"HONEY IN THE HEAD" "Everything I know about the illness of my grandfather," "I know from my pediatrician Dr. Ehlers." "Mein grandpa has Alzheimer's." "People who have that, forget much." "In fact, I forget often what homework I have to do, or to brush my teeth." "But with Grandpa is different." "My parents wanted to put him in a home for the elderly." "That's why I had to take in hand the matter." "We two got to Venice." "There grandpa would remember more." "Although it was 40 years ago, when he made grandma a marriage proposal." "People with Alzheimer's brush his teeth three times because they forget that they have been cleaned." "But they know exactly that they have used flossing 25 years ago." "I forget this always." "Hi, Dad, hi, Mom, I hope you are doing well." "Don't you worry about us." "Grandpa and I are sitting on the train, but you'll see that." "And..." "We ate breakfast already." "Chips, because they are so healthy." " Want to say something?" " What?" " Who?" " Dad and Mom." "Hello?" "Hello?" "They're gone..." "In any case..." "I love you." "Until tomorrow or the day after." "Ciao!" "Where are you going?" "In the bathroom." "Oh shit!" "Grandpa!" "Hey, it was you?" " Remain standing." "Police!" " Grandpa!" "Grandpa!" "So, we are:" "my grandpa Amandus and me." "I now understood why grandpa is the way he is." "Why my parents are the way they are," "I believe, I will never understand." "Why aged people change their mind?" "My parents are talking constantly what was last week or will be in future." "My grandpa just doesn't remember." "I mean, what will happen tomorrow or happened last week." "And I think sometimes it's not so bad after all." "Actually all started when grandma died." "She gave, so to speak, a touch of glamour to our village." "She wanted to discover the world." " They'll burn her?" " Who?" " Well, your granny." " Are you crazy?" "Then she'll be eaten by worms." "But she'll be in a coffin." "They come through." "Can we change the subject?" "Okay." "As long as a man is not forgotten, he lives in our memories." "What is at a grave stone of a chimney sweep?" "I don't know." " "He never returns."" " Funny." "Dear Amandus, in our last conversation you wished to tell yourself something about your wonderful wife." "Margarethe was... just great." "Much more she was:" "magnanimous and so..." "so full of warmth." "And I'm not just talking about her large breasts." "I know you know it all." "Is that to say if the woman is just died?" "Margarethe has always laughed at my jokes." "But I have also eaten up her last apple pie." "That..." "That..." "That is covered with spray cream." "She no longer has baked for years." "And I really couldn't smell it." "But..." "I've done it again and again." "Because man is, after all, a creature..." "A creature of habit." "I really wanted something else." "So perhaps plum cake." "Or, ahn, apricot tart or..." "Here, ahn..." "How we say here..." "Ahn, marzipan cake." "Or... yes!" "Cream puffs." "Cream puffs I also like very much." "The..." "The best marzipan torte, by the way, is..." "What's its name?" "At the crossroads, where she have after..." "Afterthought." "Yes, she kissed my ass." "Grandma!" "What I would now give for a piece of your apple pie." "My Elisabeth." " Elisabeth?" " That was his mother." "What shall I do without you now?" "Niko, I..." "I just hope that you also find one day a so wonderful woman as it was your mother for me." "Oh!" "See you soon, my lovely." "After the funeral Daddy has offered Grandpa that he only once draws us." "But grandpa didn't want to." "He didn't want to leave grandma alone." "Daddy then sometimes drove me to grandpa at weekends." "We went then always to Grandma's grave and laid flowers on it." "At home I was often alone, because I am a latchkey." "My parents are there and they often argue because daddy had sex with another woman and mum at the Christmas party then made the same with her boss." "Daddy was really angry, but grandpa said:" ""What the rooster may, that may the chickens also."" "Grandpa was in fact vet." "Daddy always says that the farmers just pretended that a cow was sick, because they found it nice when grandpa comes to visit." "When daddy told that, he was always very proud od grandpa." "One day he called us and said he no longer found the way to the cemetery." "Grandad!" " Grandpa!" " Hello?" " The police called." " Why?" " Your father is with them." " Where?" " At the police station." " Why?" " Now hold you." " Better not." "Tell what's going on." "Better not." " I'll tell you what's going on." " Say it." "He made a missing person's report." " From your mother." " No, no?" "You must meet him." "They keep him there." " What is?" " Come, let's pick grandad up." " Hello." " Rosenbach." "I want to pick up my father, Amandus Rosenbach." "Oh yes, who has reported his dead wife as missing." "Here." "He has forgotten this with us." " Who is this?" " My mother." " When she was young." " This is the mug shot." "Where is he now?" " At home" " Why that?" " You wanted to hold him." " He wanted." "And he was never driven with a police car." "Tilda!" "My little principessa!" "Look, I also know that one from somewhere." "Come in." "Nice that you visit me." "Here, sit down." " Do you like a cookie?" " With pleasure." " Grandad?" " Yes?" "Why are all your things to eat in the bookcase?" "In the dishwasher was no more room." "Mm." "Ahn..." "Looking for something?" " The cleaning lady?" " I've fired." " How so?" " She stole." " What?" " The jewelry of your sister." "I have no sister." "But you always wanted one, right?" " Here." "Everything is still there." "Ah." "Margarethe." "Isn't she beautiful?" "All were after her." "Everyone wanted her... but she had for me..." "So..." "She wanted with me." "You were with the photo to the police." " Why?" " That I wanted to know from you." "I probably wanted to brag." "Oh, my God." "And?" "How was it?" " Where?" " In the police car." "Oh, that..." "That has paid off." "Here." " It's not real." " Yes, look at it." "Look, point..." "That's loud!" "Oh, yes!" "Say, have you still all?" "Where did you get it?" "At least not from the media market." "What do you think when you pull on us?" "That should not be a problem." "If you need me." "But only if I can bring some of my sea... here, ahn... seagulls." "One, two, three, four, five." "Another three and I've won again." "Amandus?" "I thinking about my next train." " We don't play chess." " Mom, let