"KIDS SCREAM" "Four-year-olds ..." "Five-year-olds ..." "Ah, stop!" "This is the best day of my life." "Six-year-olds..." "I don't like you." "Who cares?" "Argh!" "They're at a pivotal age." "Do you like mine?" "Don't laugh." "SHE LAUGHS" "It's not funny." "This is where futures are formed." "This is the President of the USA." "This is a unique opportunity to see the most crucial stage of a child's development." "What they're learning now is the blueprint for adult life." "These children have come from all over the country, to a school where every corner has been rigged with cameras..." "Smile." "..and wired for sound." "Yeah." "Thank you." "Bye-bye." "Previously, on The Secret Life of Six-Year-Olds..." "Oh, please don't kiss me, Elouisa." "Yes." "BOYS:" "Eurrgh!" "Elouisa caused a commotion amongst the boys." "YELLING" "Beatrice struggled with competition..." "Don't worry, I think we'll win next time." "..and found a companion in Elvin." ""I'm going to the beach, so I can get you some seashells," ""love, from your best friend, Elvin."" "ALL YELL" "It's late August and, after a two-week break the six-year-olds are returning." "Observing the children are Professor Paul Howard-Jones and Dr Elizabeth Kilbey." "And looking after them are teachers, Kate and Philippa." "Yes, Casper!" "Oh, it's nice to see you again, mate." "It's nice seeing you again." "I hoped you were coming back." "This week, some new faces have joined the group, including Poppy..." "What's your name?" "Caitlyn." "That's a nice name." "It's really like a clap, really." "Self-five!" "Boop." "..and Leila." "I've got a little sister that punched me in the eye." "Oooh." "It's really interesting to see how, after a break, the children are going to welcome each other, because at this age they've got far better ability to continue the notion of friendship." "Friends." "Hello, everybody." "Beatrice!" "ALL YELL" "They are remembering." "They're greeting each other and there's lots of real, kind of, social graces going on." "It's real currency to start this relationship again on a strong footing." "In their first week together, Elvin and Beatrice were inseparable." "Beatrice, this is for you from me." "Seashells." "Thank you." "Who is your best friend here?" "Elvin." "Not Alvin and the Chipmunks." "Who do you think you might make some friendship bracelets for?" "I'll probably make one for Beatrice." "Yeah." "I'm going to make one for you." "So, whatever friends you're going to make one for." "Why do you like Beatrice?" "Because she's kind and helpful." "This is yours, look." "Wow." "Thanks, Beatrice." "I managed to put two on." "Wow." "Thank you." "What's your name?" "Austin." "Austin, do you want to be my friend?" "Mm-hm." "D'you want to be his, as well?" "I'm the boss of the gang and this is Casper." "I'm the boss of the gang." "For me, hat makes six-year-olds really so significantly different from being four and five, is where your language skills have developed to and what you can then do with them." "No, she's not!" "Yes, she is." "Verbal interaction is now the theatre of their cooperation." "Yes." "But also the conflict, as well." "It's not a matter of stealing toys or pushing people out the way, they know, if they're going to win, they've got to win the argument." "It's the afternoon and the children are painting pictures of each other's families." "OK, that's enough, that's enough, my mum's hair's not that long." "OK." "I think you mean brown, not black." "Yeah, browny." "Yeah." "A bit browny." "How about her lips?" "She usually puts loads of lipstick on, so I can't tell." "I think this task is a real challenge for children of all ages, but for six-year-olds, in particular, we're requiring them to ask questions, ask the correct questions, listen to the responses and then translate that into something they're representing." "Yeah." "Yeah." "Now it's Kash's turn to paint Caitlyn's family." "Don't do a nose." "I don't want her to have a nose." "Sorry, she's got to have a nose." "A big long nose what goes down to there." "No." "Whoooerrr!" "Psshht!" "Oh, look at my big nose, everyone." "'It's quite sensitive, isn't it?" "Because you