thing where they could get caught because they want to force the communication." "Only we can't tell on them." "It's not like they disclosed this in session." "I don't think the waivers apply." "Well,I'm not suggesting outing them." "I'm just saying,we get them to tell." "How is exposing an affair going to improve communication?" "So we let the secret keep festering till it poisons every aspect of the group?" "It'll become the 800-pound gorilla in the room." "As therapists,we need to acknowledge that gorilla and take steps to deal with it." "We don't know what they feel about this." "We don't know what they think about it.They could be in love." "This could be a onetime thing." "Which is why we need to talk to them." "Look,what I think-- as bad as this is, getting them to confess could be the breakthrough the group needs." "I was rprised that you changed your mind about doing the surgery." "Well,I can help them,nai." "You know,the thompsons,they are desperate to change their situation, for them and for the baby." "And... you made a very good case that surgery is the only way to really do that." "I did,but... a boy?" "The odds are stacked against that." "Gender's not my choice.It's theirs." "And they want him past this." "They want him better,and I can help." "Hey,speaking of better..." "I was thinking of borrowing archer for a few days." "A weekend in palm springs." "You know,sleeping late,getting massages-- nai." "What?" "Do--do you think that's a good idea?" "A trip with me?" "No,no.I mean,just,you know... healthwise." "he--he can go back to work,but--but..." "going to a spa is strenuous?" "no,no,no." "But I mean,you know archer." "I mean,he's--he's-- he's gonna want to play golf,tennis.He'll--he'll push himself." "You don't want me to go." "No!" "No.I do--it's just... why rush it?" "Because I want to go away with my boyfriend,like a woman,like a-a woman with a lover." "Lover?" "Lover.I like that." "That's a lot better than boyfriend." "He's my lover." "What do you think?" "Lover." "no.Yeah,it sounds stupid." "It sounds like a soap opera." "No,no,it's not-- what about paramour?" "Arch,come on.We're gonna be late." "You really need to lea how to knock." "I'm sorry." "No.That's,that's just what I get." "Hey,you okay?" "Don't touch me." "'Cause my sister walked in?" "No.We just...we never shod've..." "I never should've done it." "where are,archer and addison?" "Addison's waiting for him at the office." "It's his first day back." "He's got a lot of work to catch up on,so... charlotte's probably holding his feet to the fire." "Where's archer?" "he,he got stuck at the office." "I-I don't think he's gonna make it." "Aren't we here celebrating his first day back?" "Well,maybe I should call him." "he was with a patient when I-I left." "I'm gonna get a drink." "what***" "Scotch,neat." "What... how come you're not with them?" "I decided I like the quiet." "Yeah,me,too." "I thought you'd be in a great mood." "Archer's back at work,things are back to normal." "Yeah,you'd think." "What?" "Can I tell you something... and you can't tell... you can't tell anyone?" "Anything." "Dison?" "never mind.Forget it." "Hey,don't do that." "Don't--don't shut yourself off from me." "you don'tneed to see my crazy." "you don't think I have crazy?" "do you feel left out?" "No." "I feel... broken." "archer is cheating on naomi... which is wrong on so many levels,but mostly because he's gonna hurt her." "He will,and there's nothing..." "I just..." "I can'T... it's okay." "You're okay." "What do I do?" "People make their own choices." "You can't do it for them." "yes,well,that is.Buit's not--it's not" " I don't think it's-- sorry I'm late." "you want to talk about this?" "Will it help?" "No." "Then what's the point?" "Addie." "Don'T... don't be this guy,archer." "Don't be this limited,short-sighted,not-good-enough guy,please." "Look,I like naomi.I really do." "It's just..." "I'm sorry." "Don't apologize to me.Why don't you apologize to her?" "You know,I hated him.I hated dad for years." "Past tense.Hated.What,do you love him now?" "Now he's your hero?" "I am him,addison." "I am him!" "Like father,like son." "You know,whatever he passed down to me,I'm missing a gene." "You don't think I want to be better?" "You don't think I want to be a good man in a storm?" "I don't have it in me." "That's a cop-out." "Maybe it is,but it's honest." "do you usually do this,have us come in alone?" "Sheldon's never done this before." "Well,sometimes I find things that are best serv outside the group." "What's going on?" "I saw you in the stairwell yesterday." "god." "It just happened." "After the first session,ryan and I,we started talking,and... it was easy." "Everything you said about communication that we coul't do with our spouses, the o of us could." "Are you gonna tell?" "Uh,you can't do that." "Can you?" "You might think that keeping this a secret is a good thing and that holding it in is better, but I think it would be best for both of you to go home, talk to your spouses and work together to try to figure this out." "You came to the group to work on your marriages,to make things better." "Is that still what you want,to work on your marriages?" "We want to be together." "And if telling our spouses is the first step to a new life