it!" "Okay, then think about your next train." "If I go to the left, she cuts me from behind the way." "That would not be wise." "That wouldn't be wise." "But if you go along here, everything is free." " What do you mean?" " Look." "Hier ist not good." "That's what you said." "Here ist the danger of an... ambush." "And here is a long free path." "Thank you." "Oh." "A six." "A six." "One, two, three, four, five, six, seven..." "So." "You have a six, not ten." " Are you crazy?" " The game has rules." "Who is in favor to play according to the rules of grandad?" "Oh." "Not a scratch!" "You can, here, ahn..." "invite." " Invite?" " Great." "Here is it the "Hidden Camera"?" "Niko, that was not settled." "It was about his favorite things, but he drags his whole furniture." " A refrigerator!" " That's his bookshelf." "this botch doesn't fit our style of furnishing." " We are not a junk room." " He hangs on his clothes." " He like that." " How nice!" "I need a circus trainer." " Watch it, you Hobbit!" " Watch out, man!" "So poor, but nothing in the head, man!" "Fuck!" " The refrigerator into the bathroom." " Halt, Amandus!" "Either this scrap comes in the barn or in your room, but only in there." "Departure, guys!" "Here." "We have forgotten." "Thank you." "Everything back." "It's good." "You are the one for me." "Amandus, reach me the bread?" " Ye, ye." " Amandus?" "The bread." "The bread." "What about it?" "Thanks, but I've actually asked your father." "Amandus, please stop." " That is really annoying." " Mom!" " It is true." " Nothing you can do here." " At home more was going on." " Then Schnalz halt further." " I'm almost done." " Now I no longer want." " A pity." " Themselves to blame." "Boring." "Tell us the story of how you've met granny." "I think not." "Then you tell us about the story of..." "Here... your boss." "How did you meet?" "Where your father know that from?" "I told it to him." "Great." " Niko?" " Hm?" "You want not to hear, but your father is more than a little confused." "My father's fine." "Can we sleep now?" "I'm not in the mood." "I'm not in the mood anymore." "The good life is so stupid, that can't explain anything." "That's right, that's so rough as a screw." " Screw ist not to say." " Then just cucumbers peeler." "What is cucumbers peeler?" "One who peels cucumbers all day." "Want some coffee?" "Grandpa, I'm only eleven." "True." "Also no longer the youngest." "Want some coffee?" "Yes, very much." "I love coffee." "Grandpa, you need to fill it with water." "Should I help you?" "Not necessary." "I have ever made coffee." "It's already warm." "It's almost done." "Just stand briefly." " Can you help us?" " Yes." "No, that... that I can't." "That we haven't in school." "We have the fractions left always out." "You've left them out?" "It's also much smarter." "I agree." "Thank you." "It was absolutely beautiful." "Bye!" "The important and difficult on such a..." " You're pretty." " ..." "Throu..." " Let's..." " ...is that you can take a coffee?" "...or ask a question." "I'm not a showstar." "And I show myself as I am." " Away!" "Go away, you!" " Except for the powdered nose." " Away!" "Get away!" " Amandus?" " You cut the hedge?" " I can do that." "Great." "Bring it only in the form." "Just ten centimeters." " Can you do it?" " No problem." "Ten centimeters." "Sandra." " Sarah." " Also nice." "Oh, my God." "Shit." "What are- you doing?" " I'm shortening the... the..." "The green thing here." "I said ten centimeters!" "Yes, here." "Exactly." "So..." "If you ask me, I think that higher is nicer." "I'd better leave the stump?" "Or should I cut it?" "Your decision." "Where is Amandus?" "When you live together under one roof, you can keep at least the meal times." "He tried to repair the fence." "Repair the hedge?" "Five years it took until it was so high." "Five fucking years!" "Mom!" "Don't say "fucking"!" "It's true." "Sorry, sweetheart." "Who knows what will he break next time?" "We order saturday a new hedge, ok?" "Where did you get it from?" "From your garden." "Do you like it?" " You want to provoke me." " No." "I want to apologise." " Sandra, I'm sorry, that..." " Sarah." "...I have sheared Sarah wrong." "Ahn I have not cut properly..." " The..." " Hedge." " The hedge..." " Great, Amandus!" "If now I get my guests, they'll see no good hoe more, but... the garden gnomes from the neighbors." "And when they enter the garden, then..." "Many thanks!" "Well done!" "Elisabeth liked roses very much." "Dad, mom said Margarethe." "Then just daisies." " Tell me a story." " A story?" "Of you and dad." "When he was my age." "You make questions." "Do you remember when we were camping?" "In the garden." "To make this more exciting, grandpa told me that at night our garden was full of raccoons and foxes." "We caught up with shovel and broom handle and all armed out of the shed, so we definitely go to the tent from the house." "Yes, you... ahn." " You took the angel." " Then you can remember?" "How could I forget that?" "As when you could chase a raccoon with a fishing rod." "And when we were in the tent, because I hear a funny noise." "Then a whine." "Dad said: "A raccoon"." "Then I said:" ""Raccoons don't cry!"" "Then he said:" ""The ones here in Brandenburg do it."" "To this day I really don't know if there are howling raccoons." " It was me." " No!" "You never told me." "You've never asked me." "Today I was at a doctor." "He wants to examine you." "Why?" " Because..." " Because I'm an idiot?" "Do you think I don't realize it?" "Dad, you're not an idiot." "Sure I am." " I don't go to the doctor." " Maybe he can help." "You sound like your mother." "She wanted too to go with you to the doctor?" "I don't know anymore." "But he can't help me." "So far as I know." "Do you think better that one in brown or that in beige?" " Beige." " Really?" "Then take the brown." " You haven't watched." " I have other things to worry, like our garden party." "Have you talked to Amandus?" " Yes, but he doesn't want." " How?" " He wants no examination." " And then?" "And nothing!" "I can't force him." "How can I explain that to him?" "As you have explained to me with his stuff." "Not at all." "He has Alzheimer's." "He needs help." "He cannot make the rules." "Take him by the hand and walk with him to the doctor." "He also can't live here permanently." "He is totally confused." "We don't have the time to take care of him." " I must go to London tomorrow." " And who brings