"Do you want more to drink?" "I'll just drink a little." "I can't handle too much." "I'm leaving." "Don't walk on that!" "It's dangerous to walk like that!" "It will be big trouble if he jumps over!" "I believe that we human beings all came into this world with nothing." "One has no condition to destroy himself." "You can't." "Every person, every citizen, every life doesn't have the right to destroy oneself." "Only to protect this precious life." "I was watching you." "I'm not a bad person." "I'm a volunteer on the bridge." "I feel that you're a little... that you're struggling." "I've never been here before so I'm here to see it, but I'm not in a good mood." "Let me tell you, you'll feel worse later, especially if you're not in a good mood." "This bridge kills people." "Don't do anything foolish, ok?" "There's a saying in China." ""The prosperity of a nation is everyone's responsibility."" "Even a horse feeder has this responsibility." "How can we avoid this?" "I know that you can overcome anything." "The reason I'm persistently committed to rescuing people on this bridge is to wake up more people's sense of responsibility and love, to care for one another." "Hello Metropolis, this is Sunny from Shanghai." "I just came back from Nanjing, which is famous for its bridge over the Yangtze River." "The Yangtze River Bridge is the longest bridge in China:" "150 meters tall." "It's also the most popular bridge in China for people to commit suicide." "Many people have committed suicide on this bridge." "Mr. Chen wants to stop and help those people." "Every weekend he comes to the bridge to patrol and to look for people who are about to jump." "He likes to read books about psychology and he saw so many reports about people who commit suicide from the news lately, so he thought that he should volunteer his time patrolling the bridge and help people with the knowledge that he learned." "Our reporter saw Mr. Chen's heart-shaped sign that says," ""Nothing is impossible." "When God closes a door he opens a window."" "I want to help the people who want to commit suicide." "I want to pull them back to life." "Mr. Chen said he started patrolling the bridge yesterday." "He already talked several people who were thinking of committing suicide out of it." "He hopes that he can put this sign up somewhere near the bridge so that whoever needs help can dial his number." "My name is Chen Si." "I started working as a volunteer to try and save people from committing suicide on September 19th 2003." "Suicide is not just China's problem." "It's also an issue that the whole world is facing." "Of course the suicide rate is slightly higher in the developing countries, because the gap between the rich and poor is much greater." "How come you're in such a bad mood, Big Sis?" "I know your burden is too heavy, and your mind is overwhelmed." "What difficulty can it be?" "Sufferings are normal." "You look like a person full of prosperity." "What's on your mind that you can't think through?" "Right?" "What situation can you not get through?" "What situation?" "What's wrong?" "Do you have a disease or something?" "I really can't stand it any more." "You think you can escape suffering by avoiding the problem?" "I think it's useless to wait for my husband to change his mind." "Can I help you?" "What's the use having a brain if you don't come up with ideas?" "Can I teach you?" "I'm useless." "It's useless no matter how well I treat him." "I'm absolutely helpless." "Let me tell you, sticks in a bundle are unbreakable." "Tell me, what's his situation?" "Is he having an affair and won't come back?" "It's no use if his heart doesn't belong to me." "How many kids do you have?" "Just a daughter." "Let me give you some counselling." "I have solutions." "He met a foreign lady in Macao." "That lady is 4 years younger than I am." " He's got skills." "How can he be true to me when he's having an affair?" "How do you think he would treat your daughter after you die?" "Today you met me, your Big Brother." "Let me give you an idea or two." "If I can't resolve your issues, then you can proceed with death, ok?" "Ok, come with me." "What's wrong?" "Even if the sky comes crashing down," "Big Brother will watch out for you." "Have something to drink." "At least have some water." "Just feel at home." "Drink some water." "Could you eat the fish?" "It tastes good." "There are bones." "Can you eat?" "I'll give you one without bones." "I don't want to eat." "But you should." "No thanks." "If you don't eat it, it will eat you." "Your wife wanted to commit suicide today on the bridge." "If you just sat here and I didn't know you were her husband, I would think you are a bad egg." "Now, I know you are a good guy." "I can tell it from your face." "My analysis of your face is the first stage of psychological