"Asian women are very domestic, economical, and faithful." "They also adapt well to their husband's desires." "A Philippine woman is faithful, modest, family oriented, diligent, calm, lovely." "The perfect wife for me." "Having a Philippine wife, you can consider yourself lucky because they are excellent mothers, very attentive - especially to their husbands - faithful and very good housewives." "Guidebooks say that they're very exotic, lovely, cuddly, petite, and, most importantly to me, that they are not as emancipated as European women." "Asian women are very neat, friendly and always laugh." "They're faithful and would never get in my friend's car without me." "They like to cook and are the best wives ever." "The ladies' characteristics are that they're domestic, faithful..." "They're also the perfect spouses." "The Last Real Men" "Mixed marriages between Austrians and Asians." "My name is Karl Schwingenschlögl." "I am a secondary school teacher in Vienna." "I am 43 years old and divorced without fault." "I have an 8-year-old daughter from that marriage." "I own a single-family home in the Vienna Woods, do a lot of sports, in particular East Asian martial arts." "I also like Austrian wine and speak two languages perfectly, English and Italian." "I am a very sociable person and love children and animals." "Above all, I'm a man in his prime years." "I run the household, so I'm not looking for a maid." "I can't cook, but I can open cans." "I can reheat leftovers from the restaurant." "I can iron, even shirts." "Better than some women." "Do the laundry, look after the household." "Keep order in the house." "When my friends come, they're always surprised of how tidy it is here." "The ideal wife should be domestic and willingly take care of the household, her husband and the children." "She should find complete fulfillment in her intended role as a mother and a homemaker." "and try to be happy with it." "Fact is that the man is head of the family and that the woman should accept her subordinate role in order to ensure a harmonious marriage." "Hello, I am Nepa from Bangkok." "I'm 19 years old." "I'm looking for a faithful, wise man who is chubby like Buddha." "I can read all your wishes in your eyes." "I like to sing and laugh and I love flowers." "I like to cook and go to church every Sunday." "And I would do everything my man expects from me." "I am Catholic and work as a beautician." "And I'm looking for a man who understands me, is educated and has a good job." "I'm living with my mother and eight sisters." "They want to have many children, too." "If you like to laugh and dance, come to my paradise to get me." "My dream is to have beautiful children with an Austrian man." "Please send me a ticket if you are faithful and honest." "Whether I like it or not, sometimes I think about the old days." "Mr. Krieger, you have married a Philippine woman." "How did you get that idea?" "First, I have to say that I've been married before." "With an Austrian woman." "And I am totally disappointed with Austrian women." "Why was the disappointment so big?" "I am also divorced and disappointed with the Austrian women." "I've been thinking about it, but how was it in your case?" "I think Austrian women are a little bit too emancipated." "Only a little bit?" "And I can tell you that I'm having a much better experience with my current wife because she is a rather quiet type." "You mean Austrian women are not so quiet and talk louder?" "Well, she sometimes has a different opinion." "And now, my opinion is the primary one." "That's how it should be." "Why are women to blame for broken Austrian marriages." "Very simple." "Because most of them do not want to have children." "They only want to have a good life." "So they don't want children." "Why is that?" "Because they limit your a lot of your freetime for some years." "That is to say: vacations, nights out, etc." "You could take turns: "One night, I stay at home and you go out."" ""We both enjoy our lives, but raise our children together."" ""We care for them together."" "I think that's..." "Go on vacation by myself?" "Where should I go by myself?" "I don't think that's a good idea." "Were your former relationships too emancipated for you?" "In my case, the girls were always domestic, familiar, nice, friendly at the beginning." "They really pampered me." "But after the emancipation movement, they tried to change that." "They didn't like it anymore." "They tried to gain more independence." "Does that also apply to Philippine women?" "No, not to the Philippine women." "And to the Austrian ones?" "It did apply, yes." "In what way did things change?" "In my case, my girlfriend who I lived together with was more and more often out with like-minded people." "She was not interested in cooking and cleaning anymore and said: "Why should I do that?" "You can do that as well."" "Well, she neglected everything." "And then I found out that she had another boyfriend." "So that was the icing on the cake." "First she neglected