Tilda to the doctor?" " I have my pitch." " Dad." " You're joking." " I'm not." "I explained everything to him and make him a little map." "A little map?" " Brown or beige?" " Brown." "Man, Niko, we have just talked about it." "Do you think he can bring Tilda to the doctor?" "That never works." "What are you doing?" "I'm doing... clean." "Do you think to pick me up tomorrow from school and to go with me to the pediatrician?" " I have it on the screen." " For sure?" "Certainly." "What do you want to do with it?" " I am Berta." " Hello, Beate." " Where will we go tomorrow?" " To the pediatrician." "That I know." "It was just a joke." " He, dad." "Where are you now?" " London." "I told you already." " It's all right?" " Grandad has picked you up?" "And?" "How ist the weather in London?" "The sun shines here." " Grandad has picked you up?" " We are already there." " Where?" " In the doctor." " Can I talk to him a minute?" " With the doctor?" "No, with grandpa." "Ahn, he is filling the form." "Grandpa is filling out the form?" "Yes." "Okay." "Come on, give him to me once." " Ahn." "It's our turn now." "Ciao!" "To the airport, please." "Hi, I have an appointment." "Ah, yes." " Tilda Rosenbach?" " Yes." " You are late." " Yeap." "Are you all alone here?" "Whom you take with if you have a doctor's appointment?" "Mm, that sounds good." "Everything okay." "May you put on the stockings?" "Yes." "Can I ask you something?" "Of course you can ask me something." "What is Alzheimer's?" " Why do you want to know that?" " My grandpa has hat, I believe." "And how you get on it?" " My mom told me that." " Is your mom doctor?" "No, she work at an advertising agency." "Do you see?" "Then tell me something about your grandpa." "He confuses things?" "He forgets it?" "Sometimes." "That also happens to me sometimes." "It is quite normal at my age." "Ahn." "Ah." "So, my beauty." "I have your favorite cake cooked." "Ups." "I must have forgotten it in the kitchen." "I..." "I'll be right back." "Just imagine, all the books here are the brain of your grandad." "And there falls now, due to the disease, every now and then a book." "At the moment your grandpa has forgotten what is written in the book." "Depending on the day it tuns out one or the other book also take down." "Then another falls." "Yes." "And in the course of the disease there are always more." "And at last, tipping the books completely out of the shelf." "Until one day..." "Until he knows nothing about?" "Until he knows nothing." "What can I do for that he gets better?" "What your grandpa needs now is lots of love from you." "And understanding." "When he says or does things that don't make sense, you need to make him feel that you understand him." "And you have to give him tasks." "Yes, that's very important for him." "So that he feels that he is needed." "Subtitles by flinX Sep 15th, 2015" "Ah." "What should I do now?" "Funny." "What makes you say in there?" "Ah..." "Oh." "Amandus?" "Oh God!" " What happened?" " I'm cooking a cacke." "Oh God!" "Don't move from the spot." "Fuck!" "I'm so sorry." "It will be all right, all right." "Do you think you can eat the cake yet?" " Certainly." " Want a piece?" "I..." "I need to lose weight." " Then I'll throw it away." " No." "Don't do that." "That can't." " What are you doing?" " I'm looking for my honey." " Have you cooked?" " No, your father." "Try it." "It tastes good." " That you have not tried." " Well." "Amandus sake." "It was beautiful in London?" " What's happening?" " He has not picked Tilda up." " How so?" "He has." " No." "She just said that, so as not to betray him." "Could not care less." "I told you, that doesn't work." "And he almost burned the whole house." " What happened then?" " Look at it." "If I come home later, you were in a ruin standing." "And you could identify Amandus at its teeth." "Luckily Tilda went to the doctor, but what about the next time, when Tilda remains alone with grandpa at home?" "Because that could happen, and that's your fault." "Because you deny the truth." "Because you don't take Amandus to the doctor and still cut off to London." "You had to move the pitch." "No!" "You pick her to the doctor, that was the deal." "I am employed, you don't." "I can't say Serge:" ""How about us after tomorrow?"" "What you mean by "us"?" "Your breasts?" "What are you doing now?" " Tell me." "Was the rascal satisfied with your breasts?" " Great." " I'm sorry." "Amandus, can you close the toilet door after use?" "And then was finally summer vacation." "Mom wanted to go with us to Sweden, but grandpa didn't want to." "Mom tried to persuade him, but no chance." "Then she flew with her mom to Mallorca." "And I had grandpa all summer for me alone." "We were quite often walk." "In good weather dad drove grandad and me to the lake." "The other children found grandpa super." "They didn't care he was different from other grandads." "Dr. Ehlers says that Alzheimer people remember best the things that are long ago, and that they like if they can think of the stuff again." "That is why we have always looked at his photo album from Venice." "And although I can recite his stories in his sleep, it was every time so beautiful, so happy to him to see it." "I've already shown it?" "No." "Funny." "I could have sworn..." "Grandpa, show it!" "Here, Lido, here we had a big disagreement with the life... ãhn..." "With the lifemat..." "With the wald..." "No, with the lifeguard." "Because Margarethe wanted to bathe always naked." "How did you talk to him?" "Parlo italiano perfettamente, la mia principessa." "What does "I love you, grandpa" in Italian?" "Ti amo, nonno." "Ti amo, nonno." "Where is that?" "That's the..." "This is the..." "Ahn." "the doge..." "Ahn." "Man, man, man." "There was a lot of seagulls." "Grandma always liked them." "Until it had shat on the mozzarella caprese." " A seagull?" " Right in the middle of the food." "What do you mean that grandma did?" " Cried?" " Laughed." "And then the same pigeon has crapped again upside down." "I miss grandma." "Me too." "I'm curious to see how she looks when we meet again." "What do you mean "when you see her again"?" "When I die, we meet again in heaven." "I don't want you to die." "Oh, when I die, there's a big party in heaven." "With all the trimmings." "When Margarethe and me are beck together, we mix the load up there right on." "I don't believe in heaven, but it was sweet that he was trying to comfort me." "Actually I must comfort