are painting your 'friend's relative' and your friend might be sensitive about that." "What?" "!" "My mum's always on her phone." "But it don't matter, I'm giving her arms." "Parents, take note." "Yeah." "They've both got something in common - their parents spend too much time on the phone." "Her arms look nothing like that." "Wait, I'm going to do something funny." "No." "No, really, I'm going to give her a black hat." "No!" "I'm not telling you anything else." "OK, I'm going to just do your mum, then." "With a black hat." "Yo, look at my black hat." "Grrrr!" "Stop being rude." "That's not being rude, Caitlyn." "I'm telling you off." "Well, I'm going to tell YOU off." "I am really telling you off now." "SHE WHIMPERS" "TEACHER:" "What happens, Caitlyn, if someone doesn't do what you want them to do?" "Well..." "In a game, they would have to go to jail." "Caitlyn lives in Chingford, East London, and has two brothers." "Mum Kylie is an online developer and dad Michael runs a chimney business." "This, it's my special princess box." "She is a real bossy boots." "She even bosses ME around." "She does boss you around, yeah." "All the time." "All the time." "Daddy's girl." "If I go to a disco, I just have to wear this dress, because it's so pretty." "My brothers are always playing together at home and I don't really have anyone to play with." "We should play dress-up." "Who's dressed up the best?" "I don't know." "'Because me and her dad aren't together,'" "I've told her mummy isn't having any more babies and mummy's finished." "So she did ask if we could swap one of her brothers for a sister." "Stop it!" "If she's losing her temper, she will stomp her feet, she will scream." "WOMAN:" "Do you ever annoy your big brother, do you think?" "No!" "But generally, she manages to hold her own corner and get people to come around to her way of thinking!" "Kash was being rude." "No I wasn't, Caitlyn." "Stop lying." "You were!" "No, I wasn't." "Cos he done a black hat on my mum and I didn't want you to." "You're not coming to my birthday." "It's going to be really fun." "Good, you're not coming to my birthday." "I don't even want to come, because where do you go for your birthday?" "Build-a-Bear Workshop, where you can make your own teddy bear." "Well, I'm going to a bigger place." "I'm having two birthday parties." "I'm having three birthday parties." "Now, you're just being doing more rude." "How am I being rude?" "Is that being rude, Casper?" "I-I'm having even more birthdays, I'm having three." "Is that being rude?" "This is why Caitlyn loses the argument, because actually she runs out of words, her emotions become so strong that she can't think of anything to say, she..." "She can only express herself with a "Grrr!"" "And that's the point where she thinks "I'm going to have to leave."" "This is a lie now, this is actually..." "No, she hasn't said you've done anything, Kash." "She started it." "No, it was because of you." "I just done that, but she just told off me." "That's how it started." "Because you did draw a hat on my mum and I told you not to." "ELIZABETH:" "This is the playground of six-year-olds." "They're almost honing their skills in the...in the social currency of conflict, provocation, retaliation and insult." "I don't like you." "Who cares?" "HE likes me." "Grrrrr!" "What?" "Nnn." "Conversation." "Yeah." "It's mid-morning and the children are bonding in the playground." "Do you know what idiotic means?" "Do you?" "Mm." "Say it, then." "I'll whisper you it." "Do not tell the teacher." "Do not. (Idiot.)" "Idiotic means idiot." "No, it doesn't." "Yeah, it does." "Know what it actually means?" "F-U-K." "F-word." "As they're now becoming interested and are having contact with things that are of interest to adults, so you see those - those adult themes beginning to enter into their play." "I love Taylor Swift." "Do you know Bad Blood?" "Yeah." "# Now we got problems" "# And I don't think we can solve them" "# You made a really deep cut" "# Cos baby now we got bad blood" "# Hey!" "#" "Guess what, Taylor Swift and Katie Perry actually punch both of their selves in the face." "They are naturally