"Four-year-olds..." "Five-year-olds..." "Ah, stop!" "This is the best day of my life." "Six-year-olds..." "I don't like you." "Who cares?" "Ohhhh!" "They're at a pivotal age." "Do you like mine?" "Don't laugh." "SHE LAUGHS It's not funny." "This is where futures are formed." "This is the President of the USA." "This is a unique opportunity to see the most crucial stage of a child's development." "What they're learning now is the blueprint for adult life." "KNOCKING" "These children have come from all over the country, to a school where every corner has been rigged with cameras." "Smile!" "And wired for sound." "I've fallen in love with you!" "Did." "Didn't." "Stop arguing!" "For goodness' sake." "With unprecedented access to every tussle..." "You're horrible." "YOU'RE horrible." "..every whisper..." "Sshh." "..and all the raw emotion." "Aaargh!" "As these children meet for the very first time... ..we eavesdrop on their secret lives." "This week, it's the six-year-olds." "Someone accidentally twist it." "I didn't." "Yes, you did." "I didn't." "You did." "Stop arguing, guys!" "Hi, Elouisa, I'm Kate." "How are you?" "Good." "What do you want to be when you're a grown-up?" "Pop star." "# Yeah, yeah, yeah, a pop star!" "#" "Hi, Elvin, how are you?" "Good." "Take a seat." "I was born in St Thomas's." "I was born in St Thomas's." "Yeah, and I even had a TV." "If you could be an animal, which animal would you like to be?" "A lion." "Why's that?" "You'd roar very loud." "Hi, Beatrice, how are you?" "Good." "Do you like Beatrice or Bea?" "Beatrice." "Beatrice." "Just checking." "There's only one, two, three, four, five children here at the moment." "And there's supposed to be ten." "What would you do if you had all the money in the world, Beatrice?" "Oh..." "I'd save it." "Hi, Kash." "How are you today?" "Are you a bit nervous?" "No." "No?" "Oh, that's good, I'm glad." "Do you think you're quite a good boy or a bad boy?" "Good." "You think I'm a good boy?" "HE MAKES A RASPBERRY NOISE" "Who wants to hear my whistle?" "HE WHISTLES" "I'm..." "I'm a good boy." "Who was the first person here?" "Here." "You!" "This week, the children are being looked after by Kate and Phil, and observing every moment are scientists Dr Elizabeth Kilbey and Dr Sam Wass." "I like to do art." "I like to do baking." "Six-year-olds are at a stage of working out who they are relative to other people." "Er, when I was born I wasn't this colour actually," "I was just white, then my skin grew black and black and black and black." "And this comes across as a great curiosity about how they are different to their friends." "You know, I'm actually from India." "Oh!" "I'm just kidding, I'm not from India!" "They're starting to form an awareness of their own personal identity." "This is something that up until now hasn't bothered them at all." "Right, so today you guys are going to choose a group leader." "Me." "Me." "Me!" "Me." "Me." "We'll give you guys five minutes, we're just going to step aside so you can decide." "Me." "Me." "Me." "Why is the role of leader so desirable?" "Because it comes with power, it comes with status." "And one of the best ways of being heard is to be at the front of the pack, to be the leader." "Maybe the one..." "May...maybe the one that has the most friends." "I just said that." "What would you do if you were Queen?" "I would get some slaves and tell them to do everything." "I would get everything that I want." "I would even get a flying unicorn." "So I'll tell them to do some jobs." ""Make me a cup of tea..."" "Would you like to be the leader?" "No." "I do not." "Why not?" "Cos I don't like all the jobs the leader needs to do." "What kind of rules would you have?" "Never, ever hit erm... a teacher or adult." "Never, ever let your dog off a leash." "Why do you think we have rules?" "Because ru...rules... they...they save lives." "Never, ever, ever, ever watch YouTube on a plane." "No, please..." "Let me just be a..." "Please, Charlie." "My best friend." "Come on, let me be it first." "Kash is the first to start canvassing for votes." "Right, let me be the leader, yeah?" "OK, I'm the leader." "I'm the leader of Charlie." "I'm the leader of Charlie." "Yeah, we