him." "I started do film grandpa many times." "When he doesn't remember anything more," "I believe he'll feel better so." "Like when mom and dad show me the film, as I ran for the first time." "How does it feel actually?" " What?" " When you forget everything." "As... honey in my head." "So..." "So glued." "How long have you honey in your head?" "Since I can not think anymore." "But I have..." "I have..." "That doesn't matter, because I..." "Can you tell me..." "I can't." "Here." " What is that?" " There's everything that I need to keep." "That she had... here, ahn..." "No" " ...grandma had done." " Can I do it?" "Yes." "Granny knew actually in advance that she was dying?" "That..." "That I had to be written." "She is dead, right?" "Yes, grandpa." "I knew it." "And now a toast to our dear Amandus, hm?" "Toast?" "I have one loaf." "But we want to drink to you." " Amandus?" " I have no thirst." " Crap thing." " We are trying." "We drink now to you, on your birthday." "I'm not thirsty." "Alzheimer, or what?" "Please." "Aioli for all of us." "Say, what are you doing?" "Olive oil is... good for the skin." " Have you already voted?" " SPD, as always." "Willy Brandt, this is my man." "I may not vote here, but if I could, I would take that too." "Certainly." "Thank you." "Thank you." "Does it get any louder?" "That's disgusting!" "Bother please to your own business." "Thank you." "Do you know who I am?" " Hm?" " Who is that?" " Something like an actor." " Sorry." "We played together in the sandbox?" "Or why are you bothering me?" " Yes..." "The man is sick." " Then he should stay at home." " There's the door." "Now listen to me!" " I want to talk to the chef." " That's me, you idiot." "Now get out." "I don't need your money." " Come on, sweetheart." " Have a good evening." " Then." " So, I take the Dorade." "With the green asparagus." "Al dente." " And the lady?" " The tuna tartare, please." " And for you?" " Spaghetti with butter, please." "Ah, good choice." "Specialty of the house." " And the Lord?" " Which Lord?" "What you want to eat, dad." "That." "Yes..." " With pleasure." " Since when you eat liver?" "I don't know." "Then what I eat?" "Mozzarella caprese?" "Mozza... what?" " Twice buffalo mozzarella." " Good." "Ready soon." "Do not cry, dad." "Hey, everything is good." "Hm?" "Dad..." "Grandpa, what is it?" "it feels so..." "dr... dr... dr..." "Bad?" "...dre dreadful hideously bad." "When you just know nothing." "All empty." "When you want something write down and... it does not go." "Something in you that just doesn't work." "Do you remember what you wanted to write?" "You write." ""For Tilda, my beloved..."" "Uh. "My beloved..."" "Granddaughter?" "I say what is written." "Okay." ""There will come a day... where I do not..." Ahn." ""...where I do not remember, who you you are." "You..." "You..." "It may even happen that..." "In any case, I want you to know one thing." "I love you and you are the best princess that I could wish."" "Come clear, old" "Come clear, old Come, come clear" "Do not even at gangster Do you know?" "You come and made a stress" "But you danced ballet" "You are one..." "But why you make that" "Not long to a super..." "Come clear, old!" "Come clear!" "Now sit down!" "He is ill?" "Mr. Rosenbach, please." "Yes, it's me." "Or you?" "You go rather." " Sit down." " No, that's okay." "I want to talk with you." "Dr. Holst." " Holz?" " Holst." "With "st"." " How are you today?" " You asked that already." "No." " So?" " So what?" "How are you today?" "You have just wondered." "That's true." "And?" "What is your answer?" "About what?" "On the question of how are you today." "You have no other question in stock?" " It's slowly boring." " Who brought you here?" "My parents." "It may be that it's your grandchild?" "Yes." "That comes out." "Do you know how old she is?" "Oh, she still has a lot going on." "Do you know how old she is?" "No." "I don't know how old I was when you came to us." "Ahn." "Then you were 61." "Mr. Rosenbach." "How much is nine plus three?" "You don't know what makes nine plus three?" " And you are a doctor?" " Yes." "Now I have a question." "What color is a fridge inside?" " Mr. Rosenbach..." " Reply." " White." " And what drink a cow?" " Milch." " No, a cow drinks water." "Well, that was good, right?" "Yes." "Now please excuse me, ok?" "Where are you going?" "I'm busy." "I want to finish our conversation." "Yes, my..." "The assistant..." "She..." "She makes an appointment for you." "Now I have a OP." "Mom and grandpa agreed that grandpa stays stays in the room at the celebration, if he is allowed to see the big fireworks at midnight." "The woman that is talking to mom is Nora." "Daddy doesn't like her because she said" "Mama was not cheating, but was just trying to save her marriage." "The one who goes so funny here is Serge, the one of the Christmas party." "He likes dad even less." "Dad always says to mom, when he sees him, that he hits him." "Dad has boxed him sometimes, so I just wonder why mom has actually invited him." "Serge." "What are you doing here?" "That was some kind of greeting?" " Niko know about it." " What?" " Why that?" " I told him." "Shit, you gotta tell me." " I would never have come." " You're not invited." "I noticed." "I thought you had forgotten me." " I clarify that with him." " No, you must go immediately." "Shit!" " Why did she tell him that?" " Because she is stupid." " What do you look like?" " I have made myself... pretty." "And what are you doing there?" "I eat these little these k... knubbel there." "Here, that, ahn... salt." " Did you have it all in your mouth?" " They are excellent." "Hm?" "This is my party." "Today you are not on the guest list." "That we discussed already." "Please go to your room." " But..." " The soldier obeys." " Yes, but..." " Hello, Amandus!" " Nothing good." " How good to see you." "You look so elegant." "Do we..." " Do we know each other?" " Have you already forgotten?" "You worried today five times for me." "Only five times?" "Horny saying!" "Amandus is back." " Oh, you old soldier." "Yes." " No, we are celebrating now." " Mom, let him." " Then we both drink." " It's just bad." "Serge." "Piss off now." "If you take three, you get one free." "Okay, I'll take three." "Hats off." "Great music." "I agree." "Earlier we had LPs." "Hey, I need more fuses!" " Niko, I have a problem." " What?" "Please don't turn around." " Why should I?" " Promise to me?" " I promise." " Serge