assistance." "Now, from her face I can tell she is a lucky person, but she has some psychological problems." "It's really not easy for a person to live in this world." "Remember, you and your spouse are lovers when you are young, a supporter in your middle ages, a helper when old." "That means that you're her leg, and she's your leg." "Now you and your husband are both here." "Not all things are the other person's fault." "That's impossible." "Of course you have also made some mistakes." "I just want you to make a serious effort to run your family well for your daughter's sake." "Please remember that." "Please work hard for the family." "I must survive for my daughter, and will never think silly things again." "I will follow your advice." " Yes, and if there's any difficulty, he has my mobile phone number." "I have your number, and I'll never forget you." " Ok." "That's nothing." "We are going, Big Brother Chen." " You both must be like this." "If your husband bullies you again, I am here." "He never bullies me." "If he is still confused, I am also here." "At first my wife predicted I would only do this for a short time." ""You can't stick to it forever, and how many people can you really save?" "Soon you will quit."" "I thought I should at least do it for a year." "A year later I felt I really saved a lot of people." "In 2005, I was awarded one of the top ten best volunteers in Nanjing." "Then in 2007, an Outstanding Individual of Justice and Courage in Nanjing." "I don't really think about it much." "As long as he loves what he does, I'm fine with it." "It's the amount of time that he's spent and the consistency he's had that I admire the most." "He's done it for so long." "He can do whatever he wishes as long as it doesn't interfere with our family." "Where are you now?" "I have left the bridge and now I am having dinner at home." "I see." "What makes you feel bad now?" "Me?" "I feel like right now there is too much pressure on me." "I'm not a psychologist, but I will comfort and guide you." "Now your problem is that the pressure on study is heavy and you cannot catch up with others in class, which makes you worried." "You can watch some fish swim back and forth in a tank or look at some flowers." "And then?" "This will make you calm down." "Thanks for trusting me." "Call me if you have troubles." "All 8th grade social books in the entire country have my name and phone number in them." "You can imagine how many calls I get." "I'm still working at a logistics company, called Ping-An Logistic Company." "When I hear the news about people committing suicide during the week it deeply hurts me." "At about 3pm this afternoon an unidentified male jumped off from the Yangtze River Bridge at the South Port." "The police hope to find this man's family members to identify him through our news." "When the police got there he was pronounced dead." "The police couldn't find any identification to identify him." "I felt that it'd have been ok if I had gone there." "I can't help it because I still have to work at my own job during the week." "I can't be fired by my boss, or else" "I won't have the money to complete this mission." "At about 9:30am an unidentified male was in a bad mood and he was emotionally unstable on the Yangtze River Bridge." "At around 4:30pm today an unidentified male jumped off from the Yangtze River Bridge." "We don't know whether he's alive." "Chen Si, a volunteer on the bridge, told our reporter with deep remorse..." "When I ran over here, this person was already gone." "Only a bag here and some scratches on the guardrail over there from when he jumped." "Nothing I could do." "It's too bad." "The number of people I failed to save over the years is at least 80 or 90." "I sometimes would convince myself that it's useless to always stay so anxious every day." "But the ones I failed to rescue have had a profound impact on me." "Yeah, one more!" "I come here to relax and release some pressure." "Let's turn this thing on." "I'm going to steal some vegetables." "There are a couple of watermelons," "I'm going to steal them." "There's nothing else in here." "Actually, my wife always yells at me about drinking." "Look at why I'm drinking." "Must get drunk or else the heart is unable to release." "The heart is too crowded." "I've tried to talk to people many times about what's in my heart," "but in our country, there are very few people who will listen to you." "So I came to the conclusion I must either write a diary or blog, or just face the corner of a wall." ""I am really in a bad mood." "I am depressed!" "I feel lost!" "What can I do?" "I have no idea about politics, but I love people." "Maybe I love myself more, but if one doesn't love himself, how can he love those people around him?"" "You've dated for 5 years." "How long have you been