together... we'll do it." "Instead of wanting to save their marriage,they're just willing to walk away." "Well,maybe it's a good thing." "I mean,if it's not working,why force it?" "I don't know what's worse-- to be faithful in a loveless marriage or to cheat to find true love." "what are we talking about?" "keeping secrets." "That's tough,keing people's secrets." "Yeah,that's why it's better not to." "I mean,if--if you care about that person,you just tell 'em,bottom line." "especially in a marriage." "The bond between a husband and wife is sacrosanct." "Like the bond between a parent and a child." "how is the thompson baby?" "I'm operating today." "The parents want a boy,and I think it's important to respect that." "What about what that kid wants?" "He's a little young to make that decision." "I hope you make the right one." "Are you hungry?" "Frustrated." "Charlotte acts like I'm cheating on her." "I mean,here I am trying to be the good guy... all I get is guilt." "I'm--I'm really not the person you should talk to about this,cooper." "Talk to her." "Charlotte,we need to talk." "Charlotte." "Stop." "Stop treating me like I've done something horrible, like taking care of my friend is cheating on you." "You don't know-- -no,you don't know." "All I've ever wanted to do is make you happy." "I can't do that if you're shutting me out." "Please." "I... addison?" "Addison?" "You ready to do this?" "Hey,I'm sorry we left so early last night.It'S..." "I just,uh,I think archer's just so glad to be healthy again,that we,uh... m sorry.No,never mind.I know... some details I just have to keep to myself." "I asked him about going away,and,uh,we're thinking maybe next weekend." "and I-I came up with a name for him." ""Beau." "" He's my beau." "You know,it's--it's simple and it's a little old-fashioned,but still,I think it's better than "boyfriend." "" I can't do this." "Addison?" "Is something wrong?" "You said it was gonna be hours." "I can't do this.I'm sorry." "I can't do the surgery." "Is the baby sick?" "No,no,no.The baby is fine." "That's just it." "The baby is fine." "But you,naomi,we all want to change the baby into a him,into something that he's not." "So you--you just want to leave him a freak?" "He--he's not a freak." "Well,he is if they don't the surgery." "Please,you gotta do this.Give us our son." "I can'T.I can't do it.I won'T." "uh,okay.Well,uh... if you want a boy,you can still have a boy." "You can take him home and--and call him matthew and love him and accept himfor what he is and raise him so that,when the time comes, he'll make the choice that's-- that's right for him." "And meanwhile,what,our--our kid should hide?" "Be embarrassed,humiliated,what?" "We could protect him." "What do you think it'll be like to be a 6-year-old boy with a vagina?" "Imagine being a 20-year-old woman without one." "We'll--we'll find another surgeon,someone who will do this." "No." "She's right." "We need to think about this." "It is too important to just hurt him this way." "Him.That's right,him." "That in there,our baby,it's a him." "And leaving him like this,it's not right." "I don't want to make a mistake." "Well,I can'T.I can'T.I can't do this.All right?" "I can't do this." "I can't--I can't take that home and hope it turns out right." "I can't--I can't..." "I can't change that diaper every day and..." "I can't do this." "I can'T." "Mitch." "Mitch!" "Did yesterday's session... bring up anything?" "R-ryan came to me." "He--he said he wanted to talk." "I was s-surprised." "It had been so long." "And he had this look on his face." "And he started to tell me all the things that were wrong and how he was feeling,and I guess... it's not all him." "It's me." "It's us." "We talked for hours,and then... we had sex." "s-sasha,come on." "we did." "We can talk about it." "For the first time in a long time,we had sex,and it was great." "Something about it felt new and better and different." "I guess because I felt like he was there." "Ryan,I know that this might be... uncomfortable,but it might be helpful if you could tell us how you feel." "Well,it wasn't what I thought I'd be saying." "But we talked,and I remembered what we had and what we can still have." "I had an affair." "What the hell just happened back there?" "I don't understand what just happened." "You agreed to do the surgery and... this isn't about the surgery." "Well,what is it?" "I thought... that he could be a different person." "After everything he went through,after almost dying,I thought... he could be a different person." "I wanted to believe that so much that I almost cut into a baby to convince myself that people can change,that I can change them." "But I can'T." "Archer's cheating on you." "And I'm sorry." "Nai." "who was it?" "!" "Someone I know?" "£¡ this may be hard to hear,paul,but sometimes an affair isn't moving away, it's reaching out... for the wrong thing." "It's reaching out towards someone who seems like an answer." "But they're not." "They're a crutch,a way to fill the void of something that's missing, the person that you really love." "The person I really love?" "I thought I had lost that with sasha." "I was in the same boat you are." "Maybe we all are in the same boat." "Buisn't it... isn't it worth another chance?" "I think I