the household and then, boom, she gets a new amigo." "Well, I've a bad experience with Austrian women." "In what way?" "She cheated on me." "And she wasn't very sophisticated, either." "You mean it didn't work at all?" "We were like two poles that didn't fit together." "What did she want and what did you want?" "She often went to discos with her friends." "Disco, disco, disco." " And you don't like doing that?" " I do like it, but not all the time." "E.g., her going out by herself." "She'd sit around in the discos many nights." "She's independent, so I don't even condemn it." " You mean she's too independent?" " It's not good for a relationship." "You either accept it or not." "So I either sit around at home alone and she goes out or I go with her and she does what she wants there anyway." "I don't mean with anybody else, but..." "So there isn't a possibility of you both going out." "Of course!" "I'd go there and she'd go there." "But then I don't need a relationship, nor a wife." "That's my kitchenette." "Here's my gas oven." "You can do a lot with it." "Cooking and baking." "After use, I clean it right away to avoid problems." "That's how long it takes to clean." "And that's my freezer." "And my grill." "I have to clean it right after use." "That's my coffee maker." "My refrigerator." "And my sink." "Due to a shortage of space, I have to put my tools in here." "My small dishwasher." "When I don't have time, I put everything in it." "And my washing machine." "And the garbage." "And here's my dryer." "And my second refrigerator and coffee maker." "And that's a lot of work in the house." "I have to clean everything up there." "So much work." "And here's my second kitchen." "It's bigger than the other one." "Here's the sink." "That's my electric stove." "But now I only use the gas oven." "Due to a shortage of space, my husband made this so that everything fits." "My bread cutter." "My microwave." "There's also the satellite dish and the TV." "I also have to clean here." "So much work in the house." "In the evenings, my husband and I sit on the corner bench." "And we eat and watch TV together in the night." "If you marry a Phillipine, it was very important to me, to marry a young woman." "This has to be said in an open and clear manner." "My wife is significantly younger than me." "And you also have to like her in the photos." "What were your criteria for choosing your wife?" "Her photo?" "She shouldn't be ugly." "Hobbies." "Of course, what's the point if the woman is beautiful, a model..." "There's this saying:" "A beautiful bowl is no use to a hungry man if it is empty." "So I chose her because of her hobbies and mainly her character." "It was more of a coincidence." "I was already divorced and disappointed with women." "So I said no wife again." "Then I went on vacation and was faced with a mentality that overwhelmed me." "Where did you go for your vacation?" "I went to Thailand for 4 weeks." "First, we made a round trip." "Then I met a woman on the beach." "By chance, I got to know my current wife through her." "I was at a German agency." "They were showing some pictures to me." "Then I've contacted the lady." " With her picture and address?" " By her picture and address." "So, I contacted the lady." "And the lady wrote back to me." "It cost me 50,000 schillings." "Well, you can do a lot with that in Austria." "That's right, but after a while, you will get it back because Philippine women are very modest." "So it's cheaper because they live more economically than Austrian women." "Absolutely." "It affects..." "How does it show?" "You can see it in the way they dress." "You can see it..." "just everywhere." "So they buy cheaper clothes." " She buys her dress..." " She looks at the price and... buys it as cheaply as possible." "I know from my broken marriage..." "my wife has ordered at mail-order shops and the first item cost me 75,000 schillings." "That's the cost of international mail order." "If I had ordered that, it would only be 1,000 schillings." "And it would be paid right away, it's cheap and would be done." "What else is cheaper?" "How can you save expenses with a Philippine woman that an Austrian woman wouldn't do?" "I have to say that I don't want to save with anything because" "I don't intend to make big profits." " Yes?" " Yes." "Yes." "But to answer your question." "If we're going to save with something, which does not mean to..." "You save mainly with clothes." "You save with food." "This has an effect on the upbringing." " Yes?" " Meaning she helps you without being stingy." "Yeah, I often say to my wife, "Just buy something." "Buy a dress or something." "Just something for about a thousand schillings." "Just buy it." "We have enough money for it."" ""Why?" "I don't need it." She's right because she doesn't need it." "Principally, the whole thing is not very cheap." "That is assumed because you also have to pay for the agency." "You have to pay about 25,000 schillings for the agency." "And you also have to fly