is here." " Where?" " Yes, here." " You cannot be serious." " I am." " He came to my celebration!" " Our celebration." " I didn't invite him." " He should fuck off." "No, he is my boss." "Okay, I talk to him." "Niko, my dear." " Serge..." " No, no, no." " Serge..." " You wonder safely." "I was not invited..." "Niko!" "Serge, I'm so sorry." "I can understand him." "That with your wife was a huge stupidity!" "Where ist the discjockey?" "The russians are coming." " What, Dad?" " I love you." "That you've never told me." "I ever tell you how much I love you?" "If, then..." "I've forgotten it." "Don't take it personally." "Where is Sandra?" "She moved to her mum for a few days." " Why that?" " Dad." "Have you fought?" " Don't you know anything?" " No." " All gone." " Oh." " I..." " Dad..." "There is only... e hole." "We don't know how the disease develops." "A long stabilization may be followed by rapid deterioration." "Good thing that he's so humorous." "When in doubt, he remembers old jokes, even if he don't know how one leg is in front of the other." "You must answer the following question:" ""Are you spiritually and temporarilly in a position to look after him?"" "If you should one day come to the conclusion that you no longer care for him as it would be necessary in your view, then use your sincerity with your father." "I know what you're going through." "My father was also demented." "I know the struggle with yourself." "The helplessness, the bad conscience, the self-reproach." "But in the end of the way the hospitalization is inevitable." "Try to reserve a place." "Good nursing homes, unfortunately, have very long waiting times." " Chaleema, Tea and Coffee." " Hello, Pam." " Hi, how are you?" " Fine, and you?" " Super, little mouse." " Can I speak to Dad?" " He is looking at a home for Grandad." "It's not true." "No one is initially excited to live here." "But they get used to it." "Check out the two." "They know themselves since yesterday and are holding hands already." "They have a regulated day, what is extremely important, and they don't need be ashamed, because the are among themselves." "Hello!" "That can't be." "I am Hildegard." " You can also say Gerdi." " Okay." "We already know ourselves for a while." "No, we don't." "but I'm Niko Rosenbach." "We could fuck a bit?" " No, no, no." " Only a tiny bit?" "Hildegard, now let it be good, ok?" "Can you think about it a bit?" "Yes..." "Even the desire ofr sexuality is an issue in Alzheimer's." "Also here." "In some less pronounced." "In Hildegard it comes about anything else." "The history is important." "Hildegard was a dancer in..." " Or there." " ...a bar." "So, at least, her daughter describes the professional show." "Yes..." "How do I explain to him that he has to live somewhere else?" "Not at all." "He won't understand it." "Like a little child who comes to kindergarten." "They howl and scream." "They have a bad impression, but soon they will not want to leave there." "It will be good for him." "Hello, Dad." " Dad?" " Yes?" "I'm on the toilet and have no paper." "Do you can bring me paper?" "Here." "Thanks." " What?" " Where were you, anyway?" " In the office and then shopping." " Shopping." " Yes." " Und where are your bags?" " In the car." " You were not shopping." " You also were not in the office." " Yes." "Tell no shit." "Pam told me that you was looking for a home for Ganddad." " Oh, the stupid nut." " Can you go now?" "Don't you see that I need to poop?" "I would never put you in an asylum when you're old." "I hate you!" "Grandpa, what are you thinking now?" " Grandpa?" " Venice." "Tell me again how the dove has crapped on the Grandma's mozzarella." "Grandma and me always wanted to go there with you." "When you grow up." "To..." "To show you where we we..." "Did you actually know that Hamburg has more bridges than Venice?" " I don't believe that." " Must we look at ourselves?" " Where?" " In Venice." "Hm?" "I cannot even find the way to to Dingsbums." "And what if we go together?" "I'm good for nothing more." "Niko." "It was about time." " Can I talk to Sarah?" "She is sleeping." " She is sleeping?" "At the time?" " Yes." "She has not slept the last few nights." "May I come in?" " Why don't you contact me?" " I'm not cut down." "Park no counter-questions, you stupid macho!" "You have her party crashed and made sure that everyone really knows about the matter with Serge." " Super move." " I'm so sorry." " Say that to her." " How, if you don't let me in?" " How are Amandus?" " Shit." "How is the little mouse?" "Shit too, that is why I'm here." "Nice that you're here." "I'm sorry." "Please, then go on." "Mom!" " Why is Grandpa with you?" " He had a bad dream." "The Russians are coming." "Do you know that you're a great girl?" " I'm proud of you." " Is that why you cut down?" " Have you read the letter?" " Yes." "But you cannot hidy easily." "You know, I went... to my mother, because because I was so desperate." " I didn't know." " You brak up?" "No." "Your Dad and me, we love each other." "At least something." "Dad is sad because you said you hate him." "I tried to comfort him and said that we women sometimes do not mean it." "I mean it." " He puts Grandpa in an asylum." " Sweetheart..." "You know that I can take care of him." "Tilda, you have to go back to school and Dad and me work." "He has the home just watched." "Yes, because he wants to take him there." "Now Grandpa is still with us." "But at some point he is so ill that no longer works here." "Then he needs a nice home, where he probably feels right." "Yes, where we can always visit him and pick him up, take nice things with him." "You and Dad work always." " Then we work less." " For sure." "I promise you." ""I promise you."" "Mom and Dad often promise to work less, and do it never." "Smylla has said:" ""The worst thing that parents can make is to break promises to their children."" "I was awake all night and thought about what Dr. Ehlers said." "And about Grandpa and that he needs a job." "Grandpa?" "Grandpa, wake up." " Are they back?" " No, they are sleeping." "Good." "When the enemy sleeps, we are safe." "I agree." "We are now conquering Italy." "I need to practice." " No, you are in vacation." " Ah, yes." "I unpack your things quickly." "Out in ten minutes." "What are you waiting for?" "Drive off." " You have to drive." " Ahn." "Now I habe even forgotten how to turn the thing." "You need to put the feet on the coupling." "Try again." "It