made our deal, didn't we, Charlie?" "And why do YOU like being a leader?" "Because I want to tell everyone what to do." "Kash lives with mum Sarah, a hairdresser, and his brother and sister in southeast London." "When he's at home, he's with adults mostly - his dad, myself, his grandparents and of course his older siblings who have" "THEIR friends over, so Kash happily slots into his brother's 14-year-old little world with his friends, or then he's over with my daughter's 17-year-old friends and probably learns good AND bad stuff." "You, you can't do hair." "You can't." "I can!" "I'm a girl." "Kash definitely pushes the boundaries and pushes all the rules." "Oh, no, that looks horrible now!" "HE LAUGHS" "The reason being because he normally can look at me with his big puppy dog green eyes and get away with it." "He basically rules the roost." "He's..." "He is a very dominant character, Kash is." "He wants to be good, and he will always start off, he wants to be good." "But he just can't help being a little bit rebellious." "Yeah, he really just enjoys being a bit of a cheeky chappie which I think is what he is." "What you want to wear, yeah?" "Yeah." "Fine." "Let ME choose who's the leader." "No." "20 minutes later, and the leadership contest is still up for grabs." "Oh, oh, oh!" "But Kash comes up with a solution." "Who wants to watch us have a arm wrestle?" "Let's see what you got." "Want to see?" "Hey!" "OK, so now we're going back to the old school, we're going to do a power contest, an arm wrestle for leadership." "Machismo." "Machismo!" "Yeah." "I'm waiting for some chest beating." "Yes." "I am such a strong man." "Elvin's not impressed, is he?" "No." "But look at the difference, the girls and Elvin have got a much more cognitive strategy going on." "If someone says, "Oh, I want to be the leader," and then someone says," ""Oh, I want to be the leader,"" "the way to solve that is voting." "And sometimes it's called a democracy." "No, who wants to vote for ME?" "Who's going to vote for me?" "Elvin doesn't approve of Kash's hands-on approach." "Who wants to vote for ME?" "No, who wants to vote for ME?" "And puts himself up for leader." "I'm not voting." "Then you are not going to be the leader." "Imagine, Elvin, if you were, like, King for the day, what would you do?" "I would say, "Everyone, you need to do what I say."" "Elvin lives with his mum, Caroline, and dad, Samuel, in Kent." "He likes being a leader, but then at the same time he's a peacemaker." "That's what Elvin is." "They are doing it the way we do it in Uganda." "Being in this country, it's a foreign country, really." "And sometimes I see the way the children behave, and we always say no, that's not the right way we should bring our child up." "We always tell him if he sees other kids being naughty or rude don't be part of it, just tell them it's not right or walk away." "Elvin, we need to start off by writing your name." "'When it comes to discipline, I'm quite strict with Elvin.'" "Because we want you to be a clever guy, very intelligent." "Yeah, I am clever." "In Africa they have what we call chiefs, so both grandparents were chiefs, as in leaders and leading, and my father kept saying that maybe he's taking after the grandparents, trying to be a leader wherever he is." "BOTH:" "Yeah!" "After 40 minutes, the children still haven't managed to produce a leader." "Urgh!" "No!" "No!" "No..." "SHOUTING" "Er- oh, er, Kash and Emmanuel..." "Thank you." "He started it." "No!" "Er, boys, you know what, I'm not actually interested in who started it - that's not what I should be seeing you do." "All right, so we're going to do a fresh count." "Beatrice, who do you think should be the leader?" "Elvin." "And Casper, who do you think should be the leader?" "Elvin." "Elvin, you think?" "Mm." "Yeah." "Elouisa..." "Elvin you think should be the group leader?" "And Charlie M, who do you think should be...?" "I'm trying to think about it." "Kash, who do you think should be the group leader?" "I'll just choose myself." "Kash has managed one vote." "His own." "Elvin is the group leader for today." "Isn't that interesting, because Kash was canvassing so hard..." "After all of