made a mistake,paul." "I don't care." "you should,because if you want anything to change,you have to work at it." "You--you haven't shared yourself,and I..." "I understand that." "I mean,how can you share yourse if you don't know what you think or you don't know what you feel,and it makes you feel pathetic and crazy and bad?" "And you think that if you share that,then they might decide that... you're as crazy as you feel you are." "But we're--all of us-- we're--we're--we're human." "We make mistakes." "I have,I know eleanor has,and I bet you have,too." "But if you can talk to her about this,if you can open up with her, then I--then I really think you can work through this and ma things better." "you know what?" "I'm done." "I'm afraid that carol will leave me,just like paul did." "You know,when you come home at night and you talk about how great the guys are you work with,I feel small... insignificant." "I know who im and what I am... but it scares me that you'll realize you could do better." "You should've talked to me." "Because I want you." "I love you." "this has got to stop." "When I'm with you,what you do to me... these days,it's the best I ever feel." "Look,beverly" "I-I want to try this new herb-- red clover." "It's supposed to put years and take years off your face." "Bev" " I know what you're gonna say." "You have cancer." "I know that." "Stage ii lymphoma." "I know that." "God,I know that.You don't have to say it." "I do." "I love that you come to see me." "You're one of my favorite patients." "But I've referred you to the best oncologist in town,and you won't go." "You have to go." "I tried.I made it to the waiting room." "but those people are so frail." "I mean,they're bald or worse-- bad wigs and chapped skin." "I c--I can't be like that." "They're sick like you are,but they're getting the right treatment, they are trying to get better." "What if they don't?" "Then they don't,but their eyes are wide open." "They know they can't cheat fate." "They're fighting,the way you should be fighting." "I don't want to be the one... who dies." "Then be e one who lives." "he's gone." "I'm sorry." "I'm going home to new york." "Are you saying good-bye... to naomi?" "Don't tell her about charlotte." "That would hurt her." "Archer,you leaving without a word--that will hurt her." "Dot do this." "Good-bye,addie." "I love you." "Wanted to see how you were doing." "Mitch is gone." "I don't know how I'm gonna do this alone." "I went with blue." "Matthew." "mitch was so excited." "you know..." "I know you want to save him from all that he'll go through, but I think you're doing the right thing." "I hope so." "you do not get to just cut and run just because you're afraid of not knowing what comes next." "There are people that love you and that need you." "Why are you here yelling at me?" "Because its not okay to just walk away and pretend like it doesn't matter." "I mean,to have something incredible and not even see what is right in front of your face... your wife loves you,and you have a healthy child, who,yeah,has some issues,but so what?" "Everybody has issues." "You need to be there for them,love them." "Well,I don't know if I can." "grow up.Be a man." "you need to... not hurt the woman who loves you." "Nice surprise." "I slept with archer montgomery." "I just... thought you should know." "No." "You don't get to just walk away from me after telling me that." "How dare you?" "How dare you do this?" "It's just the way I am. -that's crap!" "You did the one thing you could to push me away, to make me make the choice and not you." "Guess what,charlotte." "That's not gonna work." "I'm not going anywhere." "You want to sleep with some guy to hurt me,to makme back off?" "Too bad." "I'm here." "I'm storming the freakin' castle for you, and you so underestimated me." "What,you thought I was so weak that I'm gonna walk away because my pride got wounded?" "you are mine." "And I'm not walkg away because you're scared." "god." "I am so sorry." "I'm so sorry." "this one..." "I can overlook." "This one." "But you have to think long and hard about testing me, because next time,I'm gone." "You better dig deep,charlotte,dig deep in your soul and grow the helup and be in this relationship ri-right now." "I wanted to thank you for what you said today." "I don't think I got through to paul." "You got through to greg and carol,and we saved a marriage,maybe two." "Trying to figure this stuff out is hard,violet." "I mean,they come to us,they're on the brink already." "If we turn two out of three..." "I say we won." "It was a shock." "I mean the pregnancy." "It was-- it was,uh,unplanned,and I don't often do unplanned." "So this whole thing is unfamiliar territory for me." "And I'm just trying to... roll with it the best way I can." "I know,violet." "And I don't expect you to confide in me." "But if you do need me,I'm here for you." "You taste good." "Really good." "naomi." "What's wrong?" "Uh,what did you just call me?" "What?" "You just called me naomi." "no,I didn'T." "No,I didn'T." "You did." "You warned me." "I thought... i really thought archer had changed... or that he could." "I'm sorry." "I know he's your brother,and,um..." "I know I shouldn'T." "It's not right to say it,but-- -say it." "I hate him." "Me,too."