interested in things that are of interest to adults." "Yeah." "Because that provides those things with a value." "Erm, when I grow up I want to be a princess." "Policeman." "With a police dog." "If I can't be a princess, I will just have to go to university." "Cowgirl." "Yee-hah, giddy up, giddy up!" "I want to be a nurse cos I really like animals." "What do you want to be when you're grown-up, Beatrice?" "SHE MOUTHS" "I just want to be a normal person." "Hello, this is...we're back, we're on Sky News." "De-de-de-de!" "THEY HUM SKY NEWS THEME" "Stop it!" "I'm trying to eat over here!" "With me, Elvin, and...what's your name?" "Beatrice." "Num-num-num, sorry, sorry, I'm just having a snack." "OK." "Oh, he's Sky News." "Yeah, this is a Sky News programme." "Oh, I see." "So they're actually enacting how events are communicated in the adult world." "So, while we're still... there was a train attack on the... on a French train, to Paris." "And they even killed the conductor." "Yeah." "Woo, sad news, isn't it?" "International terrorism is now becoming a theme of play among six-year-olds." "Oh, I know." "I'm not sure I want to think about that." "No, but it does mean it's important to be talking to children about these things so they understand the significance of the event and the value that adults attach to them." "Yes." "Oh, have you seen that blow-up in China?" "Yeah." "Because that was on the news before the telly, there was like a blow-up in China." "Yeah." "Yeah, and - and - and like lots of people died." "Next, plane attack in Surrey on the S21." "They don't know why but they're going to find out." "I've got to hand over to Tay at the A21 that's been closed off." "Here you go, Tay." "Yay, so let's just watch that plane for a sec." "What you doing?" "We're doing some work." "Kash, get out the way, you'll be filmed." "We're on set now." "Sh." "What I love about Beatrice is even when you're playing, you've got to follow the rules." "She's very structured, she likes it just so." "Yeah." "Excuse me, can I get another piece of orange?" "Yeah!" "I think that Beatrice is attracted to types of play which are quite structured and Elvin does provide that sort of structure." "He's a very - in a very friendly way and a very explicit way, so it's very clear." "On the London Underground, there's planning to be more strikes than ever." "No, that's not true." "It...we're on Sky News, we're pretending." "It's because I know really about the Underground." "Can I be on telly, boys?" "No, we're on Sky News!" "Can you move out of the way?" "We're being filmed." "Go on, move out the way, would you?" "Thank you, Tay." "Let me hand over to Beatrice." "Er, well..." "What do you think would happen if we had no rules?" "Everything would start getting really crazy." "Beatrice is an only child and lives in South London with mum, Nancy, dad, Wallace and dog, Daisy." "Five, six, seven, eight." "Nine, ten." "Blast off." "There is a structure to her day and to her week and she knows how she fits in to the house." "When I've done a little mistake, I get "oops" stickers." "She'll set herself a task and she'll get really absorbed in it for hours and Radio Four will be on in the background and she'll just be really focused on reading or assembling a robot or something like that." "Don't put your hands up in the air, silly billy!" "She does have very meaningful relationships with the people around her." "And she is a bit like a sponge as well." "She kind of soaks up some of their personality traits." "Naaa!" "If she's playing with a child where they're really enjoying doing something which is kind of borderline naughty, then Beatrice " ""Ooh!" "Yes, we'll have to have a go at this, cos look great time they're having,"" "you know, so she'll join in." "Do I look cool?" "SHE LAUGHS" "Inside, the children are getting ready for a special day." "Elvin?" "Yeah." "It's Elouisa's birthday today." "THEY GIGGLE" "Look at Elouisa's cake." "Do you like it?" "I really want to eat it right now." "Erm, my mum made it last night." "This is not just a cake, this is Beatrice's cake." "And that changes the dynamic." "It's Elouisa's - it's for Elouisa." "Elouisa