that." "..but Elvin with his kind of quiet "This is not the way to do it..." has won." "I was in front of you!" "Elvin gets straight to business... organising the queue for breaktime." "Stop, Elvin..." "OK." "You go to the back, Emmanuel." "No." "He's the group leader so listen to him." "I was here and then you just pushed in." "OK." "Go to the back." "I was here." "Just..." "THEY BICKER" "And Kash is quick to lend a hand, by appointing himself deputy." "Go behind, like, Charlie M." "Yeah." "See?" "That's sorted." "OK now, guys?" "Follow the group..." "Follow the group leader." "It's the afternoon and teacher Kate has split the group in to girls and boys for a game of fancy dress." "Each group needs to have a box." "Group leader, which group, boys or girls, should choose their box first?" "Girls." "So you want girls to choose their box first?" "All right, girls, which box would you like?" "Just tell me which one?" "Pink." "The pink one?" "Yeah." "So that means the boys will have the blue one, yeah?" "Yeah." "Pink!" "I think I might let the boys open." "Is that all right?" "Yeah." "All right, boys, open up." "The blue box is full of wigs, dresses and feather boas." "I'm having the pink thing." "Oh!" "THE GIRLS LAUGH" "Six-year-old children are just beginning to explore and develop their concept of who they are as people." "And one of the elements that's essential to this is the idea of gender." "I'm thinking maybe we should let the girls open their box now." "The girls are going to get the boys' stuff." "The girls are getting..." "They've got the..." "Oh, they've got the boys' stuff!" "Kash is unamused." "They've got the boys' stuff." "Kash didn't see the funny side." "I'm not dressing up." "I'm wondering if Kash's response is a bit crocodile tears." "You know, "I'm not supposed to wear girls' clothes." ""I'm not supposed to enjoy this dressing up, so I'm going to" ""stick to stereotype and I'm going to say that's not for us"." "I know this is going to be a little bit too big for me, but who cares?" "OK, no reticence at all from the girls." "There's none of this..." "Yeah. .."It's not my..." "It's not..."" "That is an interesting point, isn't it?" "The girls are quite happy to jump into the boys' clothes." "They're not boys' clothes, they're clothes." "This is my silly style." "What do you think the difference is between, er, girls and boys?" "Er, when boys grow up, sometimes they have beards or moustaches." "Girls don't have some, but my grandma, she has a moustache." "So what good things can girls do?" "Cooking, hoovering, laundry, washing up." "Could boys wear dresses?" "No!" "No." "What do you think?" "Do you think boys are allowed to wear dresses?" "Yeah." "Because in my street there's a man who dresses up as a woman." "Kash, why don't you go over there and just help them." "You don't have..." "If you really don't want to put any of them on, you don't have to, but maybe go and help them." "What I really love about Kash's response is he watches, he's really frowning and then his face is going to laugh." "He suddenly realises he's on the outside of the fun looking in and, actually, is it worth missing out on something that could be quite good in order to preserve your identity of what you think a boy should do?" "He thought about it for a bit and he decided it wasn't worth it." "Class, leave your box to get ready." "THE CHILDREN LAUGH" "Well done, Kash." "Who's that?" "That's Kash?" "Took a while but he got there." "He's in it now." "Good boy." "SQUEALS AND LAUGHTER" "Do it on me." "Exploring gender by temporarily stepping across the gender divide can be a really essential tool that children use in working out for themselves what gender really means." "Surprise!" "And zero." "Right, come on over, Kash." "Come and sit down." "Look at me." "# Singing in the rain" "# What a glorious feeling. #" "It's raining." "It's raining." "If it's raining, I'd better get my jacket." "But I love the rain." "Oh, this is the life, isn't it?" "Yeah." "Break time, and Caitlynn and Marley are getting to know each other." "Are you a Muslim?" "No." "A Christian?" "No." "I'm nothing." "I'm nothing either." "I'm just Jamaican and Scottish." "I'm half Scottish