married?" "Not yet, but we're engaged." "Oh, engaged but not married." "It's not easy to live here." "Not easy." "This place is not for humans." "I've read somewhere that if the distance is too high, if someone jumps, the water will feel like concrete." "If someone jumps there's no way he'll survive." "Impossible." "As soon as he starts to jump, he's dead already." "Before he even touches the water, he's already dead." "The heart is dead." "Once the heart is dead, there's nothing left." "A question people often ask is why do people go to the bridge to commit suicide?" "In their minds it's not about the bridge, it's about the Yangtze River." "They believe that the Yangtze River is the "Mother River"." "No matter how many difficulties or hardships they have, they would like to return to the Mother River." "Let the Yangtze River wash them." "Many just want to die clean." "They don't want anyone to know they've committed suicide." "They just want to disappear from the world." "Leave no shadow to friends and relatives." "I told my wife that I was going to visit someone in another city." "I left all my personal belongings, including my ID, at home." "I wanted to leave quietly without a thing." "With nothing, just myself." "I didn't want to put any pain on anyone, you know?" "I walked onto the bridge quietly." "I chose the middle of the bridge." "If I didn't stop for one last cigarette I wouldn't be here." "As I was putting out the cigarette" "There was a loud sound of brakes and he was right next to me." "He said, "I'm a volunteer on this bridge." "It is my duty to protect the bridge." "If you don't leave, I don't leave." "You must come with me."" "I think at that moment everything in my mind was messed up." "I must've said some very bad things to him." "He just said that if I went with him he'll take care of everything." "That's all." "So at that moment I couldn't argue any more." "He cheated me down from the bridge." "I saved him in the year 2006." "I asked him, "Hey, are you ok?"" "How he responded I'll never forget." "He said, "Is this bridge yours?"" "It was when I was starting my business." "I had too much pressure from the loans." "I spent all my money on my daughter." "She's had this illness since first grade." "Leukaemia." "He said maybe you can't pay back the loan, but if you are gone, you are turning the loan over to your wife and kids." "I share with him all the important things in my life." "It's also a way of release for me." "The most important thing about rescuing people is dealing with the aftermath." "So I thought to rent an apartment for ¥5,000 per year." "Most of the source for the expenses comes from my wages." "I named it "The Soul Center."" "Do you remember when you left your home?" "About 7 o'clock." "7 o'clock, morning." "Why did you want to commit suicide by jumping into the river?" "My wife hits me a lot, and doesn't allow me to eat." "When I saw you back on the bridge, you just wanted to die." "Yes, whenever I want to get some food to eat, she would break my bowls at once saying that I should die." "People would rather live bitterly than die peacefully." "But she always curses me to die." "So you would do it?" "!" "Yeah, what should I do?" "Nothing, but go and die." "No one can communicate with her, and no one will." "Drink some water." "It's not right to get drunk by yourself." "You drank too much." "Being drunk is all." "It helps me die." "I don't know what else I can do." "All right." "Fetch some water for him." "Don't think anything else." "Please calm down first." "So will you connect with his family?" "Yes, I will, but now it's not proper." "This matter can't be solved at once." "I tell you, once he eats well we can settle this matter." "However, we cannot let him sleep." "Sleeping makes him confused." "Maybe we can call a doctor to come?" "This kind of doctor will be difficult to find." "Our procedure is to maintain and observe the rescued people after they are taken here and convince them to eat, and communicate with them for a day or two, and then we look for their weakness as a breaking point to continue further counselling." "Normally, we would request the students majoring in psychology at Nanjing University to do the counselling, or we would hire a psychologist from the clinics in Nanjing." "Our station is a platform for the rescued people, and people with issues to make a transition, to live, and to communicate." "This man, Mr. Chen, what he does I think is very meaningful and also very touching." "The number of people who've committed suicide or who attempt to commit suicide every year is really, according to the official report, is surprisingly high." "We see this kind of report very often." "The 26th "World Suicide Prevention Conference"" "was held in Beijing on September 13th." "Almost 290,000 people