there." "Only with if there's success?" "Yes, but success is 100% assured." "You can count on it." "My husband is 25 years older but I don't mind." "He is a very good husband if you understand what I mean." "I also understand him." "And my friends and relatives are also great." "(?" ") my husband." "When I have some work at home where I get dirty she might take my clothes away by noon and I have to put on new ones." "I say, "There's no point in it."" ""It doesn't matter." "Just put them on."" " So she takes care of when you wear what." " Yes." " What clothes you take for what work." " Yes." "Well, when I'm at school I need a new, ironed shirt every day." "Now, I have do do the ironing by myself, of course, because I'm alone due to my divorce." "But I don't like doing it." "I just do it because nobody else does it." "Could I expect a Philippine woman to iron everything I tell her to?" "If you just show it to her and she is sort of ambitious, no problem." "Since Philippine women are quite ambitious, if they want to do something better than somebody else, they learn very fast, you can be sure that your ironed shirt will look like you just bought it." "So she has to learn it first?" "Don't they have it over there?" "Partially, yes." "It always depends on where she is from." "If she is from a city, she can handle electric irons." "If she is from the countryside, she can only handle coal irons." "No, there aren't any problems regarding cleanliness." "So your former Austrian wife didn't do that?" "There wasn't a choice back then." "Let's put it that way." "So she had to..." "I made sure of that." "She should, yes." "Do you now help your wife in the household or does she do it by herself?" "She does it almost by herself, but if she wants it, I help her." " Does she want that?" " No!" "You never touch a vacuum cleaner?" "I might touch it once a while." "It's not like I don't do anything." "For sure, I sometimes do things." "But my wife is dutiful, so I don't have to do much." "My wife is very clean." "Her bodycare in general." "She brushes her teeth after every meal and showers two or three times daily." "The first thing she does in the morning is take a shower." "She sometimes takes a shower at lunchtime after cooking because she says that she smells of steam from the kitchen." "That's ridiculous." "Then in the evening before she goes to bed." "Our home is cleaned and dusted every day." "I first had to teach her to dust on top of the cupboards because they don't have any cupboards back home like us." "Besides that, everything is fine." "She irons my clothes and piles them in the wardrobe like I didn't even do in the military." "She learned everything at home, except for the washing machine." "Because in the Philippines, they don't have washing machines for normal households if they live in the countryside." "You have to explain that to her." "But once she knows how to handle it, she won't have any problems." "And if you can't explain it sufficiently, just pay a visit to me with her." "And my wife will tell her in their native language how to handle a washing machine." "Let's say 90% come with you." " Right away?" " Right away." ""So I have to choose one and in three weeks, you come with me?"" " And she'll say yes?" " Immediately." "As a European, I wouldn't do it because I don't know what kind of person I'll get or where he lives." " The risk is quite big." " He could also be a pimp or such." "Of course, she doesn't know where she'll end up." "Well, she thinks that we're better off than them." "If tourists can afford to come there, they think that we live on the fat of the land and don't work or anything." "Neither do they understand that we have pension, health care, etc." "They don't have things like that." "They don't have social security." "The thing is that the women you meet there don't have many options to choose from." "Thus, the selection is primarily done by the man." "So you met her over there and was it over a longer period of time?" "If you want to marry a Philippine you do the choosing, not her." " So the man decides." " Right." "And his decision is usually accepted?" "That's right." "I do everything possible to be a valuable woman to the man." "My role in our marriage would be a housewife." "Of course I will help to give birth to children." "My name is Angelika Esparagosa." "I am 21 years old and live in San Carlos City, Negros Occidental, Philippines." "I'm 23, like cooking, go to church on Sundays and feel very feminine." "My name is Jing-Jing dela Torre.." "I am 20, 114 lbs and 5'1"." "My future husband should be Austrian, over 45 and not divorced." "So if I let a Philippine woman come to Austria, marry her, what should I keep in mind as an Austrian man?" "I don't really understand." "It's another culture." "What should I keep in mind?" "What can you advise me?" "You need to be extremely careful with other women." "Be careful, also when you talk." "For example." "If you walk along a street and say," ""Did you see that woman?" "She's