and I'm half Jamaican." "I'm half..." "I'm half Japanese and half English." "You actually sound like you're half Japanese." "I am." "Imagine what difference this makes to your social relationships if you are beginning to understand that there's how I see myself and there's how other people see you, and that double agenda." "We are seeing that now in this group of six-year-olds as they play out in their relationships all day long." "I don't have any pets." "I used to." "I used to have a fish, but my mum fed it too much and so it died." "Do you know what?" "I used to have four guinea pigs." "Two of them died," "Two of them." "It looks like they're actually alive, but they're actually, like, ornaments." "They're, like, frozen." "When children are younger, they can sometimes perceive death as temporary or even reversible." "So I had to bury one underground and pray for it." "R..." "RIP." "By age six, children have a much more sophisticated understanding of death, but it still remains a really abstract concept, as it does for many adults." "And what happens to you after you die, do you think?" "Oh, heaven." "And what do you think's in heaven?" "I think some really nice things, and I would, like, go on an aeroplane and when I look through the window, I could see heaven." "We should actually make some smoothies." "Yeah, let's go." "What happens to you after you die?" "You go to heaven." "And then you come back to life, but you're in space." "What do you think heaven's like, then?" "Er," "I don't know cos I haven't seen it." "Everyone sitting back on the benches for me, please." "In the playground, group leader Elvin is preparing to umpire a tug-of-war." "Who's going to be the team captain?" "Shall I tell you now?" "Yes." "OK." "All right," "Phil, would you like to tell us who are going to be team leaders?" "We are going to have Caitlynn, as one, and Beatrice." "Is it a good thing to come first?" "For me, yes." "Beatrice is an only child." "She lives with her parents," "Nancy and Wallace and their dog Daisy in south London." "I think she spends a lot of time in the company of us." "And actually in the company of Radio 4, as well, so, erm, so I suppose that, you know, that she does soak a lot of that in." "That's my mum, that's my dad, that's me." "And that's Queen Victoria, of course, and that's her husband and that's the First World War," "Second World War, or suffragettes." "That's when mummy was born." "Beatrice is not..." "She's got lots of friends but she doesn't..." "She's also quite happy on her own, isn't she?" "She's quite, erm, self-sufficient or self-reliant in that respect." "Within her, there could be a bit of a natural leader." "She certainly doesn't have to beat a drum to, you know, to get people to come to her." "She just is..." "She just has a kind of quiet confidence about her." "TOY BIRD TWEETS" "Beatrice, over that side." "You need to be behind..." "Over that side, Beatrice." "Ready, steady, go." "Pull." "Elvin, Elvin, move back, move back." "You're watching." "This tug-of-war exercise is fantastic because it's teaching us about the really elemental basics of competition and rivalry." "Beatrice's team won!" "Well done, Beatrice." "Competition really brings something out in children." "On your marks, get set, go." "Go." "It gives them a sense of strength and a real kind of agency and a real energy about them." "Caitlynn's team won!" "All right, that's one each." "It's not about winning when you're little." "When you're big, you need to win." "With one point each, it's time for the decider." "On your marks, get set, go." "Go!" "Pull!" "Come on, Beatrice!" "Harder, Xois!" "Oh, come on, Elvin." "Call it, call it." "THEY SCREAM" "Not happy about that, is she?" "Are you crying?" "Was she crying?" "Why don't you ask her what's wrong, Kash?" "What's wrong?" "I'm sad." "Did you want to win?" "Yeah." "Huh?" "Do you know what competitive means?" "Huh?" "Erm, competitive means, erm, you want to win always." "Sometimes I think we need to not protect children quite so much and worry quite so much about what these experiences do, because they have their own cognitions and their own ways of working through it." "They're very resilient