commit suicide annually in China." "This represents one third of all the suicides worldwide." "Last year, the series of ten "Foxconn"" "suicide incidents was unforgettable." "My God!" "I was over there and I was looking at him, and 'pa' that person just fell down." "He still had a little breath coming out of his mouth when he hit the ground." "This little girl's family name is He and she is only 15 years old, from Zhe Jiang." "She had been trafficked out of her village." "She didn't have any relatives or money and was wandering the streets for about 15 days." "She came here to end her short life." "I thought it will be just a jump." "I'll be forever free once I jumped over." "He probably did something terribly wrong." "He knew that he probably couldn't get by and he would get arrested." "Or he was a thief." "He probably is not from here." "I started to do this volunteer work because" "I also come from outside the city." "I learned from the media that 60% of the people who commit suicide here are from outside of the city." "I understand these people." "I know that they have tried hard to make a living here." "They've had difficulties, but had no place to go." "No one to help." "They carry this heavy burden by themselves." "When they can't bear it they decide to commit suicide." "Don't pull me." "Don't pull me back." "What's wrong?" "What trouble do you have?" "Talk to me." "Let's go over there and talk about it." "I am also one of them." "This is my village." "It has changed a lot." "Wow, this truck is full of crap." "This kind of stuff is everywhere." "Where do they find so much plastic?" "From the whole country." "A strong smell of plastic." "Suqian is a very poor and primitive place." "Get up slowly." "Do not strain." "When we were not busy, my grandmother would always take me to mediate neighbourhood disputes." "A couple quarrelling, some innocent person wronged, needed my grandmother's mediation." "So when I was young, I got a habit from her," "I became nosey." "So as I grew up, my grandmother's behaviour had a big impact on me." "Take care of yourself." "Don't be afraid and worried." "I'm living the way, just like you taught me." "Great." "It's swelling here." "Words cannot express the importance of the life lessons my grandma taught me." "What are you doing standing here?" "Huh?" "Why are you standing here?" "Playing." "Standing's not allowed here." "Did you experience some setback?" "What?" "Got some setback?" "I haven't been able to find a job." "People say even if you pick garbage for a living, you still won't starve to death, right?" "What are you doing here?" "Nowhere to go without a job?" "What is it?" "I can help you get a job, ok?" "What?" "I can help you get a job." "What job?" "You wanna do it?" "I do." "What?" "I do." "If you wanna do it, you won't worry any more." "You won't come here any more." "Come with me." "Sit on my scooter." "Come with me." "I will give you some living stipend, then try to get a job for you." "Your accent sounds like you're from Subei." "I am from Suqian." "You are also from Suqian?" "Wait, something's wrong with this old man." "Stand there, don't move." "At your age, you have already seen everything, right?" "Yeah." "You experienced everything." "Exactly." "What are you struggling with in your heart?" "What did you think I'm doing?" "I'm afraid you'll jump." "You can't do that." "A public bus." "Oh, you over here." "Hey sir, can you take a passenger?" "Can you stop your bus?" "One." "Two." "Three." "Let's talk after you get off the bus." "Thank you, sir!" "Slow down a little." "Chen called me and said that he saved a person on the bridge who came from our hometown." "I asked what the man did before, and he said that he was a electrician." "I said if he really had troubles then he could come to my place." "We do machinery install and painting." "He will do electric welding." "Xiao Pan, listen." "I asked the boss already." "The salary won't be too low, so you don't have to worry about that." "It includes your food and board." "If you do well, we will pay you a bonus." "I have to work hard and listen to what the boss says." "Yes, yes." "This is Xiao Pan." "Take him to his dormitory." "Which bed is his?" "This one, that's good." "Thanks a lot." "I'll check up on you later." "You be well." "You should listen to them and work well, ok?" "Could you use this key?" "Tell me or the boss if you have troubles." "You have my phone number." "Have some rest." "It's kind of a bad day today." "I may not be able to go to the bridge!" "My wife broke her foot from playing badminton with me." "A situation like this, we suggest conservative treatment." "No surgery." " I see." "Yes, no surgery." "You'll need to keep the cast on for a little over two months." "The cast can be taken off if the bones are healed." "All