purrs like a kitten." "Now the gas." "Oh." "There are burglars who steal our car." " That was the reverse." " No shit, Grandpa." "Hey!" "I change gears and you put your feet, okay?" "Okay." " Wake up!" " Ey!" "Hey!" "Hey!" " What are you doing?" " Where are you going to?" "Try it." "Grandpa!" " Grandpa, it's red!" " We get it." " That was close." " Grandpa, what are you doing?" "Green means stop..." "With red, you must go." "Go on, Grandpa." " At right?" " At left." "Left is the station, Grandpa." "Hey!" "Hey, stay where you are." "Hey!" "That's not it." "HH for Hamburg." "Anthrazit." "I told you." "Yes." "Simply stolen from the farm." "We're not here in Naples." "Italy." "Okay." "Humans." "Ah, are monsieur already woken up?" "Buttered toast anyone?" "Fresh orange juice?" "Don't you have other problems?" "Amandus and Tilda are gone." " Don't rip me off." " I 'm not kidding." " Preliminary investigation?" "Yes." " More is not possible?" " No." " Yes, friend and helper." " Sweetheart." "Your father drove away with your daughter in the car." "Should we start the helicopter search with thermal imaging cameras?" " Hello?" " He grows up." " This is not the case for us." " His father has dementia." " And our daughter is eleven." " Yes, you've said that already." "We will contact you." "The two are safe at home." "That has been my experience." " Two tickets to Venice." " One-way?" "No, for my Grandpa too." " I mean: with return?" " What's cheaper?" "One-way." " Then twice." " Your old one?" "No, my Grandpa." " How old are you?" " Oh, eleven." "Eleven?" " Then you travel for free." " Super!" "That will be 224 Euros, please." "Grandpa, have you money here?" " You need to enter the PIN." " Ahn." " Grandpa?" " 1916." " Sure?" " The Battle of Verdun." "The Battle of Verdun?" "First World War." "You did great, Grandpa." "Many thanks." "Well, good trip and lots of fun in Venice." "How does he know where we want to go?" "It's here." "I..." "I must..." "I..." "I must..." "I..." " What you need?" " It has gone." "Not bad." "It's already happened to me." "We have to change clothers here." " I forgot the pants?" " That can not..." " I don't believe it." " Shit." "Shit." "I can help you, Grandpa." "What's?" " I have heard that." " That was not me." " Sure, Grandpa." " It was not really me." "Finished!" "I swore that I would never do that." "Today I spoke at length with Dr. Ehlers about Grandpa and on Alzheimer's and about happiness and joy." "The most important for your brain is joy." "That's the number one fertilizer." "It repairs the brain." "Dr. Ehlers says you can achieve yours objectives only if yoy make them with joy." "But many old people have no more goals, because they make no joy and no one is proud of them." "Nobody needs them." "That's why they get sick, because their brain atrophies." "And they can't be repaired, because they don't have fun." "May be Mom and Dad should have visited Grandma and Grandpa more often." "But that was not possible, 'cause they have to work so much." "As Granny then died," "Grandpa has lost its ultimate task." "But if I succeed, giving Grandpa a task and he has the feeling that I need him for," "then perhaps he will get well." "I just don't know that." " Good evening." " Ahn." "Berta is tired." " Where are you dare to sleep?" "Where we can lie down?" "Here forward." "I'm back." "I love your breasts." "Margarethe..." " Old man's pleasure!" "What's happening?" "He wanted to rape me!" " And you like it." " Oh." "He has taken my breasts." "My Grandpa was in the wrong compartment." " He has Alzheimer's." " Oh." "Ahn, here... ahn." "Alois." "Alois Alzheimer." "Thomas." "Thomas Mueller." "Three goals against Portugal." "Could you friendly ask the lady our Portugal..." " ...to leave our compartment?" " Ahn." "This is not your compartment." "That's the compartment of the lady." " This is your compartment?" " Mm." "Then, ahn..." "We were pleased." "By the way," "Your wife..." "She touches so wonderfully soft." "Thank you for the compliment." "Did you hear, sweetheart?" " Here, Grandpa." " What?" "So... ahn..." "Sorry to bother you." "Good night." "Please." "Hi, Mom, hi, Dad, I hope you're fine." "Don't worry about us." "Ahn, can you tell me where is the bathroom?" "Here." " You have chips in hair." " Do you want to have one?" "Thanks." "Ahn." "Toilet." "Oh, shit!" "Grandpa!" "That can't be." "Hello?" "Here." "Maybe better we give up?" "We're going to Venice!" " I could slow them down." " Grandpa!" "Hey!" "We are closed." " Che cazzo!" " Vaffanculo, porca puttana." "Wrong door." " That way, Grandpa." " Yes, I..." "Cute." "We wait until they're gone." "The pretty women?" "No, the police." "I have to pee." "Good." "Grandpa." "I need to go to the toilet." "Aha." " But sit down." " Yes, Grandpa." "Grandma hs ever sat down." " It's not true." " Yep." "Grandpa and me are sitting in the train, but you'll see that." "We ate breakfast also." "Chips, because they are healthy." "She's sweet, the little one." "Yes." "It's a train compartment." " And now?" " This can be anywhere." " Somewhere in a train!" " That's it." "The colleagues of the railway police how to deal with the problem." "They are reporting." " Believe me, Mrs..." " Rosenbach." "Rosenbach." "See you when I have something positive." "Both are doing well and are having lots of fun." "Hello?" "Hello?" "Hello?" "Who's there?" "The mayor." "Can you open the door, please?" "I..." "I can't." "I..." "I get not the thing..." "Here, the thing..." "Turn the latch to the right." " To the right." " I don't know, how..." " Grandpa, is this the police?" " No." "The mayor." "That was a joke." "I'm Erdal." "I'll just clean here." "You're the girl with the grandfather who has Alzheimer's." "Who has Alzheimer's?" " How do you know?" " We are here in Bolzano." "You're 'breaking news'." "What have you been up to?" " Nothing." " Nothing?" "You have pulled the emergency brake and messed up the schedule." "It was an emergency." "I almost lost Grandpa." "Well, it didn't work." "Where did you come from?" " From Hamburg." " Hamburg." "Me too." " Real?" " Yes, born and raised." " What do I do with you?" " Can you help us?" "Schooling fish stick together." "What are you doing?" "I cannot kip." "Come do bed." "It's four o'clock early." " Are you still looking for your honey?" " Yes, why?" "Come over here, you got to see this." "I habe asked him five times if he saw it." "Do you know what he said?" ""I'm allergic to