in that way." "At the Olympics, erm, they had three winners." "Pardon?" "Don't worry." "I think we'll win next time." "What Beatrice is doing here is, she's describing and labelling the emotions that she's experiencing as she's experiencing them." "I'll try harder next time." "This is a very advanced and sophisticated approach for a child to take." "By doing this, Beatrice is hugely helping herself to learn to control and regulate her emotions." "It's lunchtime and Elouisa has come up with a plan for the afternoon." "Elvin." "Elvin!" "Elvin!" "I'm going to kiss all the boys on the lips." "She said she's going to kiss all the boys." "Oh, please don't kiss me, Elouisa." "Yes." "Urgh." "Please don't put lipstick on to me." "On the..." "Urgh." "SQUEALS AND LAUGHTER" "Part of her motivation here is to gain power over the boys by offering to kiss them." "You're not going to get me." "Yes." "But at this age, it has more currency with some boys than with others." "What do you think of girls?" "Disgusting." "I don't know." "What do you think of girls?" "Er?" "And the look of them is so disgusting." "Aaagh!" "After lunch, Kash wastes no time reminding Elouisa of her promise." "Are you still kiss chasing?" "OK." "Deal?" "Yes." "Ready?" "She's going to kiss chase us." "THEY SCREAM" "I like trying to kiss all the boys." "And Kash on the lips." "Go on!" "Do you like kissing girls?" "No." "Well, sometimes." "She's going kiss our face." "Elouisa tries to kiss me." "Disgusting." "She tries to kiss all of the boys." "On the cheek." "OK." "Don't tell." ""Don't tell!"" "What are the rules of kiss chase?" "Don't kiss on the lips." "But there's an interruption." "Charlie." "Yeah." "Do not tell or I'll do it to you." "She actually done it to me." "Don't tell no-one." "I know the kissing rules." "What?" "If you put lipstick on someone, and if you kiss someone with lipstick on..." "Yes." "Yeah, but I didn't have lipstick." "I know you haven't." "Let's see." "Go on, then." "Well, if you want to, I don't mi..." "I don't care if you do." "I don't care." "This dynamic between Kash and..." "Elouisa." "..is fascinating." "Yeah, it is a fascinating one." "Kash!" "Kash, I actually have fallen in love with you." ""I've fallen in love with you!"" "OK, you can kiss him." "Kiss him first." "But on the lips." "Is this the start of what we see emerging in adolescence?" "You know, have we got it wrong?" "Cos we typically think of, kind of, romantic or sexual development as occurring in adolescence, but actually, is it because we've not watched young children enough to see that actually this emerges a lot younger?" "I think what it is, is they're playing with an idea that they don't really understand yet, so I don't think she really knows what it is to fancy someone." "Yeah." "OK." "I love the fact that whenever Kash has just been kissed, his immediate reaction is, "Right, I'm going to go to sleep now"." "How very..." "How very male." "Out in the playground," "Kash and Elouisa continue to spend time together..." "Can you do this, Elouisa?" "It's really fast." "Might be scared of this one." "..as another friendship is blossoming between Beatrice and Elvin." "Beatrice, can I tell you something?" "This morning, when I was coming here, yeah?" "I said, "Good morning, Beatrice." "How are you?"" "and I couldn't because..." "You didn't know my phone number." "Shall I ask my mum tonight to tell you my mum's phone number?" "OK." "You might want to connect your iPad to my phone because then I'll be able to send you a text message." "I'm really enjoying watching, kind of, Elvin and Beatrice because this is a coming together of minds." "These are two children with quite similar personalities, quite similar approaches." "They're very verbal, in a very calm way." "But, for me, the real contrast is how this compares to Kash and Elouisa's relationship, which is so much more a play out of their personalities." "What did she say?" "I can't say it." "No." "She said..." "Don't tell." "Fine, I'll just do it then." "I'll just do it, I don't care, I'll just do it." "It's Elouisa who's bringing in the language of romance." "She's stumbled across adult phrases like "you're my boyfriend"" "and "we're