right." "Okay." "Thank you." "Come, on my back." "Come on." "Don't be shy." "Up we go." "How much is it?" "¥2." "You can eat the rest tomorrow." "I'll stir-fry some vegetables." "Is there is any meat?" "Hello?" "Hello?" "Speak, please." "Talk with me if you're having any trouble?" "Hello?" "Just go if you are busy." "You're not experiencing a break-up, are you?" "When I see a person with a pen writing something I'm worried." " Oh, it's nothing, nothing." "I see you are writing "I love you", but please don't ever write "farewell."" "You won't?" "No, no." "Shake hands." "Good, live for yourself." "Even though I'm doing this without professional guidance, and I'm doing it all by myself," "I've gotten a lot of professional experience." "We must first learn how to recognize those attempting to commit suicide." "As long as I get within twenty meters I can determine if someone intends on suicide." "The way he walks and how he behaves can tell you if he's sick in his mind." "What's wrong with you?" "Is everything ok?" "Nothing's wrong." "You can't lean on this, ok?" "This place is only for walking." "If you're not in a good mood and you stay here, your mood will become worse." "Ok, take care of yourself." "In the first two or three years, I've often been slapped in the face and cursed at by people." "Sister, I see that you are in a bad mood." "A little bit, right?" "Were you bullied by a man or..." "I'm a Chinese volunteer, I'm not a bad guy." "I save people." "I see that you are dealing with a lot of pressure right now." "It's nothing." "Talk to me, stand over here." "A human is composed of carbon and water." "Sometimes as strong as iron." "Sometimes as weak and fragile as an egg." "You must deal with your problems yourself." "I just happened to run into you by chance." "There are five types of people committing suicide in my summation:" "The first type is a sudden drastic change." "It's easier to save these people." "As long as I can control them and get them out of danger, and give them time to heal, I can save them." "Come with me." "Come." "Come with me." "Leave me alone." "You'll die if I leave you alone." "I want to jump!" "I'm trying to save you." "If I fail, you can attempt death again." "Let's go." "Sit on my bike." "Soon, you'll understand what a big mistake you have made today." "Let's go." "The second type are those suffering from psychological problems." "In our country, our standard of living is getting higher and higher, and so is the increase in psychological problems." "Pack up your bag and come with me." "I have a few friends and we'll try to help you." "How much do you need?" "Thank you." "Here's ¥20 more to get some food on the way." "Ok?" "The third type are people at the advanced stage of a terminal illness." "For these people, the success rate is very low because they cannot bear the pain of their disease." "Hello, what's going on here?" "What's wrong?" "Are you sick?" "Is your heart ok?" "What's wrong?" "Is your head ok?" "The fourth type is domestic violence." "Most of these occur with women, though there were a few men, too." "Another type is emotional." "A problem in a relationship." "If you think you are hurt and injured I can help you." "It's a girlfriend problem, isn't it?" "In China, suicide due to relationships make up about 30% of all the survivors" "I've rescued over the years." "Love can make people commit suicide." "My name's Dong Dong." "I'm 22 years old, and I'm from Jiang Su, Xu Zhou." "I'm here to study." "This is my school, Nanjing Normal University." "Chen Si said that he's a psychologist and that he could help me a lot." "I have written on my blog, that I have received about five thousand text messages" "asking for help in a year." "About 90 percent of them all ask," ""Is there any cure for a broken heart?"" "But ultimately, I feel, it only takes time." "When it comes to relationships, people love going into a dead end." "We just keep breaking up and making up, making up and breaking up, like this." "We've spent almost 8 months together." "What you need is acceptance." "If you can accept the sufferings, you will naturally have this open-minded thinking and cultivate an open mind." " It's easier said than done." "There are only two paths." "You must think about only these two paths in your head." "One is to continue, and the other is to hit the road." "Just these two thoughts." "There was this girl volunteer who helped me revise my blog." "We developed our friendship for a year, but in the end, I still tried to guide her back to the right path." "My wife is very nice." "It's impossible that I would just leave her." "I wouldn't leave my kid or my wife." "In my mind, even though I was living with my wife, every single day" "I was still thinking about that girl." "It doesn't sound good." "Whenever I see someone who looks