can't have all of that." "Hey - hey - hey, don't touch it." "Don't touch this bit." "Who is it?" "We don't touch these bits." "No." "No." "Leave this, all of you." "No!" "Don't touch it." "There's a sign on the front saying "Do not touch"." "Yeeaargh!" "No!" "It's the strength of which she sticks to a rule - you know," "I'd leave the Crown Jewels in Beatrice's hands, you know, she knows what's right and wrong, what she's doing and what she's not doing." "And that sometimes does put her at odds with her peers who are testing or flexing the boundaries all the time." "You can look at the cake but don't lick it." "I think it's important to be able to break the rules sometimes." "Because it's quite difficult to ever do anything unique in life if you don't break conventions." "No." "No." "No." "No, no, no, no, no." "Uh-uh-uh-uh-uh-uh!" "There's a reason why naughtiness can be so enjoyable and if you're always following the rules you don't experience that." "Phew!" "It's the afternoon, and whilst Beatrice and some of the children are outside with the teachers," "Leila, Caitlyn and the others are preparing party food." "Um!" "This cake is yummy." "Mm, mm, mm!" "Oh, Leila!" "Ah!" "Oh, no, this is not going to end well." "Oh, that's a serious..." "Oh, you won't be able to stick that back." "Oh, you'll have to eat it." "THEY LAUGH" "Oh, dear!" "What I want to do is eat the whole cake." "I might just try a little icing." "Beatrice is not here to protect it and this is what...this is exactly what she was afraid of." "Mm." "Mm-hm." "Can I tell you something?" "Did you know that I actually ate one of the little cupcakes?" "I ate one of these." "Look." "There was a cupcake there." "They're going to know." "And guess what?" "I'm going to tell." "No!" "Oh!" "I'll tell that you ate it." "I was just joking." "I'm going to tell that you ate it." "I was just joking." "OK, so she immediately tested that reaction, and quickly she knows it's going to impact her relationship, so she backs away." "Yeah, it has made Leila very aware of her vulnerability, though, hasn't it?" "Yes." "Yes." "Maybe someone naughty did it." "Like me." "I'm naughty." "Naughty girl." "Naughty girl!" "No, I didn't do it, though." "What's the naughtiest thing somebody could do?" "Erm, steal something from the teacher." "Or...steal a whole house." "SHE LAUGHS" "Hi, guys." "Erm, guys?" "What?" "There's a bit of a round hole on the icing..." "I don't know who made that." "..of the cake." "Erm, Leila, do you know what happened?" "No, I don't know who did it." "We never saw who took that bit." "Caitlyn, have you got anything you need to tell me about the cake right now?" "I have...totally no idea." "Mm." "I've totally no idea." "No." "All right, so if somebody did do that on purpose, what should the consequences be?" "They don't get any birthday cake." "Do you think so?" "Like a million chores." "A couple, not a million." "Then 75. 75." "75 chores?" "That's too much." "Is it too much, do you think, Leila?" "Erm, maybe five chores." "Maybe five." "Maybe five." "Five chores?" "Yes." "Yes?" "Or maybe we could just forget about it." "Yeah." "Yeah." "OK, there's the tell, OK?" "OK." "Maybe the cupcake did fall off on the floor and then someone did accidentally step on it and that cupcake did stay on their trainer." "Their shoe?" "Yeah, not me." "Er, not me." "See, Caitlyn's basically committed now to this cover-up." "Yes." "Because she's producing some details of her own as to what might've happened." "But it is..." "So I imagine Leila's feeling a bit safer." "But it is forging something between Leila and Caitlyn that as we see the week develop, it may continue, and it may also be on the bottom of someone's shoe and we should rule that out as a possibility." "Not me." "Don't know." "Not me." "Not me." "No, not me." "Who's going to make a story for us?" "Me." "Hiya, what's your name?" "I'm called Rapunzel." "It's halfway through the week." "Caitlyn is the last to arrive and the others are already playing games." "Ah!" "She screamed, "Ah!"" "You are not a baby, you are a witch!" "A wicked witch!" "Can I go after you?" "Yeah." "Look how high I'm going