going to get married"." "Do you want me to be your girlfriend?" "Right, I will, then." "Just do it, then." "I don't care." "But I don't think that it's definitely reflective of Kash's interpretation or understanding of what they kind of do together." "Can you tell me?" "Tell you what?" "Tell me that you don't want to get married." "I do want to get married." "Then I'll just tell my boyfriend, other boyfriend." "So, can you have two boyfriends?" "Is that OK?" "No." "One." "Elouisa lives with her mum and dad and two younger brothers." "What do you want in your sandwich?" "What do you want in your sandwich?" "She's very good at putting herself in other people's shoes, isn't she?" "What do you want in your sandwich?" "She really thinks about what the other person might be thinking and feeling and she takes that right to heart, doesn't she?" "Mm." "I'll finish your sandwich off." "And then you can watch..." "You can watch your film, then I'll come and join you." "She's always wanted to get married, hasn't she?" "She always talks about the boys she likes and who she wants to marry." "Love." "Love is love, love." "But I think that's our fault." "We got married quite young, didn't we?" "So..." "Come on, race!" "Her father, Ashley, is a church minister." "I won!" "He runs the local Sunday school." "She's seen lots of weddings and she enjoys watching a wedding." "# They are marching in the light of God... #" "You always, er..." "Not hype it up, but you always get her excited about weddings by comparing it maybe to a fairytale movie that she would've watched." "# We are marching in the light of God. #" "I've actually married him." "I've got my ring." "KASH SINGS" "So, can you tell me, what did you get for Elouisa then?" "A ring." "And nothing else." "I'm already married to Kash." "BEATRICE SQUEALS" "Who are you married to?" "Kash." "Do you want to get married?" "No, I just want to stay with my mum and dad." "What do you think about boys marrying boys?" "That is so not cool." "They have no children." "But they'll still be happy." "They might be boyfriend and boyfriend." "Where do you think babies come from?" "How many babies would you like to have?" "What, my girlfriend?" "Sometimes you can have three or four or five or six." "One's going to be baby Anna and one's going to be baby Freddie and one's going to be... baby Kevin." "Kash!" "Kash!" "Now that the news is public..." "Watch this." "Elouisa!" "..an embarrassed Kash has a change of heart..." "Open your mouth." "THEY LAUGH" "..and decides to end their marriage." "I'm already married to you." "Elouisa and Kash have moments where they get along and they get moments where they completely repel each other." "Elouisa, can I tell you something?" "Yeah." "Don't call me your boyfriend any more." "It's the real energy, if you like, of a relationship - animated, energised, big highs, big lows." "That is not a great basis or foundation for a relationship, a friendship, any kind of dynamic." "It's the afternoon and the girls are playing in the sandpit." "Let's dig deep." "Dig." "Dig." "Dig." "Dig." "Inside, a sweet machine has been left in the playroom with special instructions." "Oh, sweets!" "Smarties!" "THEY SCREAM WITH EXCITEMENT" ""Don't touch!" "For later." It's for later." "Look at Elvin's moral compass." "He's saying..." "Straight away, it's for later." "Uh-oh." "THEY LAUGH" "His first look is to the teacher." "Has she come in?" "Has anyone come in?" "Exactly." "You know, he's really aware." "Oh!" "Oh, no!" "Kash did that on purpose." "THEY ALL SQUEAL" "Oh, no!" "But straight away, Elvin is managing the group, look." "But, OK, we can put them inside there, come on." "Get Smarties and put them in there." "Come on, help quickly." "No!" "No!" "It's really powerful to watch how each of them responds to the idea of broken rules and what you do in response to that." "Beatrice is going to be so mad with me." "And then she wouldn't want to be my friend again." "You need to put loads in." "That's why I'm tipping everything in." "So we get even more." "Kash is quite relaxed about the idea, really." "He understands the sweets are on the floor - he's chomping his way through them." "He's in complete contrast