honey."" " Well." "That's really brazen." " Shall I fetch us wine?" "Dark here." "Attention, bulls." " Bulls?" " Psst!" "Are you crazy?" ""Muh!" makes the cow." ""Muh!" makes the cow." "Muh, muh!" "Questo è un idiota." "Porto giuda!" "What do you think if I cancel?" "But you love your job." "I want to be there for Tilda and Amandus." " Are you sure?" " Yes." "I would find really great." "I should have done it long before." "I should tell you greetings from Serge." " He is very grateful to you." " Why that?" "He has now a new front tooth with a diamond in it, claiming that he would have more impact in women." " I don't believe that." " Mm." "Yep." "Look yourself." "That's not true, hey." "Hi, I'm Erdal, I am..." "Hi, I am Erdal, born in 1983 in the Schanzenviertel, but not german, but foreigner from third generation, although my German is super." "What do you want to tell us?" "If my parents came from Sudeten," "I was a German." "I find it simply unfair." "Anyway, now I am at home in South Tyrol." "A real South Tyrolean dog." "It was a mess..." "Come to the point." "Okay." "What is your mother's name?" " Ahn, Sandra." " Sandra." "Good." "Dear Sandra, dear Niko, your charming daughter is doing brilliantly." "Don't worry, because, when he here with she here be in the city of love," " they call." " Super." " Real?" "Thank you." " We'll do it all again." "What?" "Better i cannot do." "Und bang, gone." "Then..." "SMS tone." " Did you sent it already?" " Mm." " Great." " You said: "Super"." " The emphasis wasn't clear?" " No." " Now they know our goal." " City of Love." " It could be Paris." " For sure." "From Hamburg via South Tyrol to Paris." "You can go through the Black Forest from Berlin to Hamburg, it is also nice." "Hey, there is he!" "Hello!" "Here!" "...in the City of Love, they call." "They are going to Venice." " Madness." " That's his job." "Buenas noches, amigo!" "Hello!" ""Buenos dias." "Noches" means night." " There is no moon." " Clearly, Professor." "These are my passengers?" " Yes." "Hi, I am Emre." "Your getaway driver." "Well, then go up in your limo." "They come together to Venice?" "Sure, they never were there." " We can sit in front?" " There you can be seen." "Avanti!" "Close the borders." " There is no EU-borders more." " Was a joke." "Ah so." " Thank you, Erdal." " Take good care of your Grandpa." "You're a great girl." "I'm proud of you." "Thanks for Grandpa's pants." "Of course no problem." "I have enough of it." "So I think it's a sensation." " Hello, Mom." " A sensation, the little one." " That she had of me." " Why so good mood?" "Because I think it's great what she's doing." "Really." "Sensational." "Don't pull such a face." "I also think it's great." " But I'm worried." " Tilda is wise." "She's intended already there." "If you did it sometimes quite good, get out of here." "We'll contact you." "Let me konw when they sign up." "Yes!" "Aye, aye!" "I drink on you." "Have fun, you two!" "Where is Calvados?" "Here it smells." "Oh, I love this smell." "You're a fine girl." "Hm?" "How do you know that it's a girl?" "I recognize her face." "But she has eggs." " Where?" " At least not on the face." " Fuck!" " What's?" "Police!" "Shit." "What can I do for you?" "Papers." "With pleasure." "What do you look for?" "What, ahn, do you..." "Cosa trasporta?" " Sheep." " Cosa?" " Pecore?" " Oui, oui." " I can go now?" " No." "Come down." "Have you never seen a sheep?" "Come down." "Please." "They..." "They smell pretty strict." "Get out." " Come down." " Now?" "Non domani, non dopodomani..." "Now!" "That ist as... bewitched." "She is damn smart, the little one." "The sheep, I mean." "I don't know what, but I'll find it out and I'll call you." "Have you a card?" "Welcome to the Bauer Hotel." "How long do you want to stay?" " We don't know yet." " What?" "I only have two suites free." " Then we take a suite." " Mm." "Ecco qua." "Numero 558." "Very beautiful." "But the price is, however,..." " 1800." " For a night?" "Then we look for another hotel." "Ey, just imagine, there're Lire." " We take the suite." " Bene." "A signature, please." "You will not regret it." "Already, in this suite, many bambini have been fathered." "We have no more bread." "There are so many comic strokes." "How are you supposed to find the way?" "We can share the apple." "You can keep it." " I have more desire to sheep." " Sheep?" "We could catch one." "We won't eat a sheep!" "Ts." "Only a very small?" "Half of one?" " Half of a little one?" " Get half of an apple." "Ah." "Have you actually afraid to be dead?" "Grandpa?" "No." "Me, yes." "Well, you still have a few days left." "No, I mean, I'm afraid when you're dead." "You don't need to." "Up there I'll take care of you with Grandma." "Watch out." "We will be so proud of you." "Anf if you miss me, then look up at me" "and just then I'm with you." "Did you say something?" "I only said that it is so nice to be with you." "Can I help you?" "We are hungry." "I would love to give you these tomatoes, but they are for the Vegetable Market in Bolzano." "Come with me." "On behalf of the Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit, amen." "Come, Lord Jesus, be our guest and bless what you have graciously given us." "So, on tomato salad with onion" "I had a bit more appe..." " ...thus, had lust." " Grandpa." "The tomatoes are for sale at the market." " We live on it." " On the market?" "That reminds me a thing." "The nun said to the farmers who were serving the vegetables:" ""I would like a cucumber."" "Then the farmer said:" ""Take two, then you can eat one."" "I don't understand." "What is there you don't understand?" "When the nun eat one, then she can the other..." "Save it for the next day." "What are you doing here the whole day?" "Can I briefly explain my joke?" "No, Grandpa." "It's true that you are allowed to not have sex?" "Yes, my child." " We are chaste." " I said it." "Cucumber." "Aua." "Chaste?" "What is it?" "We refrain from love a man." "We leave this space free for God." "So you're all married, so to speak, with God?" "Mm, you could say that." "Then no one can be jealous or unfaithful." "Can my parents visit you here once?" "Why do you ask that, my child?" "I think they could learn a lot from you." "In purgatory you have the chance to prove yourself." "Only then God decides whether you go to heaven." "Do you believe in heaven?" "Of course." "Heaven makes our lives perfect." "When we die, we live all together with God." "Do