already." "Don't go too high." "You might get sick." "Ow." "Are you OK?" "Oh." "Go on." "Elouisa is keen to reintroduce a favourite game from last week." "Not on the lips!" "Not on the lips!" "Not the kiss chase again!" "Not the kiss chase again!" "Go on." "Now you're really kidding me." "Kash, Kash, Kash!" "Kash!" "HE LAUGHS" "Guys!" "I think we're in big trouble now!" "THEY SQUEAL" "Elouisa!" "INTERVIEWER:" "What are you scared of, Elouisa?" "Nothing." "Play kiss chase." "'Although Elouisa can be a little bit mischievous, 'she's got a fantastic imagination and she's bright.'" "You're looking at somebody with very strong social skills." "To orchestrate a group, you need to understand the motivations and the needs of every individual within it." "Beatrice and Poppy, help me." "You have to, erm, lie on top of them and I have to make sure they stay still, and then I have to kiss them all, OK?" "OK?" "OK." "She understands that Beatrice appreciates being given some very clear directives, and that's the strategy she uses." "Beatrice, go!" "Go, go, go!" "Run!" "Whoa, Beatrice!" "We like trying to kiss all the boys." "Let me in!" "I kissed one boy, which is Kash." "He's my boyfriend." "I'm bored." "An hour into the morning and Caitlyn still hasn't joined in with any of the groups' games." "It's difficult when we arrive late at something where everybody else has been there for some time." "You feel that everyone knows more about what's going on than you." "It's like arriving at a party and the conversation's already in full swing." "Caitlyn can look around her and she can see that, actually, these games are quite well established, she doesn't know what the rules are." "It's a little bit more difficult to get involved." "Caitlyn?" "What?" "Why are you sad?" "Because..." "Your monkeys?" "My teddy bear monkeys." "Are you also sad cos you have no-one to play with?" "Hm." "Do you want to play with me?" "OK." "What do you want to play?" "The sister game?" "But I'll only play it if you let me be the eldest." "You are the oldest." "OK." "So, come on." "Sister, we've got to go to school and I've got to take you." "INTERVIEWER:" "Can you tell me about your friends, Leila?" "I have one friend that's my best friend, but I don't know if I should be her best friend because she bosses me around." "Leila lives in south London with mum, Jackie, dad, Dedgie, and little sister, Suri." "Look up." "I would like to be probably a make-up artist." "Ideally, I'd like her to be a strong black woman, scientist or physician, or, you know, one of the professions where there's not many black women." "But I think, looking at her, she's going more towards the creative, performance career." "Come on, swing on more vines, side to side." "Woosh, widgy woosh!" "'Leila's always been interested in just having one strong friendship' where it's very intense, very close, and then that friendship develops quite strongly." "OK, so..." "We need to make some rules about this club." "OK." "Caitlyn has decided to form a girls' club." "You have to join the club today if you want to be in the club." "That's rule number one." "Assistant Number One, I'll get the hideout ready and you tell everyone, "If you want to join our club, join it today or never."" "OK?" "OK." "If you need me I'll just be in the clubhouse." "Do you want to be in the girls' club?" "But what is it called?" "I don't know." "Erm, do you want to join our club or not?" "Girls' club." "Ur, no." "Would you like to be in the girls' club?" "No, thanks." "Would you like to be in the girls' club?" "No." "No-one wants to be in the club!" "So, Poppy, rules say you're around our club garden and our Clubhouse." "Come on, let's go." "Being in a club makes you feel special." "It makes you feel special because some people can't be in the club, so it's really about exclusivity." "Hi, girls." "Hi." "Do you want to help us get ready?" "AMERICAN ACCENT:" "Oh, yeah." "You don't need to talk like that." "Well, I can if I want." "But normally we just talk our normal voices." "Yeah." "That's a good idea." "That's not your normal voice." "OK." "But if you want to join the club you're never coming out