to Elvin, who is now doing what we call catastrophizing, so completely assuming the worst." "Elvin seems to have completely taken the consequences to heart." "So the emotional consequences," ""Someone's going to be disappointed in me, I've let people down,"" "really sophisticated emotional thinking." "What about we say when we came in the classroom we were so shocked they were already in the floor?" "No!" "We have to tell the truth." "If we tell a lie, we'll be even in more trouble." "What is it about these two boys, that one of them cares a great deal about the outcome and the other one doesn't?" "Ohh!" "I don't care any more." "I think what really underpins this is their experience of consequences." "This is fascinating because teachers and parents will tell you, for some children you need to absolutely be volcanic in your expression to them - voice, face, body language." "With Elvin, a very quiet, "I'm quite disappointed in you,"" "is going to have exactly the same effect." "Isn't that so interesting?" "It's this age that those differences start to become really clear." "This is like a nightmare, a bad dream." "I-I didn't touch it, because I was just walking in and then... and then I saw it coming out." "And I saw it, as well." "30 minutes ago, the children were left with a full sweet machine... but now, it's empty." "Come and just take a seat on the carpet, guys, you can tell me about it." "When I was running to it like this, yeah," "I accidentally fell and banged it." "When we were coming in, someone accidentally...twist it." "I didn't." "Yes, you did." "I didn't." "You did." "I didn't!" "I saw, you did." "I didn't." "He did." "Stop arguing, guys!" "Just let him say his part." "Er, someone just twisted it and then, er, and then, er, it..." "A little bit..." "I twisted it, I'm the one who twisted it." "Kash is very..." "It's very brave of Kash to stick up his hand and say, "I did it," isn't it?" "He's really taking full responsibility." "Yeah." "I'm the one who twisted it and made all of them come out." "Was that on purpose, did you twist it on purpose?" "There's almost something kind of macho about it, like, "I'll take all the blame on my shoulders."" "Who thinks I done it on purpose, now?" "Why is everyone thinking I done it on purpose?" "I'm not." "Because..." "I'll just put this one in my mouth." "Er, did you, did you..." "No more." "Right, miss." "Did you touch it because you wanted to eat the sweets?" "No." "I didn't." "Don't tell a lie, guys." "I only had one." "Kash, did you eat a single sweet?" "I swear on God's life and Jesus's life and Go..." "God's mum's life." "That you did not eat a single sweet?" "No." "Mary's life." "Yeah, Mary." "Right." "Elvin, did you eat a sweet?" "No." "I swear he didn't." "He didn't." "Casper, did you eat a sweet?" "I only..." "I only ate one and I saw Kash chewing some sweets..." "Saw Kash chewing some sweets?" "I just chew..." "I just took one, that's it." "No, he put loads in his mouth, then he went..." "So, Kash, did you eat some sweets or did you not eat any sweets?" "No, that is such a lie, I only ate one." "Kash!" "I ate three." "Three." "Kash, so did you eat SOME sweets or not eat any at all?" "I just ate three, so am I allowed some more, because I already like, ate a little bit, like?" "So what should be the consequence?" "He don't get any, and the rest of the class get some." "That's what you think, Casper?" "Kash, what do you think should happen?" "Well, like I..." "Ow." "Shall I just take it out, then?" "Take it out, yeah." "Just punish me, don't punish them." "So you want..." "Do you just want to take the punishment, whatever it is, you want...?" "Don't punish them, just punish me, because I'm the one who done it." "Urgh, aah!" "Whoa!" "You'll have to replace my brain, cos my brain's not working." "With brain surgery under way in the hospital corner..." "Oh, I was cleaning under the table." "..Kash serves his punishment." "Ah..." "When you crack open my skull, try to get the old brain out, put the new brain in." "Now you have to plop the new brain back in." "Beatrice!" "Coming!" "Having spent most of the week together," "Beatrice and Elvin's relationship is going from strength