you think my Grandpa goes to heaven?" "In all this that you've told about your grandfather," "I'm quite sure." " For real?" " Yes." "You're a good girl." "And the way you're going, it's special." " Looking for something, Grandpa?" " Ahn, Elisa, ahn..." "Margarethe." " She was just still there." " He means Grandma." "She is in heaven already." "Come on, Grandpa, we're going to look for her." "I think I saw her over there." "I think she's over there." "Grandma?" "Gretchen?" "Grandma?" "Gretchen?" "Grandma, ist that you?" "She has well hidden." "Grandma?" "Where is she?" "We find her." "Grandma?" " Grandpa." " Yes?" " I found her." " Where?" " Here." " Ah." "My God, how beautiful you are." "I'v missed you so." "Here I slept with Grandma." "For sure?" "Fairly." "1800?" "Ahn, I'm very sorry." "It's our last room." "It's only Lire." "Something like... two Marks." "And you pay with cash or by credit card?" "Grazie." "Numero?" "The Battle of Verdun?" "Verdun?" "Grazie." "Allora... 557." "Questo è..." "A signature, please." "Why exactly have all Italians" " a mustache?" " Ahn?" "Because they want to look like their mothers." "Like their mothers!" "Grazie." "Hm." "Who is this?" "Who?" "He there." "There is you, Grandpa." "That are you and that's me." "Tilda." "Look, I..." "I make all to copy." "Look that." "There, again." "Look at that." "First you need get the toothbrush out." "That way." "Use the toothpaste to brush your teeth." "That is to shave." "Mouth upwards." "You're going great, Grandpa." "That tickles the nose." "You're the funniest adult I know." "From you" "I can still learn so much." "Nonsense, Grandpa." "You may just no more unlearn." "It was nice to be with you today." "Good night, Grandpa." "Good night." "It sounds crazy, but I feel that they are very close to us." "It was nice to be with you today." "Today?" "We were a team, like before." " Thanks to our daughter." " Right." " I love you." " I love you." "Do you hear the birds?" "But that sounds not good." "Where is it, my good, huh?" "Relax, Brown." "They are green." "That you say about horses." "Ah." "Can I do anything for you?" "I've been doing it." "I'm a doctor." "Uhu." "I still have to laugh at your joke." " Joke?" " Yes." "Ahn..." ""Mom!"" "The previous joke." "That was nice." "He was good, really good." "That was incredible." "What was I supposed to do now?" "Ah, yes." "Where's going to the beach?" " The beach is in Lido." " That I know." "But you can't go now." "It's the middle of the night." " Have you seen my Grandpa?" " Grandpa?" " Ahn..." "Nonno?" " Ah." "Non conosco tuo nonno." "Ma il portiere di notte mi ha detto che un ospite anziano è andato nel bel mezzo della notte..." " Al Lido." " Lido?" "Sì, brava." "Lido." "Piano, ragazzina." " Buongiorno!" " Buongiorno!" "Grandpa!" "Grandpa!" " Stop!" "Stop!" " Non mi posso fermare qua." "No!" "No!" "Fermati!" "No!" "Fermati!" "Dove vai?" "Prendi il salvagente!" "Torna indietro adesso!" "Trank God, here you are." "I've been looking for you everywhere." "Grandpa?" "You mean me?" "Don't bullshit, Grandpa." "I've scared me enough, when you weren't at the hotel." "I't me." "Tilda, your granddaughter." "I don't know." "I'm your little princess." "We both called Rosenbach and have come here together." "You are my Grandpa." " Let's go to the hotel." " Leave me in peace." "Go away." "Go, go, go, go." "For Tilda, my beloved granddaughter." "The day will come when I won't know that you're you." "Even though you must always remember one thing." "I love you and you are the best princess" "I could ever wish for." "Shit." "Mom!" "Dad!" "There are you." "Oh, my sweet." "I'm so proud of you." "Oh, my sweet." "Opa is sitting on the brench and he no longer recognizes me." "Dad." "My God, it's beautiful here." "Do you remember, Dad?" "Here you ate with Mom, after your wedding." " I'll help you..." " I can do it alone!" "I'm no longer a child." "There's nothing here to drink?" "I'm hungry." "Now come here." "So, put your mouth up." "Prego, signore?" " A forestry." " Forestry?" "Non conosco forestry." " No." "Forestry." " Una birra Forestry!" "Certo." "Subito." "Nine months later, I got a little brother." "Mom had the idea to call him Amandus." "As Grandpa." "Gradpa has, I believe, no longer noticed." "He has repeatedly asked how the boy is and where he comes from." "But perhaps Grandpa has noticed that Mom and Dad had more time for him." "Mom left the job and she kept her promise and is trying to work less." "First Grandpa was still with us." "A young woman helped us to take care of Grandpa." "Grandpa liked her very much." "For sometime, he can be fed only from her." "He found her very good and also very talented." "But at some point the young woman is gone because Grandpa too moved into her blouse." "But when Grandpa came to the asylum, we picked him up many times and did things with him." "Mom and me always went with him to the shopping and ate honey ice cream." "Dad hat then to look after small Amandus." "Sometimes he tasted it and sometimes not." "Then it was the ice too cold for him." "I was still a couple of times at Dr. Ehlers." "And he told me that people with Alzheimer's feel more as we believe, and that it's important to spend time with them, because they feel the affection." "Although we no longer can imagine." "On our last trip was a huge thunderstorm." "It has been raining very hard, as the sky was going to cry." "But we habe remained sitting  in cafe und laughed." "The next day, his heart has stopped beating." "And I'm so glad that I was there with him." "Actually I was every day with him, just not when my tonsils were taken out." "Coupled with heavy rainfall and thunderstorms, southwest winds bring end of the week back late summer temperatures." "Who cares anyway?" "It's always the same anyway." "Not me." "What did you get for a pretty... pretty..." "It's me, Grandpa." "Tilda." "I know who you are." "You're my little princess." "Forever." "Take good care of him, granny." "I'll miss you, Grandpa." "God, You can do live and take it up again." "Full trust in Your mercy we take leave of Amandus Rosenbach." "In full trust we put him into Your earth." "We do this in the hope that has given us Jesus Christ." "Earth to earth." "Ashes to ashes." "Dust to dust." "Where is Tilda?" "She didn't want to be here when Grandpa is buried." "She is behind in the meadow." "We should pick her up when it's all over." "Grandpa?" "Did you say something?" "Subtitles by flinX"