of it." "But, you see, Leila, I'm going home to Plymouth so I won't be in it any more." "Come on, we've gotta go!" "You don't need to go anywhere, we just stay here." "In the garden, and get it ready." "Yeah, we don't go anywhere." "We don't even go over there." "OK." "Are boys allowed in the Clubhouse?" "Uh-uh." "This Clubhouse is for girls only." "She says that I'm her assistant." "Or something like that." "Poppy has decided to focus on her hula-hooping rather than attending the inaugural girls' club meeting." "I don't think Poppy wants to play any more." "It's amazing." "Let's go and ask Poppy why she wanted to leave the Clubhouse." "Maybe we can sort this out all today." "Poppy?" "Yes?" "Why did you want to leave the Clubhouse?" "I mean, we let you hula-hoop." "Well, because..." "I wanted it to be a game." "But a club, it isn't a game." "A club is a real thing." "Poppy?" "Pretend I'm a girl train driver." "We will shortly be arriving at Herne Hill." "We're not playing." "OK." "That means that I'm playing by myself." "The next station is Herne Hill." "In the last few days," "Beatrice has been spending more time with Elouisa and less time with Elvin." "Beatrice is my best friend and I like..." "like playing with her." "And also, these are my new socks." "THEY SING" "This is a real departure for Beatrice cos she just doesn't normally play with things in this way." "Yeah." "THEY LAUGH" "Elouisa..." "SHE LAUGHS" "'I like Elouisa because she's just crazy.'" "Good crazy, though." "Good crazy." "I'm dizzy." "Oh, no, no, no..." "She likes toilet humour, does Elouisa." "We both say, "I need a poo."" "I need a poo." "It always amazes me the effects children can have on each other, so how one personality can really shift." "Yeah." "Cos Beatrice would never normally do anything like that, would she?" "No." "It's raining, it's pouring, I need a poo." "It's raining, it's pouring, we need a poo!" "I'm not ready yet." "'People have an effect on us, 'and Elvin has such a calming effect on Beatrice, whereas Elouisa' is kind of the opposite..." "Pushing her to do things she'd never normally think about." "But that's actually quite a good thing for Beatrice." "I need a drink!" "It's up to you." "What did you say?" "INTERVIEWER:" "How do you feel, Elvin, when Beatrice plays with some of the girls?" "Happy." "So Beatrice has more friends." "So you don't feel sad?" "No." "I need you guys to stay in your chairs, not to move a muscle." "It's the end of the day, and the children have been set a challenge." "So place it on your heads." "Remember, staying in your seats." "If you manage to stay in your seat and keep the beanbag on your head while Phil and I are out, then you will get..." "Chocolate coins!" "Ahhh!" "All right?" "I love chocolate coins." "Anyway, chocolate makes your teeth go rotten and fall out." "The game starts in three, two, one, go." "Stay there." "THEY LAUGH" "Yours fell off, you don't get a chocolate coin." "It just has to be there when they come back in." "Yeah." "THEY GIGGLE" "No, it didn't fall off, I catched it!" "It's gotta stay on your head." "Aww..." "OK, all of theirs fell off." "All of theirs fell off." "No." "No." "Excuse me, excuse me..." "You have to be very focused to keep that bag on your head." "Yeah." "It sounds like Beatrice was the one who stayed in the seat, and she didn't touch it with her hands." "Would you agree with that?" "Do we get any chocolate coins?" "Do we?" "Well, I was pretty clear about what you had to do to get a chocolate coin." "Can you give me one?" "Beatrice, can I have one?" "One time she gave me one." "Thanks." "Can I have one?" "How comes Elouisa gets one?" "Best friends." "What?" "No you're not." "Yes." "Yeah, but I thought I was Beatrice's best friend." "It's not fair." "Elvin is my friend." "In fact... ..second best friend." "Me and Beatrice shared." "TEACHER:" "All right, guys." "It is home time." "Bodger!" "It's the children's last day together." "Oh, no!" "My hairstyle is getting badder and badder." "Well, Momma, I'm going to make the perfect potion for you." "Caitlyn is taking a break from girls' club to play one of Poppy's games - fairy-tale