pretty."" "I'd be careful with that." "The disadvantage of Philippine women is that they get jealous easily." "And also accept the man's jealousy if he really is?" "Or not?" "Well..." "I am not jealous because I know that my wife will never cheat on me." "I have never wasted much thought on being jealous." "There has never been a reason for it and" "I think that Philippines are like that in general." "Maybe you don't know, but they don't often have divorces in the Philippines." "I've heard of that." "It isn't provided for by their law." "And I believe that parents teach their children that once they're married, they should stay together with their spouses and that divorce is unimaginable." "What would a Philippine woman do if she found out about an affair?" "What would she do?" "Everything would be over." "Which means?" "The marriage is over." "I heard Philippines don't get divorced." "What does she do?" "Annoy him for the next 30 years?" "It doesn't need to be a divorce." "She would probably return home." "That is to say she flies back." "So she doesn't get divorced, but seperated and goes away with the children?" "Or what?" "It's hard to tell with the children." "I'd never let my children go away." "It's getting difficult with the children." "That's why I didn't want to marry an Austrian." "But there isn't a affair going and there never will be." "Sounds very positive." "I was just curious of what would happen in that case." "I can only imagine another relationship if an accident happens." "But I don't want to talk about that because you needn't think of it." "So you rule out that you have an affair." "It will never happen." "Thus, we don't have to talk about what your wife would do then." "That's right." "I married a Philippine because" "I want to start a family and have a woman for life." "If I wanted to have affairs, I'd have chosen an Austrian wife." "Whether I like it or not, sometimes I think about the old days." "Dear Belle!" "I was very pleased to see a beautiful photo of you." "I am a teacher in the city of Vienna." "I teach German, History, and Geography." "I got divorced nearly five years ago, but it wasn't my fault." "My wife cheated on me and went away with another man." "And I have an eight-year-old daughter called Denise, who is a good and pretty girl." "I know that in the Philippines a divorced person is like a bad person." "But I assure you that in my case, I am innocent." "I hope you can understand me." "I own a beautiful house near Vienna where there's enough space also for a greater family." "I am 42 years old and I don't smoke." "And I am a trainer in Jiu-Jitsu, Karate, and Aikido." "I hope you're interested in getting to know me." "Please write to me." "I'm currently technical director of the Austrian Vice Association." "I teach karate, kick boxing and then aikido, judo... (?" ") karate." "Besides, I am third (?" ") and fifth (?" ")." "And fifth (?" ")." ""Fleckerl" with cabbage." "Fleckerl, fat, oil: 20 g, smoked bacon: 40-60 g, onion: 80-120 g, cabbage: 400-600 g." "100 g pork dripping, 700 g onions, 3 tbsp sweet paprika, 2 cloves of garlic." "A little bit of water." "Noodles or roast potatoes." "And cabbage." "I personally don't eat Philippine food." "You don't at all?" " Actually not." " I do like it." "There are one or two things I like but I don't know their names." "The only thing I don't like are those shrimps." "But I like to eat everything else." "In our house, we only eat Austrian food." "Besides housekeeping, my wife learns German in the adult education center in Favoriten." "If she has any questions, she comes to me." "And I try to explain it as well as possible to her." "Dada, we have here the problem with the definite article." "You read this here, please." "Mrs. Kreiner tries ... "eine Hut." (~a hat)" "That's not right because when you're speaking in the nominative." "You say "der Hut," "die Hut," or "das Hut?"" ""Das Hut."" ""Der Hut." That means that it's masculine." "And in the accusative, it's "einen Hut."" "That means you speak correctly." ""Einen Hut."" "Yes." "Mrs. Kreiner tries a hat." "The next." "The blade of a hatchet." "You know, where you grow trees." "You know, this." "Axe." "Yes, in the woods." "Open here, you know." "In the belly." " What does it say? "Aufge..." - "Aufgeschlitzt." (Slit open.)" "The trio threw axes through the room." " What are axes?" " This ... axe." "But when you have more than one, you say "axes."" "Axe is one and axes is more." "Axe is one and axes is more." "I would call Philippine wifes obsequious, quiet." "Who accept their man's opinion." "And if that's the case, many issues disappear." "And then you don't have to talk about emancipation, either." "But if she really disagrees with you on some points, what does she do then?" "Then she doesn't talk at all." " She keeps silent?" " She keeps silent." "When a Philippine girl is here for some time, does she get more dominant?" "Or does she stay the same when she is in Austria?" "Or does she adapt to be an Austrian