similar to her, even a shadow, my mind feels like it's been electrically shocked in that moment." "But I can only blame myself." "There's an old saying in China:" ""Sadness is greater than a dead heart."" "I sometimes think I would probably feel better if I die." "But I know that I'm just trying to escape my responsibilities." "I don't know what to do." "I'm lost." "Suicide is a very shameful thing in China." "Therefore, everyone buries this past in them and won't reveal it to others." "That's why I invite so many survivors and volunteers to every Christmas party." "Thanks to everyone for coming to the party." "I hope all of you can fulfil your dreams, and that your wishes come true in the new year." "On such a Christmas night," "I would like all of you to forget the past and have a happy future." "Let us live in the graceful beauty." "Thank you." "I wish I could write a novel about why his temper and heart are so big." "Brother, the deeper your emotions are, the more you should drink." "Bottoms up." "Most people won't be able to persist with what he does." "In fact, he has pressure from his family, but he won't give up." "Thanks to my wife for her support during the past 7 years." "She is a really good wife." "He's spoken to me every day since" "I walked out of my depression." "I feel that it became easier for me to go through the difficulties." "I can hold onto life now." "I found a job and go to work everyday." "My duty is to send bearings to any company that needs them." "It's not so well paid, but enough to support the family." "Rice noodles." "Miss, I want a kilo of rice noodles." "1 kilo." "¥1.3" "It was cheaper yesterday." "Why did it become so expensive overnight?" "Yup, overnight." "Now I work just to kill time." "My daughter is going to graduate from the university." "She has to find a job, and if she can find a good job, buying a house won't be a problem." "I'm just wasting time now." "I'm stumbling through life." "I'm depressed." "But I should be optimistic." "I received a phone call saying that my grandma was badly ill," "and she died at 10:45 that night." "My grandma did good things her whole life." "My grandma was very brave and strong." "She could bear the difficulties, but never do anything bad to others." "She left in my mind the grateful kind of love, and the courage to face difficulties and dangers." "This is the valuable asset that my grandmother left to me." "The most I want to say to her is that, these years, I wasn't at home," "I just tried to make a living, and had not taken good care of her." "I feel sorry for her." "I hope that she can go to heaven now." "She always says that," ""Nothing is impossible with a willing heart."" "I have too little experience in love." "I should learn to accept it's a process of growth." "It's a journey." "Not that you have to accept him." "You don't need to accept him." "I mean, I should learn to accept the reality." "To face it." "You need to have the right thinking." "One's state of mind is very important in life, you need to be careful." "People, when we are feeling great emotionally, we can handle failures or mistakes." "Everyone needs mistakes." "The point is that we all grow from them." "I know that she wanted to say goodbye to the past, and she wanted to look forward to a new beginning." "But in reality, it's not easy to just come out of this." "Emotionally, it's really not easy." "I'm going to talk to her more and I hope that she'll soon be ready to start a new life." "Often times, my grandma would ask me to pick tons of beans." "I asked, "When will I be able to finish picking them all?"" "Slowly, I managed to pick them all by hand, one by one." "A person won't live long if he thinks of himself as a hero." "I have deeply understood and realized that we are all like small ants." "Many huge achievements were done by us little people." "One time I went to a temple because I felt so sad and had so much guilt." "I met a master whose words were very encouraging to me." "He said, "You only need 2 minutes to save someone." "No one can really save him except himself." "Even Buddha can't save everyone." "You save him in order to give him the time to make a transition in his life." "Don't think they are your burden." "Don't take it as your full responsibility."" "I have acquired and understood a sense of my own value and success." "I have gained the happiness of those who have been saved, who are using their love to help others." "This feeling is what I've gained the most." "Actually it's not easy for anyone to live in this world." "Everyone will meet difficulty." "Everyone will feel stressed and tend to over-analyse their problems." "If we take the difficulty and slow down a little, just like I said, there is always a way out." "If you step back, there is always a bigger space for you."