hairdressers." "In friendships, we always have to compromise, we have to negotiate, so it's really important to be able to learn to do that." "Do you think this hairstyle is good?" "Yes, it's fabulous." "Oh, very good." "Do you think you're a bossy person?" "Sometimes." "Caitlyn, can I be in your club?" "OK." "Pinky promise?" "Leila?" "Yeah?" "Now Poppy's back in the club and she pinky-promised with me." "OK?" "She's in the clubhouse." "Come on, let's do our clubhouse ready." "Yay!" "THEY LAUGH" "LAUGHTER" "I'm sitting next to Beatrice." "Yes, Beatrice, last time you was sitting in this seat." "For their final task, the children have been split into two groups." "Beatrice is on Team Stardust and Elvin is on Team Winners." "OK, each team will have a turn to act out or draw the word for the rest of their team to guess what it is." "All right, so over there." "All right." "Are you ready?" "So, Team Stardust, your time starts now." "Move your head so they can see." "Butterfly." "That's one point for Team Stardust!" "CHEERING" "Now, look at my awesome drawing." "All right, well done." "Water!" "Water!" "Yeah!" "CHEERING" "Time is up!" "CHEERING" "Tell them what it was, Elouisa." "Hairdressers." "All right, so no points for that one." "Whooo!" "Losers!" "Monkey!" "Turtle!" "A pig!" "Bzzz..." "ALL:" "Bee!" "With the scores tied, it's Beatrice's turn, with the word "worm."" "Person, er, jumping in a puddle." "No!" "SHE LAUGHS" "Guy in a boat!" "No, no, no, no." "And time is up!" "What was it?" "It was "warm."" "Oh..." "I thought it was, like, "warm," but it..." "Oh, it was actually "worm!"" "Silly me." "Oh!" "LAUGHTER" "Don't worry, Beatrice." "HE GIGGLES" "The winners - hang on, don't clap yet - are you ready, Team Winners?" "They were laughing at you." "Start now." "It's very difficult not to feel happy in a game when your competitors fail." "And we know this from behavioural studies, we know it from brain imaging studies, that when your competitor fails, you get a reward response." "That is going to stimulate some emotion." "We're not going to win." "And Team Winners have six points." "CHEERING" "Yeah, yeah!" "We win, we win!" "You lose, you lose!" "We win!" "We're the winners!" "You lost!" "They lost!" "Yeah, they lost!" "Losers." "Maybe he was just celebrating." "But sometimes celebrating can hurt someone's feelings." "Team Winners, do you..." "I just noticed, erm, a couple of people on the other team are a bit upset about losing." "It could have been because of the way that you were celebrating." "They were like this, "Tay's team lost!" "Tay's team lost!"" "I didn't!" "Stop lying!" "She just wants to get me in trouble." "Move your chair forward." "No." "We don't." "Yeah." "Stop lying." "You guys are trying to get us in trouble." "No, we're not!" "Yes, you were." "No we're not!" ""Losers," like that." "They went like this." "This is how they went, "Losers, losers."" "What d'you think makes a good friend?" "Um, being nice and caring for each other." "Sorry, Tay." "Sorry, Tay." "Sorry." "That's OK." "Beatrice, do you want to help me make my Minecraft book?" "Yeah, Minecraft." "Yeah, come on." "It's fun." "Yes!" "That's a great idea, Beatrice." "Come on, let's go tell Cait." "Come on!" "We're making Minecraft world." "Yes, Minecraft!" "It is really impressive to see Elvin's emotional competence in this situation." "He understands how Beatrice feels." "He understands that he needs to make an apology sincerely, and he is also able to think about what sort of activity they could both be involved in that would make Beatrice feel better and would repair the relationship that's been jeopardised." "Being able to listen to the children in this naturalistic, sort of, a way, you begin to understand how incredibly important the social relationships are for their learning and how much they learn from each other." "I can go round backwards." "It's been fantastic watching and hearing these six-year-olds independently making sense of the world around them, and it's been a real privilege to witness that." "Smile!" "Smile!" "Cheese!" "LAUGHTER" "To Beatrice." "Sorry for taking icing from your cake." "Subtitles by Ericsson"