women and learn to emancipate?" "Like does she talk back and make her own decisions." "Or doesn't that happen?" "It does happen partially." "None of her friends, yet." "Meaning the longer she stays here the the more she wants to..." " ...have a say?" " Have a say, yes." "Let's put it that way." "Isn't it bad for the East Asian woman when she, or actually for the Austrian man, when she lives here for some time, can't she absorb bad habits from Austrian women?" "Of course she does." "I think that happens to every person that they adopt bad habits from where they live that are convenient for them." " I think so." " So it is better..." "It is better to get your Asian wife directly from her homeland." "Because she doesn't know the flaws of our country, yet." " But she will learn about them soon enough." " But she isn't here long enough." "I know you have enough patience for me if I am not the perfect wife to you at first." "But all the mistakes I've done before won't be discussed or mentioned anymore." "Well, the good news is I'm still continuing my diet and so far I've reduced a bit of my weight." "I haven't got my hair cut because I know you want my hair long." "Otherwise, I'm the same." "Dear father, I still love you, but not that much." "Dear Karl," "Today was one of the most wonderful days in my life because I received your letter." "And know I'm holding this ticket in my hand that means my whole future to me." "The ticket to Europe, to Austria, to Vienna." "To you." "Oh Karl, I'm looking forward to this moment when I can look into your eyes at the airport." "And that will be reality." "But I must say I am afraid of that as well." "Afraid because I do not know if I will be the perfect woman you expect." "But moreso I'm happy." "Happy, happy." "Thank you so much for all and kisses." "Your Luce-Belle." "So she's coming." "Belle; elegant and a housewife." "Always a sugary smile." "In Schönbrunn Palace." "Little girl from the Philippines." "Pretty woman." "Luce-Belle." "First snow in her life." "Home, sweet home." "Last trip with Belle." "A farewell forever." "Six months later." "When did she tell you?" "That she flies back?" "A few weeks before our scheduled wedding." "And how did you react?" "Besides being disappointed." "I did tell her about my disappointment." "Everything was already organized." "The invitation cards were already printed." "Everything was already settled." "I noticed that the closer our wedding came, the more anxious and withdrawn she became." "She tried to avoid me." "That's obvious." "Because you were the fool." "And why did you want to choose her?" "She was homesick." "First she didn't say anything about it." "I sometimes saw her on the terrace looking into the stars." "I went out and asked Belle what was going on." "Of course, we spoke English." ""I miss the Philippines and my friends."" "Also her mother, but that wasn't decisive." "She missed the whole country." "She was partially..." "For instance, when I was at school during practice, she was alone." "That's life's reality." "I wanted to confront her with it anyway." " I can't from work..." " Of course you can't." "It was even during summer break when she was here." "In September, school started again." "Maybe that change was too much for her." "That I was only there for some hours in the afternoon." "For her." "You should have sent her in for some German lessons." "She would have been busy." "What were her hobbies?" "No hobbies in particular." "She took care of the household but that's rather a duty than a hobby." "She didn't talk about her hobbies." "She just adapted to my interests." "Did she want to have a child right away or not?" "Not right away." "She primarily wanted to have a job." "Also here in Austria." "At least part-time." "She wanted to fulfill her dream of a good job." "Maybe she would have thought differently if she got pregnant right away." "I thought so, too." "But it would have been a little bit insensitive." "Maybe the reason was ..." "Philippines usually get married as virgins." "I don't know what happened in those three months but maybe you pushed her a little bit too much." "Something's strange here." "Why's she going back home?" "I accept her homesickness, but you can compensate for it." "Did she really love you?" "I am very careful with the word "love."" "After two big disappointments." "Long-time girlfriend and long-time wife." "I don't think that one falls in love when meeting each other at the airport." "Neither she nor I." "I can say she is nice or cute." "And she might say that I'm a handsome man." "That may be." "But speaking of love." "Love is getting used to each other, accepting the flaws of each other, a mutual trying." "You can only do that over years." "True and big love only lasts for a few months, anyway." "And only then, it shows if it's deeper love." "That is if you stay together for the rest of your lives." "So I don't think it's good to say, "I saw you and fell in love."" "I don't think that this will happen at my age."