to strength." "So what we're here for..." "Sit down, because I'm going to the beach for six days." "SHARP INTAKE OF BREATH" "Dun-dun-dun!" "But..." "But luckily, next week I'm going swimming." "Oh, I..." "I passed my swimming test." "'There's something really mutual, really reciprocal about 'the relationship between Elvin and Beatrice,' they sort of get each other." "Could you hear it squeaking?" "'They work really hard to understand each other, they're both 'quite sophisticated communicators.'" "Whee...!" "'And I think that's the real' bedrock of their relationship, the way they talk." "Check!" "Check." "BOTH:" "Five, four, three, two, one." "Go!" "'One of the things that's really lovely' is how sensitive they are to one another's emotions." "Put your head in in case I..." "In case that's the one that's going to go on the floor, because then it could bash your head." "So tell me about your friend, Elvin." "He's nice." "Very nice." "Are you OK, Beatrice?" "'Why do you like to be friends with Beatrice?" "'" "Because she helps people." "What makes Elvin a good friend, do you think, Beatrice?" "Good games!" "Welcome on board this Southeastern service to..." "Nunhead." "Nunhead?" "LAUGHTER" "Nunhead?" "!" "LAUGHTER" "Nunhead!" "LAUGHTER" "That's a..." "That's actually a real station in London." "Nunhead!" "It's the end of the week and the children are electing a group leader for the last time." "Everyone, stop messing about and just pick your group leader." "Kash has been campaigning all week, but without success." "Elvin, who do you want to be the group leader, Kash or..." "Charlie M." "Who votes for me?" "Who votes for me?" "Who v..." "Who votes for Charlie M?" "Three, four, five..." "So it means that Charlie M's the leader." "I think Kash is probably scratching his head and saying," ""How is it that I'm not the leader?"" "because he does have a degree 'of popularity, he does have a degree of presence.'" "Why didn't you vote for me?" "Why isn't no-one my friend here?" "Kash has got a bit of a mixed reputation in the group, you know, he's a real character, he's a real joiner-in, but sometimes his behaviour is outside of what is expected or what is desired, and at this age" "the children are old enough to think about, "Well," ""is that going to be a good leader?"" "Why don't no-one vote for me?" "So I think, quite unconsciously actually, they're thinking, "Um," ""is he the safest pair of hands?" Possibly not." "Hello!" "Be careful." "Hands on the window." "Out of all the children," "Kash's most remarkable attribute is his resilience." "He's sensitive enough to be able to feel a setback, but strong enough to be able to get back up on his feet afterwards." "Conga, conga, conga." "And that combination of qualities is what I think is going to serve him really well in his later life." "Say hello...to Kash, the superstar!" "Yeah!" "It's nearly home time and the children have written leaving cards for each other." "To Elvin, I love you," "I wish I can marry you," "I will miss you very much." "From Casper." "To Charlie M," "I will miss you, from Kash." "Dear Beatrice," "I will miss you, but I'm going to the beach so I can get you some sea shells, love from your best friend, Elvin." "Kiss, kiss, kiss." "Dear Elvin," "I enjoyed you there..." "here, love, Beatrice." "These children are going through the process of working out who they are by noticing how they interact as a part of a group, by observing how they differ from their peers and by starting to explore adult concepts such as romantic love." "What they learn by doing this will serve them very well for the future." "Cos these are many of the challenges that we still face as adults." "LAUGHTER" "Next time, the six-year-olds confront the adult world." "There was a train attack on a train to Paris." "And it even killed the conductor." "International terrorism is now becoming a theme of...of play amongst six-year-olds." "Hey, girls." "An exclusive girls' club is formed." "Do you want to help us get ready?" "Oh, yeah." "You don't need to talk like that." "I can if I want." "And Elvin faces rejection." "Yeah, but I thought I was Beatrice's best friend." "It's not fair." "Subtitles by Ericsson"